he was murdered. No funeral, no burial, I never got to say goodbye to him. He was such a great friend I loved him like a brother and to this day I can't stop thinking about him.
2007-03-23 14:24:22 · 10 answers · asked by cutiepie81289 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
you never saw the body, you still can't believe he's gone.
he was a great friend- you miss him.
but it's OK, cause you don't wanna forget him just cAUSE HE'S DEAD, do you?
It's OK.
death takes away the body, it doesn't take soul away. Maybe he is still near to you.
2007-03-23 14:30:00 · answer #1 · answered by Sweet_summer_breeze 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you keep remembering all the good times you had with him?? Great friends are few and far between sometimes and you like to cherish the times you do have together. It's not uncommon for you to feel this way at all, especially if he was so special to you that he was practically family. I moved away a long time ago from this one neighborhood when I was small and next door there lived my best friend Nicole. We would spend a lot of time together, and just play together and have no other care in the world. I Loved her(what I thought was love at the time) and I still think about her to this very day. I know how you feel even though Nicole wasn't killed. I'm sorry about your loss.
2007-03-23 14:33:47 · answer #2 · answered by poetry_dreamer2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you never had closure. That's what funerals are for. You're never going to forget him because you loved him. You can say goodbye anytime, though. You can let him go to rest in peace by saying goodbye and accepting his death. Maybe you need to forgive his murderer. Maybe you have more to say than just goodbye. Don't be afraid to talk to him now and tell what you have been longing to say all these years. I wish you peace.
2007-03-23 14:34:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is perfectly normal for you to still be thinking about him. You suffered a loss, and without being able to say goodbye you had no sense of closure. But I hope you are still able to go on with your daily life. Maybe you should try some couseling?
2007-03-23 14:29:14 · answer #4 · answered by queenb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even though your friend died over 19 yrs ago you have not come to terms with it & said goodbye thats why he is still on your mind & heart. why hasn't he been buried after all this time? what has happened to his body? another thought is perhaps he's trying to contact you about his murder to get it solved & put him to rest. that happens quite a bit.
2007-03-23 14:41:38 · answer #5 · answered by audrey_halley2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go into a relaxed, meditative state. Tell him silently how you felt about him, how you felt when he was murdered, and tell him how much you miss him. Don't be surprised if you hear a message back in your head and your heart.
Don't stop thinking about him, but think about him alive. Carry the memories of him and the love you felt for him. Do not carry the memory of his death. Carry the memory of his life and honor his life
2007-03-23 14:31:33 · answer #6 · answered by friendlyadvice 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have built him up in your mind. Kinda like when everyone says how great a movie is going to be and then you go see it and it is ok but not that great, and he was a friend. Sometimes a good friend is hard to find.
2007-03-23 14:28:32 · answer #7 · answered by greenfrogs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you think about your friend to much because he was really close to you and you loved him. And its really not a bad thing that you miss him because you loved him and face it, it is really hard to 4get someone like that. Trust me i miss my grandma i always think of her because i miss her but i think of the good times don't think of the bad times.And did u ever think that u loved him more than a friend or brother?
2007-03-23 14:44:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Y'all must of been truly Great Friends. you still have feelings for him.
2007-03-23 14:28:07 · answer #9 · answered by caublenick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because he meant something to you.. see a therapist or run because when i run it makes everything in my mind go away so i run for a long time.. and i'm sorry about your friend
2007-03-23 14:28:01 · answer #10 · answered by jc 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋