Need help with my communication skills..?

Question

Hi,
I need to work on my communication skills:
[1] One feedback I get from people off and on is that I dont speak loudly. Actually when I am engrossed in myself (which often is the case), thinking deeply abt sth, feeling bad abt sth, and I speak in my normal tone, I end up speaking not very inaudibly, without realizing that I am really being inaudible. Can I do sth abt it? Being a computer savy, is there some software etc, using which I can analyze my voice - frequency,loudness etc.. Is there sth I can do with my throat to make my natural voice loud, and clear.
[2] Also, my english pronounication is not very fluent and smooth flowing, and soft - infact it could be somewhat rustic. I guess, there is a grammer of speaking, which maintains some kind of balance in your speaking, some fillers etc which maintains the flow. For ex, if I am right, Americans tend to emphasize their middle syllable etc. How do I improve my speaking. How do I practice my speaking?

Answer 1

at work, a co-worker seemed to have pretty much the same problem, everytime we had to speak to groups she was tongue-tied. She would start sweating and could not find the words. But when we were alone she did fine. So I suggested that when ever she had to speak in public or to groups at work that she block everyone from her mind and make believe that the room was empty. She had to look above and beyond the group so she did not have to look at anyone in the face. Normally that is not the way to speak in public, I think you need to use eye contact anytime you speak,, but in her case we needed to find a way that would work for her. Next time we had to write and read a speech she tried it. We could tell she was still nervous but she actually read the whole speech!! I thought that was an awsome improvement. I dont know that this would work for you , but you mght want to try it.
Good luck.

Peace and Love your way.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

I believe it is like anything else in life....you practice. Maybe you need to be exposed to more American English. You didn't say what language is your native tongue. Is American English not spoken alot where you are? When you are speaking to someone, do you not look in their face.....you can tell by looking at someone if they are not understanding you. And even Americans look for feedback that they are being understood by saying things like "ya know'? Some people say, 'I'm feeling you" as a way of saying they understand.. 'You get it"?

Answer 4

Get a simple voice recorder, and read paragraphs from books, or newspapers, or something you write. Listen to it to see where you falter. Repeat until you break the bad habits.

Answer 5

Maybe you can try projecting your voice,recording it and practicing but if you think that you have a serious problem you should try going to a speech therapist

Answer 6

it is completely normal to emphasize your middle syllable, everyone does. Also try to make your voice slightly louder until you have a suitible range.