HOW SHOULD I TREAT HER when I SEE HER?

Question

2 yr relationship. My girlfriend broke up with me...and she has a boyfriend now.It's been six month and we really don't talk that much anymore.yesterday , she says she still loves me the way she used to but she also cares about her boyfriend. Her boyfriend is 1 year younger than her and she is 3 younger than me. He makes her say sorry in an argument all the time and for me i'll just get mad and later compromises. She said she is so confused on what she wants when she thinks about it. She knows i am willing to work things out whatever the problem that broke us up. Sex was the first time for the both of us. She said that she wants me but at the same time she doesn't. That doesn't she doesn't know how to explain it. I'm waiting and searching for another girl

She wants to come and see me. I said why...she reply i just want to. At first we argued and later i said sure. It wouldn't hurt much. Any ideas about what i should do with her?

Answer 1

She sounds very confused, and if she gets this confused now, and is just a girlfriend, I can't imagine getting into an even deeper relationship with her, only to have this happen again in the future.

You need someone who can make decisions, or if they can't, can give you a clear reason why they can't and a time table that they will decide by.

It is ok to be confused, but only for a bit, while you weigh out things, but the fact that she is STILL with him, should be a big red flag to you.

Answer 2

Just be the way you normally are and ask her where you stand, maybe she's missing the security she had with you and missing your relationship as a whole. Don't push but tell her you need to know what's going on so you can both move forward.