There is this autistic guy in my grade (im 13) and he... well... he looks up girls skirts. I know this sounds wierd... but he does! We were told to just say, "No. Stop." and then he will reply, "no touching." I don't know what to do. This is really freaking me out and making girls uncomfortable!
Plus, we just went over sexual harrassment in school, and this falls under that category! does it count if the harrasser is autistic?
I really am not trying to sound mean. I'm just wondering if i should do anything about it, because i really want it to stop.
thanks.
2007-03-23 14:19:23 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
P.S- We told the teacher that helps him... and she's the one who told us to say no. She knows what's going on... but it keeps happening.
2007-03-23 14:36:34 · update #1
You and the other girls should not have to feel uncomfortable around him. It's up to the parents & teachers to teach him to stop that behavior...not you ladies.
Even tho he is autistic....you girls have the right not to have you skirts lifted.
Yes, you should do something about it. Talk to the principal or the guidance counselor.
2007-03-23 14:23:35 · answer #1 · answered by Sunshine Queen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Autism is no excuse for sexual harassment. Tell your mom and tell the other girls to tell their moms. Report each incident to your mom and write it down on a paper with date, time and where it happened and who was there. When you have three girls who are fed up with feeling freaked out, maybe the moms and girls can talk to the school councelor. There is power in numbers and one girl is easy to wave aside, but three girls with the same problem are hard to ignore. This young man has to learn what is acceptable behavior and this isn't! It would be best if the school was the one to tell his parents. You are not being mean. You expect to be respected just as you respect the autistic person.
2007-03-23 21:33:32 · answer #2 · answered by ricketyoldbat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's autistic, I don't think that it really counts. I have autistic kids at my school( I'm 14) but they always have a teacher or a parent with. But they really can't look up girls skirts because all the girls wear jeans.
Red
2007-03-23 21:27:52 · answer #3 · answered by RED VIPER 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well just because he is Autistic doesn't mean he can't be a perv. I would definatley tell someone but he may need special treatment. Talk to you school counceler. It all depends on if he can respond to being corrected. Until then if he makes you uncomfortable don't wear skirts and try being assertive NOT agressive with him. Don't feel bad about it. We are all entitled to feel safe and comforatable in school. Take care good luck with your situation.
2007-03-23 21:25:11 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
since the boy is autistic then you sort of have to TRY to overlook it. i know that you said you have been trying to and its really bothering you but also factor in how long he's been doing it and how long you may have to deal with it. is the boy getting off by doing this to girls? you may not feel it is your responsibility but you would be helping him by trying to cope with his problem. he can only be helped by being put in the situation. but if it is entirely to hard for you to cope with then address it with your parents and the proper officials to have him moved (or you) to another classroom setting. i just think that he must not have that bad of a problem if they placed him in a normal setting(assuming all the other students could handle it). please take into account that this boy cannot help that he is autistic. some behaviors is just a result of it.
2007-03-23 21:34:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let an authority figure know whats happening and not one thats already told you to just ignore it, because those ppl are plan down right stupid to tell a 13 yr old girl to ignore an issue like that, autistic or not, that kids parents need to home school him or the principal needs to make the parents un enroll him thats not something to just overlook because of his handicap
2007-03-23 21:28:38 · answer #6 · answered by Rºññèè 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he doesn't listen report it to the police, a teacher or the principal that is sexual harassment tell him that u can file a police report and send him to jail 4 up to 6months if u have enough reports or witnesses be careful around him u might get rape TELL SOME ONE ABOUT THIS
or wear pants that's easier but then he might look at Ur asss
2007-03-23 21:27:29 · answer #7 · answered by `Avenging~ghetto~bird` 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its ok to ask that question. hes autistic so he cant help it. my advice is to not wear a skirt. and if you see any other (normal) guys telling him to do so the tell a teacher.
2007-03-23 21:23:43 · answer #8 · answered by purplegrape 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the principal, he needs to be in a different learning environment. He is sexually harassing you although obviously he can't help it. His i.e.p. needs to be re evaluated. Tell your parents so they can maybe call the school and file a complaint with the principal. I would not like my daughter to have to deal with these kinds of issues on her own.
2007-03-23 21:25:00 · answer #9 · answered by Chrissy #1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not confront the boy about the problem. He needs to be talked to by an adult who better understands him and his situation. You should talk to a teacher you feel comfortable with or your guidance counselor. Just tell him/her what you wrote above, and I'm sure he/she will be glad to help.
2007-03-23 21:24:30 · answer #10 · answered by Amanda D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋