i would love to go vist my family but, i was in a abusive marriage (not any more) they know about it but i never told them that he had knocked some of my teeth out and broke my noise,
I look bad. Its been awhile my looks have changed alot. I don't want to live though talking about how bad i look. I wish i had money to improve my looks but i don't. Should i just forget going back home. I havn't seen them in 14 yrs. Any suggestions? Thanks
2007-03-23 13:48:46 · 6 answers · asked by sue 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
thanks for all your kind words. I think your all right, I'm gonna make plans to go. thanks
2007-03-23 15:00:49 · update #1
I am so sorry, you went through that. Congratulations on escaping with your life! What a victory for you. As for your appearance, if it was one of my daughters, or cousins, I would just be happy to see them again. Even if you look like you have been ran through the mill. You are a winner! You are a survivor! Go see your family! It sounds like you could use some support right now. When they ask, tell them the bare minimum, or whatever you are comfortable with. Do not be ashamed, you have nothing to be ashamed of! You are a valuable person with incredible worth! You have nothing to be ashamed of. You have a testimony to give. You are a winner! God bless you!
2007-03-23 13:57:23 · answer #1 · answered by cunhvn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How great you've pulled your life together--congratulations. It's too bad you can't get the money to deal with your looks, but as they say, it's what's inside.
But, that said--how happy will you be to see them? How much does it mean to see them? If you really miss them, just try to figure out how to defend yourself from any nasty cracks and go. You deserve it.
If you don't think it will be a happy experience for you, don't go just because they're family. If it's going to be a bad experience, then wait a while. It doesn't mean you won't ever see them, but wait for a few months and think again about your decision.
I wish you all the best in the world.
2007-03-23 20:55:19 · answer #2 · answered by emmesokol57 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about how you look. They will be so happy to see you ALIVE that they will not even think about how you look. That's what's important-you have your life. Go and see them before it's too late. My family members are dying so quickly and we live in the same city and I seldom see them unless it's a funeral. Let them know that you are all right-a little bit bruised and scarred but you are all right. Just throw your arms around them and love them. They will do the same to you. Thank God you are out of that marriage. Now it's time to live your life. Good Luck!
2007-03-30 21:58:07 · answer #3 · answered by beaddiva 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should be proud of yourself for getting out of the abusive marriage, you are a survivor and have made it through a very tough time, your family will love and accept you no matter what it doesn't make a difference what you look like and you don't have to go into any details about the things that have happened to you if you don't want to, if you feel good about yourself then they will see that regardless of what you look like on the outside....
2007-03-27 18:40:32 · answer #4 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur look is not a problem,is ur wounded heart that needs to improve!!!
family r the closest one on earth tat will not give up us no matter how much we change
go back home,let the warm n concerns in the family touches you again
all the best to you,take care
2007-03-23 21:00:33 · answer #5 · answered by Nicole J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should go, for the most part your family probably just want to see you as well. They probably won't judge you.
2007-03-31 20:10:35 · answer #6 · answered by urban guru 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋