What should I do? It's not a little crush it is Big.
2007-03-23 12:43:59 · 38 answers · asked by roxy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Been there, done that.... Man the Internet is great is'nt it? Well lets start by asking this, reverse the roles. This is your husband asking the same question, how would it make you feel?
So tell ya what...
Go meet this guy, seriously, do it. Go hog wild on him, do all the crazy sex stuff you can with him, back door, oral, swallowing, etc... you name it, do it. After you swallow, go home... kiss your husband on the lips with the flavor of this other guy still in your mouth. He wont know.
2007-03-23 12:54:25 · answer #1 · answered by jeff the drunk 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The question is-what should you guys do? There are others involved here, so the first thing I would do is talk to your old love and figure out if the both of you are willing to leave your spouses before you ruffle a bunch of feathers. If that is the case, start working on your divorces first if you want to assure that the two of you will have something special that has a chance of surviving at all. If there is any way of working things out with your spouse, I would try that first though, after all you did marry this guy-he must have some really great qualities. Step back and REALLY analyze this whole thing-are you sure it's much more than a crush? Could you actually picture yourself married to your ex and being with him forever? Crushes can be deceiving so just be careful before you make your move. The wrong thing to do would be to have an affair with him-besides, you want your ex to respect you, right? I know how it is-if this guy is REALLY special from your past-don't let him get away-ONLY if you think he is worth it, there will always be temptations along the way in your marraige but if you feel your ex is the one, maybe you should give it a try. GOOD LUCK!!!
2007-03-24 03:58:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I personally think you need to work on your marriage and quit looking in other directions.....marriage is a commitment and not just for the moment while it feels good. If you wanted that you shouldn't have gotten married in the first place.
I think there are only certain circumstances when a person should consider divorce and that is when your spouse has cheated on you ( and in that case I think in a divorce the adulterous spouse should get the short end of the stick) or when there is abuse involved, and leaving is the safest choice.
Crushes are not a reason to end a marriage....crushes are for kids not adults.......so grow up and talk to your spouse about what you feel you need to be happy.
2007-03-23 13:07:05 · answer #3 · answered by deb 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why did you marry the guy then?Maybe youre not making him happy?What garauntee do you have the "other guy" will be happy with you once you hook up?How do you know it wont go sour?If you are both the type to throw in the towel and look elsewhere then how do you know you wont be in the same boat a yr later?Look in the mirror.Before you can be happy with anyone, you need to be able to be happy on your own.No one can fullfill you.They have needs and weaknesses too.Try to work your marriage out, those vows were supposed to havemeant something.You may just be the whole world to your husband, and dont know it.I had to guess because you didnt give any information as to why your not happy, or why the other guy isnt.He may just be telling you he isnt in hopes of getting in your panties, guys do that dear.
2007-03-23 12:50:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Play the game straight. If you are unhappily married, leave him (unless you have kids, then you owe a good home to your children). But don't dive in for the affair, then you become of no value to anyone, because you will have shown both your husband and your boyfriend that your commitments don't mean anything to you.
2007-03-23 12:49:49 · answer #5 · answered by Paul 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First, think about your marriage and ask yourself if you are bored or you are really not in love anymore. Remember that the grass is not always greener on the other side. My best friend just went through this with a high school sweetheart and things did not work out with them. Her heart was broken and she broke her husbands heart. Don't jump into anything too fast. Take your time and think about what YOU really want.
Good luck!
2007-03-23 12:56:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are unhappy in your marriage and the person you like are unhappy as well. I suggest you end the relationship with your spouse first. Why? Because for the time being you promised/vowed before God or man to be with this person. If you are unhappy, it is most likely that your spouse is as well. No one should be forced to live in a broken union without any hope of repair. If your crush is not willing to end it with his unhappy partner, you might not want to continue a relationship with him. Everyone wants honesty in a relationship, be truthful with yourself and your partner first. Then deal with the other relationshp.
2007-03-23 12:52:39 · answer #7 · answered by anifan 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is NOT one issue, but many. 1st issue...unhappy marriage. Is it really? or is it not as happy as you THINK another might be...be careful what you wish for, it may come true.
2nd issue: your past love may say he is unhappy...oldest line in the book, yet women still fall for it daily, hourly, by the minute. Yes, I know, his wife doesn't understand him...the real problem is that she DOES understand him...don't kid yourself.
Back to issue number one...you are in NO position to do anything but make up your mind about YOUR marriage. decide to stay and make it good, or walk...stop wasting precious time of your husbands and yours.
If you divorce, don't go rushing off into the arms of your married past...he is still married, and odds are he will stay that way, even if you are available. Again. oldest story in the book. We all say, yes, but in my case it is different. Trust me, it is NOT different. If you divorce, do it for YOU and you alone, not for a chance at another married person. The odds are not in your favor. Good luck
2007-03-23 12:49:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
as far as your husband you should find out if he feels the same maybe a trial separation.but as far as your past?you setting yourself up for heartbreak,maybe even worse,if it didn't happen for y'all while you both was single why take a chance on something like that?always move on,never move back,the fling always plays out.people have been killed over less than that,plus you never heard about the lady who sued her husband and his mistress for one million dollars claiming that she was alienated from affection,she won her case.let him go,if he screws around on the woman he swore loyalty to for the rest of his natural life?what do you think he's gonna do to you?.....It seems like he really just looks better now that he has someone else,but if you really that unhappy some time alone may be the best solution,or at least move on with someone who doesn't have a messy divorce to go along with your own
2007-03-23 13:07:13 · answer #9 · answered by mdcinfinite 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should stop sneaking around your husband's back, grow the **** up and talk to him and figure out why your marriage sucks. It sounds like you are both just looking for excuses to be dishonest.
I'll bet your husband is actually really nice to you, and he probably bought you the computer you're using, too.
Why did you get married if you're not ready for a commitment?
People like you suck, big time.
2007-03-23 12:48:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋