I'm bi and kinda want to tell my roommate, but i'm nervous about what her reaction will be. I care about her very much and feel guilty that i haven't told her because maybe we wouldn't have such a close relationship if she knew (i.e laying on the couch together like cuddling and letting me put my arm around her). i'm afraid that if she knew, maybe she would look at me differently and not let me do those things, our friendship might change if she acts differently towards me. when we met she was kind of bashing gays a little (she said she didn't know a lot about them and was ignorant so i understand)but over time i saw the change and now she seems cool with it and doesnt bash but i don't know if its to the point that she'll be 100% comfortable with me. i really wanna tell her soon but i'm nervous that things might not be the same. btw shes straight and muslim. were very good friends. what should i do? i dont wanna scare her away. would it be best if i don't tell her although i want to?
2007-03-23 13:12:25 · 14 answers · asked by Ashkat 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Sweetie, be careful. Coming out can and cannot be the best experience in your life. More likely if you are in a college situation, you roomate might be more open minded. Yet that could be a very fragile and personal choice of yours. Whatever you decide think of the pros and cons. Your happiness is what is the most important.
2007-03-29 10:06:27 · answer #1 · answered by Joe d 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That happened with me and my first girlfriend!! Crazy. I was the exact same way. I used to lay on the couch and just kind of cuddle like girls do, and she held my hand one time.
When I told her I wonder what it was like to kiss a girl, she looked at me funny, but I kissed her when she least expected it. We tried it that night and it was the most AMAZING thing I have ever done in my life.
It was great. She was my first woman love. I will never forget it, because I was so in love with her. We ended up breaking up because she really didn't think it was right and married a guy, but before she did that, she told me, she said, I just want you to know, I loved you first. *broke my heart*
But..answer to your question. I would gradually just tell her. Just assumingly ask her..Do you wonder what its like to kiss a woman? Have you ever thought of doing that? Just jokingly and see what she says. If she wants to try it, try it.
In her country being that way is BAD, well in any religion it is, but who cares. Just maybe by seeing where it goes from that question, will answer your questions? Try it and see. Good luck!! I feel ya.
2007-03-23 20:35:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your friends then your friend would not care if you are a bi she should be comfortable and that your relationship together remains at its point. I'm not a expert but she should be comfortable with it since she is your friend. You know if someone is a good friend when they don't lie or snitch on you she should be acceptable to your confession.
Hope I helped,
Hopeful Angel
2007-03-23 20:58:10 · answer #3 · answered by Hopeful-Angel 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
come out, only if you feel that its time to do so, try not to let it b
e for the reason of anybody else. because in the end, you will find that you are living the life on the basis of pretending, and
you will be the one who will be hurt the most?
2007-03-23 20:33:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can tell her its good to be truthful and maybe she'll just have to get over it but even though im straight just tell her'
2007-03-30 16:41:05 · answer #5 · answered by abbynezz&hearts 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a true friend, you will not hide this very significant information to your friend. She has the right to know. Otherwise, it's like taking advantage.
If she is a true friend, she will accept you for who you are.
2007-03-29 15:19:56 · answer #6 · answered by Cheng 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hell no i know muslims she will drop you i am a muslim we cant be friends with gay lesbos so dont tell her trust me on this girl! its in or bible we cant hang out with you peoples but you should tell her cause shes muslim let her get away from you or else she'll go to hell! dont curse her!
2007-03-24 12:35:13 · answer #7 · answered by galaal13 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You could maybe try and test the waters with her first on lgbt topics to see if shes open. If shes homophobic you could try and open her mind up on her views.
2007-03-23 20:46:28 · answer #8 · answered by 17-4serendipity 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
people at my gsa said that they start out by saying that " this doesn't change who i am as a person and i know that you are straight so i won't be hitting on you. " then just tell her u r bi.
2007-03-23 20:20:44 · answer #9 · answered by Iris 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
well just to be sure why dont u ask ques about it just talk to her if she would ever try to be with a girl if she ever found a girl attractive if its a positive convo then tell her if not then dont tell her
2007-03-23 20:43:59 · answer #10 · answered by PILOT 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋