when i first went out with my bf, i have problem trusting men bcoz of the past experience, so i wasnt very open to him.. but as time goes on, our relationship grows stronger n i did tell him a lot about my past. when i went away for holidays n asked him to look after my house. i hide away my journal n stuffs coz i afraid he'll read it as my parents used to do that 2. n i told him not to touch my personal things n he promised he wont. when i came back from my trip i saw the things has moved. i confronted him. he said he did read my journal but its bcoz he wanna find out my past n whether i've cheated on him. he quoted the things i wrote n said i didnt tell him the whole truth. i told him he abused my trust n invaded my privacy. he said it's bcoz im not open to him at the 1st place. he said he'll forgive me n wanna get back together. do u think he's son of a b*tch? can he b trusted? should i go back to him? should i remain friends or just kick him out of my life completely?
2007-03-23 13:56:25 · 8 answers · asked by miaow 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Just because someone says "don't read my diary" doesn't mean they are hiding something bad. He didn't trust you so he broke his promise. don't get back together with someone that doesn't trust you.
2007-03-23 14:29:59 · answer #1 · answered by Sunshine Queen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you have valid grievances. On one hand, if you weren't open with him, he did have a reason to be concerned. Alternately, it was wrong for him to snoop in your journal. When you told him not to touch your personal things, that probably aroused his curiosity. Next time, maybe you should hide the things and not mention them. But I can understand why you'd be upset because I know if my bf read any of my journals, I'd be hacked off. As long as you are not cheating on your partner, there is no need to feel guilty for having private thoughts. It's healthy. However, your relationship probably won't be. Your question implies what you think of him. On the Richter scale, I wouldn't say this is the worst thing a boyfriend could do. Nevertheless, you probably won't be able to trust him, so it might be best to break up with him due to the effect his actions will have on the relationship. You never know, he could become controlling later on down the line. Above all, trust your instincts and weigh the importance of this incident versus your relationship as a whole. Best of luck!
2007-03-23 14:29:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to understand that if you have a journal and you make him promise not to look in it, it makes it seem like your hiding something from him... How would you feel in the same situation? Put yourself in his shoes, he probably didn't trust you either which is why he did it, not to spy not to be a son of a b*itch, but to see if you cheated on him. Why? Because it would probably hurt him if he did, which means he likes you.
Now should you go back to him, or remain friends or whatever, that is completely your choice, try not to think too heavily on this, because this situation relys on the brain, and you want to listen to your heart.
2007-03-23 14:01:54 · answer #3 · answered by dieselmave40 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What an azzhole, I feel that since you asked him not to get into your personal belongings and he did anyways.... if i was in your position, I would kick him to the curb for all he is worth. Maybe you were not ready to come out with some of the things you have not told him, There are alot of things i have not yet told my man, and he knows that, but he has not yet invaded my privacy, he said he will wait until the time is right, because when that time comes he knows i will come and tell him what i feel he needs to know at the time. So leave him.. you do not need to be invaded like that. if he beggs for you back....do me a favor and laugh at him, and tell him that maybe next time, he will learn to treat a real girl the way she is suppose to be treated. because you never know, it is a proven fact that if in the beginning a man snoops and gets in to your private belongings, it will eventually get worse, to where he will control who you see where you go, who you talk to what you wear...and he will act as you are his puppet. get out while you can!!! You are no where in the wrong............good luck
2007-03-23 14:06:31 · answer #4 · answered by tuffchevy86 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 11:32:09 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT A LITTLE FU*CKER ....it wont be the same trust me and u would have to waste a lot of time to get it back to where it was. and also you should have bin open with him from the start.
guys like girls who are honest yo!
2007-03-23 14:00:07 · answer #6 · answered by blazzingred30 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop throwing in the towel so fast, this is just a little trifle, honest.
2007-03-23 14:07:50 · answer #7 · answered by netthiefx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just like everyone say don't trush no one
2007-03-23 13:59:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋