My friend thinks she's fat and ugly. She's really absolutly gorgeous. I don't know what to say to let her know that. I've told her and she thanks me, but then she says how upset she is that no clothes fit her. I'm going to take her shopping so she'll have a good time, but what can I do/say to make her feel better?
2007-03-23 13:54:36 · 10 answers · asked by smile and don't stop 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I asked a group of my friends (all women), "would you rather be beautiful to yourself and see a gorgeous person whenever you look in the mirror but when everyone sees you they see this ugly person or be the most gorgeous specimen walking the planet to everyone but whenever you look in the mirror, you see a hideous person?" All of them (12 in total) chose the first.
I think even though we are heavily influenced by what people think, our own opinions weigh more. So even if a thousand people tell your friend that she's gorgeous, if she doesn't see that, then she won't believe it. It's hard not to be able to help a friend when you want to but she needs to be able to look in the mirror and not think such negative things about herself. Having a good friend like you probably helps boost her self-esteem though.
Also, if you are going to take her shopping, I would take her to a store where you know the sizes match what she usually wears. For instance, one store's size 6 is another store's size 8 and if she's feeling fat, then the last thing you want to do is take her into a store and she tries on a pair of jeans in the size she usually wears and they are too small. Just a side note... I've done it before and it's kind of depressing.
2007-03-23 14:02:32 · answer #1 · answered by olomaya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep on loving her and give her your support and listening ear. Sounds like you are a really great friend! Wish I had one right now.
2007-03-23 13:58:59 · answer #2 · answered by Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Different gender?
Ask her out and compliment her a lot.
Same gender?
Get a guy to call her gorgeous.
2007-03-23 13:58:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
***tell her that she is normal and she should be grateful...just look at all the people with syndromes ,and weird sicknesses, and deformed faces...
she should be grateful.and all she needs is to be confident in herself...she must accept how she looks and just live life happy...
WHO CARES WHAT PEOPLE SAY ABOUT HER it shouldn't affect her
2007-03-23 14:01:49 · answer #4 · answered by VICIOUS_CuPcAkE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant. She either has an eating disorder or she is just ANNOYING and loves to FISH FOR COMPLIMENTS....one day, just be like "oh really? yea you are" and then when she flips out screaming, "why did you say that, how could you" and crying, you can say "well wtf do you want me to say? i say no everytime and you insist, so ****...quit bein a fisher"
2007-03-23 14:00:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a group of people u kno and tell them that when ever they see her compliment her on watever's good about her. that will get her self-esteem up.
2007-03-23 13:59:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
send me a picture and i'll be the judge of that
2007-03-23 14:01:30 · answer #7 · answered by sn_dvr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kiss her and make her feel good inside. that always lifts up a girls self-esteem.
or hook or up with someone!
2007-03-23 13:58:08 · answer #8 · answered by blazzingred30 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
send her picture to www.amihot.com.
2007-03-23 14:00:50 · answer #9 · answered by Scott 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well........................is she?
2007-03-23 14:49:16 · answer #10 · answered by jelly bean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋