How do i get her to stop annoying me?

Question

There is this girl and she thinks i am her best friend. She is always trying to be with me and hang out (because she has no other friends). she is sooooo annoying and i want to tell her to stop following me. She also has a lot of revealing clothes. Her shirts always have her backside showing. She only listens to country and she is really weird. She is also failing everything and i dont want to hang out with someone failing EVERYTHING. She even called me 10 times in one day. I want to totally end our so called "friendship" but how?

I am in NO romantic relatiionship! I am not gay/lesbian. and i said she thinks i am her best friend not anything else.

Oh and i want to be friend but like not best friends because she gets to obsessive.

Answer 1

It sounds like she has some problems, and that's sad. If you know anyone else who listens to country, introduce her to them. It passes her off without making it seem like your trying to get rid of her. When she finds people she has more in common with, she'll be less interested in hanging out with you.

Answer 2

Ok I understand when someone annoys you, but have you ever thought that maybe she looks up to you? So she's having a rough patch in school. Try talking to the school counselor about it and try talking to her about how important school is to you and how much you value it. I'm not saying she's all of a sudden going to stop caring, but it's worth a shot. Obviously you cared enough about her as a person to be her friend in the 1st place so don't act like she's such a pest. Often friends don't listen to all or any of the same music. Oh and there's nothing wrong with country music. You could try addressing the issue of her overly revealing clothing by putting it in the terms of the type of attention she gets from wearing such clothes and how it's not the best attire to be successful in. There could be a reason she wears them other than to attract guys or anything of the sort. I have no idea how old you are, but try to be mature and adult about the situation. Explain to her that calling so much keeps you from getting other things done like your homework and other stuff. Just try sitting down and talking things out with her. Don't be accusatory or patronizing and make it sound like she's some leech like you did here, but give it a chance. I'm sure at some point in time you've annoyed someone too. Oh and there's nothing wrong with being weird.

If the talk doesn't work, still want to end the friendship and she still is creeping you out and won't respect your wishes to end the friendship, as a last resort you can file a restraining order for her stalking you.

Just remember, no one's perfect. Also, people can't exactly step outside themselves and see all of their actions the way others can.

Answer 3

Well, my gosh you must be some kind of perfect creature to come on here with all these criticisms! Get off your high horse honey. Have you ever heard the saying "The higher you climb, the harder you fall". You just never know when you might need this girl, if I were you I'd try being a little more tolerant and nicer to people, you never know when there may come a situation where YOU have no friends. What you gonna do then?

Answer 4

I know you wish there was another way to do this but there's not. You just have to be honest with this girl. Your not responsible for her feelings, she is! No, she won't take this well but she will take it. Tell her that your not trying to make an enemy out of her. You just don't want to hang out with her. You can still say hello and talk if you see one another around. That's it, don't apologize for anything. You haven't done anything wrong and if you start saying your sorry it will send the wrong signal.
Donna

Answer 5

She don't have a gun pointed to your head TELL HER!
If you don't tell her you will explode and you might really tell her in a very bad way. You have the right to choose your friends and if she is not one of them then you should tell her.
I think she wants to be more than just friends with you but the answer is tell her you rather not see her again your exgirlfriend is comming back into your life and she will not like it! lol (Just for emergencies only) be honest and let her know how you feel and move on.

Answer 6

Like, tell her to stop calling and following you. Tell her that when you want to talk, you'll call her. By the way, you have no control of her likes in clothing or music and her lack of study habits. Sounds like the gal needs a friend that will influence her and show her a different way.......could it be you?

Answer 7

It depends. Do you want to do it nicely or just be straightforward? To be a little bolder, just say, "Look, (name here), I find it really annoying when you call me every day and follow me around. I need my space, and besides that, you're just not the type of friend I'd want around." And if you feel like being the nice guy, just switch it around and add calming words so that she doesn't fly off the handle. <3

Answer 8

Let her know that she can be a pain but also say she is a wonderful person and she should make new friends. So I hope this helps also introduce her to new people like a party.

Answer 9

I would straight up tell her she embarrases you. Tell her it's scary that she calls you 24/7 and that you don't like being seen with her because her taste in clothing is distasteful. Tell her that you don't mean any disrespect but that if she was being stalked she would be freaked out too.

Answer 10

Be honest. Tell her that she's creeping you out by being so pushy. That you think she's cool and all, but that she really needs to lighten up and back off. Otherwise.......you'll just have to kick her asss.