I am married...i have one kid and one on the way....my husband cheats on me all the time...i dont have any more feelings for him. He treats me like dirt. The twist is I like his brother and he likes me back. What should I do?
2007-03-23 13:08:12 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you need to follow your heart. . . It's not fair to you or to your children for you to stay in this relationship. As a mother, it is your job to raise your children in a safe and loving environment. You owe it to them to find someone you are happy with and WANT to share your life with. If you are lucky enought to find that persons who completes your life, he will accept you and your children with open arms and love them as if they were his own. If you are meant to be with his brother, things will work out with him. But for now, focus on getting yourself and your children out of the situation you are currently in. Always remember to love yourself!!
2007-03-23 13:34:34 · answer #1 · answered by Jaymes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are thinking about leaving your husband for his brother, you are probably headed for disaster.
you have a child and one on the way to focus upon, and that needs to be your concern -- not a future love affair (that is likely to cause all sorts or problems,) with your guy's brother.
if you are unhappy in your marriage, and don't feel it can be repaired, it's probably time to get out.
meanwhile, you are likely young and you'll have time to get romantically involved with a man AFTER you've recovered from the impending break up/divorce. You really need to get your life together first. That is no easy task. His brother can't "save" you... no one can, except you.
There is nothing wrong with dating and doing things with friends. But it's only fair to take some time out for YOU before you dive into another relationship.
Those kids need you, too.
Take care of YOU.
2007-03-23 20:21:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to leave your husband. I certainly wouldn't stay unless I thought her would change. But it sounds like he has no intention of that. About the "brother thing"....chances are, you are attracted to him for alot of the same reasons that you were first attracted to your husband. I'd STEAR CLEAR of this relationship. Why? Because if this "brother" was any kind of decent person at all, he wouldn't be hitting on his brother's wife!! I don't care if your husband is a jerk or not....family is family. And he is wrong for invading his brother's marriage. Don't go there!
2007-03-23 20:17:24 · answer #3 · answered by guatemama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know damned good and well what you should do. Get a divorce. The brother has NOTHING to do with this, you are throwing up a smoke screen to fool yourself. Well, it ain't working well, or you wouldn't be asking.
Get a divorce. If you and the brother get it on, that is your business, but if you get it on before you are divorce, that becomes a real family mess that will live on forever. don't be a fool. You don't need this hanging over your life, and you do NOT need this hanging over your children's lives, and that is exactly what will happen. Do you really want your kids to know that you had an affair with their uncle? have one and sooner or later, they will know about it.
2007-03-23 20:13:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why stay married to a man that can't be faithful and that you have lost feelings for? For the sake of your children, leave your husband, regain your self esteem, role model for them how to treat yourself with dignity and respect.
However, please dont get involved with your brother in law at this time. That is a disaster just waiting to happen. It would make matters much worse, it would come between brothers.
2007-03-23 20:13:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's obvious he doesnt want to be with you so leave. It will be better for you and the kids. Growing up in abusive family will just ruin the kids' self esteem and who knows what else could happen like your son(s) abusing their wives? Don't go to his brother either. That is just too weird and really, think about it for a minute.. How would you like to explain to your friends your stepdad is also your uncle?
2007-03-23 20:17:41 · answer #6 · answered by lloydmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you making babies with a man who you know is unfaithful, and that you don't have feelings for???
I know I am asking a question to your question but I really think you need to think about your decision making process. I think it is a huge mistake to get involved with your husbands brother... he is too close to the situation and it can only end badly. I think you need to focus on your #1 priority which is your children... Raise them, and make them the most important thing in your life, forget your love life, you will only bring chaos into your babies lives if you do.
2007-03-23 20:15:36 · answer #7 · answered by katiebug 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all it's you and your children you have to take care of right now, you do not need to jump into another relationship especially with the brother. So, get out of this hell of a marriage you are in, then go from there.
2007-03-23 20:14:34 · answer #8 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay with your husband and try to put some spark back in your relationship. This is important for your kids.
2007-03-23 20:22:20 · answer #9 · answered by Black Mamba 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump the husband, file for child support and file for a divorce. Then, stay away from his brother.
2007-03-23 20:12:05 · answer #10 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋