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Just want a bit of help. Was wondering if any of you have ever been to counsilling(sp)? And did it help? (Sorry for the previous answers but not many answerd) Thanks.

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Answer 1

We went to counseling after our son committed suicide. It was so hard for us to
understand why. We were able to talk it out and our Counselor-who is a Christian Dr. & Missionary--was awesome. He walked us through our feelings
and all that went with it. There were other issues that came up and we dealt
with them as well. It was a positive experience. That was a number of years ago
now, but I highly recommend it if you can get the right one. Good luck and God
Bless.

Answer 2

I was a trained counsellor, if you have been referred to a counsellor, or think it may help you then give it a go, what have you got to loose. Your Doctor can refer you if you feel you need some support, and that is what they do. Totally confidential - none judgemental - support you so you can deal with your "obstacles" - it DOES work - its horses for courses, hopefully if you get a good counsellor, it can take time, approx 1 session per year of your life approx.

Basically, you talk, they listen, they become a sounding post for you, and give you confidence enough to really be honest with yourself, and its like putting all the stuff rolling around in your head out on the table, enabling you to sort it out, they do not tell you what to do, you KNOW really, but they give you the confidence and clarity of mind to deal with it. OK?

It can be painful to begin with, but it can work, its up to you really at the end of the day. Give it a whirl, if you have asked this question then you KNOW you may need to anyway..#
Good luck!!!

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Answer 3

Erm, i tried counselling once and it didnt help. Or perhaps it was me not accepting that i needed help or someone to talk to. It was a while ago.

Studying counselling i can see how it can workl. It is getting people to voice their concerns out loud and helping to move them based on their own views to the answer.

Now after studying it, i would try it again if needed. But you have to get a good counseller you respect and feel comfy with. Sometimes the people who wont seek help can look like they need attention.

Everyone is different. What may work for one may not work for another.

Answer 4

(sp)? I hope your didn't mean marriage counseling. That I wouldn't try. The one I refer to is more like therapy. Answer to question you posed. I have apart from one thing, I can't say it didn't help. What one does is talk. about what is going on in your life and what is bothering you. It also depends who you speak to. If you get someone whose ideas you do not agree with. Just change and get someone else. The one thing I remember it helped me in was. I had an older woman as my counselor. And I was very angry about many things. One of the big ones was I couldn't stand anyone referring to my mother's husband as my stepfather. She showed me that stepfather was a word like any other. That it only had the meaning I choose to give it. If it meant nothing to me then it was nothing. If it meant something to me then it was. What she showed me I use it for other words as well. Like love and hate. For her showing me that I will always feel grateful. - about (sp) I don't know what it means.

Answer 5

Personally no, but I do know some people who have. An acquaintance whose parents died tragically in an accident,was greatly helped by this, although it took quite a long time. Another friend who was an alcoholic, was not helped at all, but sadly she didn`t really want to be helped. I am sure that it is `horses for courses`and is good for some yet not others.I feel that you must yourself want help,I doubt it would work, unless you really wanted it to. I think it is certainly worth trying, you have nothing to loose and everything to gain.

Answer 6

I am currently receiving counselling for PTSD. I did try to cope with things by getting on with life but hit a brick wall. I could not cope with day to day life at the moment without the help of the counsellor. She is helping me to talk about what happened and all the emotions which are locked inside and need to come out. She never judges me and gives me good advice on how to approach things and how to look at things differently.

I have never been any good at talking and always bottled up my emotions which has not done me any good. This is helping me to release all of it now so I can hopefully come through it all.

:-)))

Answer 7

It didn't help me. I was in therapy for 2 years and on meds for 2 1/2. I know it has worked for some people that I know, but I was just frustrated by it. Part of it was just that my therapist was dumb. She was really super touchy feely and gave me no feedback whatsoever. I just talked and she gave me meds. After I while I just got fed up with it and decided that therapy was stupid.

Ironically enough, I think I am going to change to a psych major at UCSC.

To be honest, I think that the success of therapy depends mostly on the therapist/counselor.

Answer 8

Give it a try it can't hurt and it may be just what you need. I have no idea what your problems are but they are probably not as bad as you think you know. We all think that we are the only ones who are suffering pain, relationship problems, money problems etc etc but actually we are never alone and the old saying about there always being someone worse off than yourself is usually true.

Answer 9

I've went to a few when I was younger, but I didn't like them, so it didn't accomplish anything. You have to want to be helped before you can be helped. You also have to be completely comfortable with the counselor. (I wasn't, and I felt they were fake, but those were my personal experiences) When you find someone you like and you feel listens to you and doesn't have preconceived ideas, it can help a lot. For me it's my husband. Sometimes (depending on what's going on) you might not need a professional, just someone that cares.

Answer 10

I have been to counseling before, personally for me though it didn't help, because I didn't like the counselor. If you find someone you like and feel good talking to, it will help you though, it's just a matter of finding that right person.

You just sit and talk, they will ask you questions about your family, how things in your life are, and they just get into depth with it all with you. You will talk pretty much about everything with the counselor.