women do u think this is fair?(read the whole thing before answering)?

Question

i'm 18 years old. most women consider guys my age to be at their sexual prime, so when guys around my age hit on a women in her late 20s and older, she will feel so flattered and be really nice about it and flirt back(and will probably wish she could take them home, but wouldn't because of it being socially unacceptable).

of course this only applies to guys who actually have the 'cute teenage boy' look. not only am i not cute, but i look like i could be in my mid 20s. so when i hit on older women thtey either act like it's nothing special and ignore me OR they act like i'm being ridiculous and that i should know better. is this at all fair? guys my age and younger get this really warm response, and that's what i get?

SECOND QUESTION: what do the rest of you think of stormsinger1's shallow response?

by the way i'm not talking about dating, i'm talking about sexual attraction. of course women don't wanna DATE younger guys.

tlbrown: true, but if you're cute, you don't HAVE TO be a good flirt. when most women encounter a cute teenage boy(looking like Sanjaya or Shawn White, or Ron from the Harry Potter movies) they automatically think he's cute and adorable and not a creepy pervert. However for guys who don't have that look, they have to be smooth or women will feel creeped out by them.

i don't think any of you understand what i'm saying or asking. first off, I AM NOT TALKING ABOUT DATING. very few older women want to date a teenager. i am talking about SEXUAL attraction. if you're one of those women, who never really thinks about sex, this doesn't apply to you. but for women who do like flirting and messing around, i believe that this holds true. i can't imagine a woman getting offended or creeped out if a guy with the 'cute high school boy' look hit on her. but for guys who actually look grown up, unless they're among those few really attractive guys, the woman will DEFINITELY NOT react

i don't think any of you understand what i'm saying or asking. first off, I AM NOT TALKING ABOUT DATING. very few older women want to date a teenager. i am talking about SEXUAL attraction. if you're one of those women, who never really thinks about sex, this doesn't apply to you. but for women who do like flirting and messing around, i believe that this holds true. i can't imagine a woman getting offended or creeped out if a guy with the 'cute high school boy' look hit on her. but for guys who actually look grown up, unless they're among those few really attractive guys, the woman will DEFINITELY NOT react

i don't think any of you understand what i'm saying or asking. first off, I AM NOT TALKING ABOUT DATING. very few older women want to date a teenager. i am talking about SEXUAL attraction. if you're one of those women, who never really thinks about sex, this doesn't apply to you. but for women who do like flirting and messing around, i believe that this holds true. i can't imagine a woman getting offended or creeped out if a guy with the 'cute high school boy' look hit on her. but for guys who actually look grown up, unless they're among those few really attractive guys, the woman will DEFINITELY NOT react kindly.

Answer 1

Oh, NOW I get it. Your "all women prefer teenage boys" obsession is just a simple case of projection. YOU prefer older women, but THEY want nothing to do with you because of your (admitted) poor looks.

Answer 2

What I'm reading here is that you'd like to be able to depend on your attractiveness to women, older and younger. And you kind of resent the attraction between women and "other" men. You would like to feel attractive.

You have a lot going for you.

First, you are articulate, and that is a big plus. Build on that skill especially because it will come in extremely handy in the right company.

Second, you have observation skills, even if they are a bit one-sided. Practice seeing some of the good things in yourself. You tend to knock yourself quite a bit, and people may take you at your word.

Third, you seem to know that you don't have what you want. Twist that into knowing what you intend. You can't intend someone else, so focus on making you what you find attractive.

And if you are hitting on women unsuccessfully, is there a chance that they are not quite sure you are hitting on them? Do you say, "Can I buy you dinner?" or "You are very attractive"

One of those is a compliment. The other is a strategic way to get one-on-one time with a woman and find out about her.

And there will be those who say no. Accept it graciously because women network. You only have to be an a**hole to one and the entire female community will be on guard.

Lighten up a little and flirt for the sake of fun.

*Wink*

Hope this helps

Live well~

Answer 3

Sorry, but I have to agree with stormsomething "shallow" answer, as you put it! I was wondering why you had asked that many questions!

So, for those women who would want to have sex with someone younger, well, physical attraction would be a minimum, I suppose! So, if you're not good looking, then, no, you won't get any!

Of course, if you're average looking, you might need to chat her up a bit more, and be interesting, etc. Given that you've been asking the same questions and don't seem to understand, I'd think that you're not really smart, so you don't really stand a chance.

Honestly, 18 would be WAAAY to young for me (I'm 27). I don't go for younger guys. They just look cute at best.
I just felt like being honest and mean, today!

Answer 4

As an older guy who has dated younger women this is easy. I has been said that males tend to be 4 years less mentally mature than a women their same age. When you get older you will see how mature or immature most 18 or even 22 year old guys comes across as being. I speak from experience, I was one once. Also, you asking from a hook up point of view. Although there are lots of easy women out there, women tend to look for someone who can take care of them - which would eliminate almost any 18 year old male + top it off with the embarrassment of a older girl taking an 18 year old guy home - if her friends found out.

Answer 5

I think you have the wrong point of view to these situations. For one thing, you think late 20's for a woman is so old that she should be flattered for an 18 year old to be flirting with her? If that's your opinion that's one reason you are bombing out. And you believe that women in thier late 20's are so interested in finding a guy in 'their sexual prime' that she would be automatically drawn to an 18 year old boy? That's not what women are looking for as thier number one reason to pick a man. And if a woman is in her late twenties and is flirting with an 18 year old and wants to take him home...trust me...she will. She's old enough to not give a damn about 'society' and it's not the big deal you are making it out to be. Dear Lord, who said life is 'fair'? You do not have to be 'cute' to be a good flirt. It's an art...it can be learned. And realize too...a woman in her late 20's has been around long enough that if you are not a good flirt, she won't bother. And your friends think that these women would 'take them home'? if they haven't been taken they were not thought of that way. Don't you know that these women would think these 'kids' are cute, and be warm and friendly but in there minds they are amused not attracted. They can be just playing the game.

Answer 6

Well, I can't speak for all women, but I'm in my late 20's and I wouldn't flirt back with a teenager, and don't know any other women who would either. Men our own age are immature enough. We certainly don't want younger men who are even more immature.

Generally, and no offense, but teenage boys aren't the best in bed. They are awkward and inexperienced, and haven't really figured out yet how to please a woman, so it's not really that appealing to have sex with a teenage boy.

I also wouldn't feel flattered if a younger man hit on me. I'm not that old yet. I guess maybe I just don't agree that there are any women in there 20's who are turned on by any "cute" teenager who wants to have sex with them, so I may not be the best person to answer your questions. I don't know why it really matters to you anyways. Why don't you just hit on women your own age, if you don't like the way older women are treating you?

Answer 7

It's not about the cute innocent look. Every woman has her set of likes. If you don't give off the cuddly and cute vibe, then work on your own personal mojo. Look at who you are and what you can offer up that is attractive. Do you have your own style? Do you flirt like sex is the number one thing on your mind? You may have some thought changes to consider. Ask for some suggestions from a relative or a friend. Believe me, there are plenty of girls to go around, millions of them. Best of luck to you!!

Answer 8

Darling Boy,
Your fantasies are clouding your judgment.
Women do not find you nearly as fascinating as you do them, despite your youth. Women are not usually obsessed with sex as you are. It is a part of being an 18 year old male.
We here on YA are a bit weary of your humdrum posts asking us to affirm how delectable you are to older women.
I know this topic is probably on your mind nearly 24/7. Maybe writing in a journal and being as free with your fantasies as you like, is the answer.
Have you given any thought to how humiliated you will be in a few years looking back on how many times you've asked the same question in a different guise?
I have a recommendation for a film for you ..."Cold Tree County". The ' Doogie Howser' guy and Faye Dunway star in it, and I'll bet you'd consider it a classic. There's a really great scene in "Little Big Man" with Dustin Hoffman and Faye Dunway that addresses the whole Older Woman/Younger Guy thing, as well. There are legions of films with that theme.
Watch them in your spare time and spare us your projections, please.
In the meantime, why not read and ask questions that will enlighten you and prepare you for meeting and dating real women?
Good luck

Answer 9

How did you approached her? If you act mature, and very sincere; I am not sure. Maybe you are looking for it for the wrong reason. You said in your typing that you are in your prime year, well that could be that you are pushing it too much. Take it easy, slowly and maturely talk to a woman with manners, etc. Its becoming more and more acceptable though. Not just older men that are dating younger women, It's now the women that date younger men.

Answer 10

Maybe this has something to do about you? You kind of seem to expect that the women in their late 20s and older, " will feel so flattered and be really nice about it and flirt back" - and with that attitude maybe you deserve the ignoring part?

Why do you think they should be flattered by a teenager hitting on them? They are themselves in their sexual prime, I would say.

Answer 11

Maybe the women that you are hitting on dont like younger men. I have never dated anyone younger then me, I never would. An 18 yr old boy has nothing in common with a woman in her late 20's.