I called my group of friends to see what they are up to tonight since its friday night. NONE of them answered their phones....I called 7 of them and all of them didnt answer and have not called me back. Then I heard they all went out for the night. This has been an ongoing problem. I'm afraid to confront them because they're my only friends....i dont know what to do. Please give me some suggestions.
2007-03-23 14:26:21 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It sounds like its time to find new friends. If they wanted you around they would have invited you along.
2007-03-23 14:31:28 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been with the same situation before...just evaluate yourself as person when you're with them, the way you say things and how you mingle with them, so you would know if you did go beyond their expectation as their friend...but if you think you did not offend anyone in your group, just look at the positive side that it is a wake up call that friends come and friends go...so need not be afraid of being alone or losing them..the question is are they worth to be your friends? i believe you have a kind heart and a good friend..along the way you'll find people that will not leave you behind but will stick to you for a very long time...
2007-03-23 21:40:22 · answer #2 · answered by parvati 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find some new friends. This group obviously does not want to include you in all their outings. If seeing them only when they feel like it is okay with you, keep trying to call. When you do get a hold of one of them, bluntly ask what the problem is.
Bottom line. Don't try to or want to hang around with a bunch of people who are avoiding you and don't have the courage to tell you they don't really like you.
2007-03-23 21:35:45 · answer #3 · answered by friendlyadvice 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi.. i think you need to confront them, what is the use of unfaithful friends... talk to them at least to make thinga clear to your self, you may hear some nonsence and weak answers but inside you, you will feel the truth of why they did that....i guess you know the truth is better than faking friendships
i'll tell you a personal story, 3 years ago i had too many friends.. till i found out that they go places and say stuff behind my back.. back then i didn't know any one but them but what they did really upset me so i decided to tell them that and i got the biggest shock in my life they were lying about every thing and giving me stupied excuses so i decided to let it go and leave them.. you know not the best friends as we uesd to but in one month i made more friends because i was right and they were mean to me
so if they are mean with you, move on.. you deserve better than this
Good Luck
2007-03-23 21:45:07 · answer #4 · answered by Princess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They may not be as much your friends as you thought. If this sort of thing happens kind of regularly I think they're trying to tell you something. On the other hand, maybe you don't initiate things as much as others. Do you regularly go to one or two people's houses to hang out, but rarely go to yours? I fell into that trap for a while and things really changed when I started making the plans and inviting people to my place. Good luck.
2007-03-23 21:33:41 · answer #5 · answered by finra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like they would include you in there plans if they where your friends. Try to find some new friends that you and they have the same interests. A true friend will be there for you and you for them! There are probably allot of people who want to be your friend ,don't limit yourself to one group.Keep yourself open to new friends always,people walk into our lives and sometimes for no reason they walk out,just keep trying. I promise you will meet some very good friends.True friends!
2007-03-23 21:47:47 · answer #6 · answered by beverly c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey yeah i think that you should confront. if they were really your friends then they should of called you and answered there phones! but just ask one of them first to see what they said. but be cool about it.
2007-03-23 22:06:52 · answer #7 · answered by cassie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this may hurt but if they wanted 2 hang wit u they would hav invited u so they dont like u very much... if they R ur only friends then u need 2 B more open 2 others!!!
2007-03-23 21:37:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to new people and become friends with others then when you have plans and they want you to come with be like and what about those other times i wasnt good enough then? it'd be great and confronting also helping you make new friends and showing people that your hardcore and wont take crap from anyone =] good luck
2007-03-23 21:32:33 · answer #9 · answered by jc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they're not answering their phones, not getting back to you, or not even asking you to get out with them...they're not your friends. i know how much it hurts for this to be heard but if they're being jerks like that, they're not your real friends. i am sooo srry to have to tell you this...good luck
2007-03-23 21:35:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋