2 yr relationship. My girlfriend broke up with me...and she has a boyfriend now.It's been six month and we really don't talk that much anymore.yesterday , she says she still loves me the way she used to but she also cares about her boyfriend. Her boyfriend is 1 year younger than her and she is 3 younger than me. He makes her say sorry in an argument all the time and for me i'll just get mad and later compromises. She said she is so confused on what she wants when she thinks about it. She knows i am willing to work things out whatever the problem that broke us up. Sex was the first time for the both of us. She said that she wants me but at the same time she doesn't. That doesn't she doesn't know how to explain it. I'm waiting and searching for another girl
She wants to come and see me. I said why...she reply i just want to. At first we argued and later i said sure. It wouldn't hurt much. Any ideas how i should treat her
2007-03-23 13:42:46 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Let her go. I don't know how old you guys are, but she's just seeing which guy is a sucker and that's who she'll be with.
2007-03-23 13:47:00 · answer #1 · answered by big_red_34d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should of course, first of all, treat her with respect. Keep in mind that girls are complex. Don't let her toy with your emotions, or get close enough to you to hurt you again, at least until the other guy is out of the picture. Don't help her make mistakes that she will later blame you for, like if she wanted to mess around and cheat on her bf. A lot of the time, girls don't know what they want, so trying to figure out what she wants is basically pointless and it's just going to frustrate you even more. I suggest talking to her when you see her. Help her see things from your point of view, and definitely listen to her. Talk her through things. A lot of times, people are able to find solutions to their own problems just by speaking their mind out loud to someone else who's willing to listen. She will always be special to you because you all lost your virginity to each other. Even if things do not work out with you all, there are more girls out there. You obviously have traits of a good bf that someone will notice and admire because you said you are willing to compromise. That is more than most people can say. I hope I've helped and that all goes well. Good luck!
2007-03-23 20:53:03 · answer #2 · answered by Amanda D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well definately support her. its a hard decision for her too. be nice because you will never get back together if your not. treat her with respect, give her a reason to come back to you, make her see why you are better than the other guy without being obvious that you are just trying to prove something.
i don't know what to do about your situation, that's a personal thing, and there is definately a lot more behind it than us answerers know, and that's between you two, we could never solve that.
but treat her with respect, you don't want to make her regret coming to see you, and maybe she wants to talk things over.
about the thing that you said about how it was the first for sex for both of you, i've heard that the first person you have sex with, for the girl, they always feel a bond for that person b/c it releases a chemical the first time you have sex. i wonder if that is part of the reason she is undecided about getting backwith you. food for thought.
2007-03-23 20:51:30 · answer #3 · answered by Jo Jo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's using the other guy to make you jealous. If you 2 are goin' to work things out SHES GOTTA LOSE HER MAN!!! There is no: "I want you but I'm gunna stay with this guy for now". Don't wait around. Tell her the guidelines once and if she doesn't follow them then shes bull *shipping* you when she says she loves you. Hope this helps. Adios.
2007-03-23 20:58:56 · answer #4 · answered by danigirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, show here the door when she shows up.
Why are there so many wimpy guys like this today? Dude, grow a pair and move on!! DO you not have even the slighest bit of self-worth a mouse has?
Makes me sick.
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2007-03-23 20:47:35 · answer #5 · answered by ark 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want at all toget her back the treat her nicely. not quite the way you used to but respectfully. let her know that she hurt you and how you feel. don't worry,i know its hard. try not to put down her current boy friend, that may offend her. let her have her say but make sure you have yours. I wish you the best of luck!
2007-03-23 20:54:30 · answer #6 · answered by purplegrape 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say if she is unsure about her feelings for you than you shouldn't go back out with her. I'd treat her respectfully but stay distant with her so she'll get a hint your not interested anymore.
2007-03-23 20:49:30 · answer #7 · answered by Kayt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is a scatter brain and doesnt know WHAT she wants.You cannot make her mind up for her.You need to tell her when she grows up and knows what she wants and if its you, if your available you can talk then.Otherwise go back to your b/f.
2007-03-23 20:47:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If some one shits on you you dont let them do it twice. tell her to go back to your past cause the past is best left alone. your future is more important
2007-03-23 20:47:24 · answer #9 · answered by aggadan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she doesn't know what she wants, how about you tell her what you want? Dump her and search another girl!
2007-03-23 20:48:26 · answer #10 · answered by jane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋