Do you love your spouse? Are you a sensualist, do you love sex? Now, does your spouse say they love you, but are nonetheless sexless with you? Is it driving you crazy, right on up a wall of frustration, despair and heartbreak? They say they love you, yet they are indifferent to your sexual needs/desires? You want them, and you want them to want you, but it’s as platonic as can be. Do you see the rest of your life slipping away without the sweetness of sex ever again? I mean kisses that go to the bottom of your being, and orgasms that send you into another level of existence… never again?
Wanna talk to someone who understands what you are going through… I sure do.
2007-03-23 12:42:43 · 26 answers · asked by JRSK007 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i totaly understand where u coming from..
my husband says he loves me ,..says hes attracted to me..but never seems to want to have sex..or be inntamate in any way with me... im 29, sexy, and fun...its taking a toll on my self asteem bc i figure there must be something wrong with ME...
he does seem like it doesnt matter to him..i tell him how i feel..ive cried about it to him... it always ends in a fight.. so i give up...
im 29 and live in a sexless, affectionless marriage..and i also see the 'good' life passing me by...know ur not alone..
i know how u feel when a million others wouldnt..
best of luck to you.....
2007-03-23 12:48:48 · answer #1 · answered by lisa baby... 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
1- Do you love your spouse? YES VERY MUCH !!!
2- Are you a sensualist, do you love sex? No I could care less if I ever have sex again, But I love my hubby & try to be .... you know.... ne ways we have always loved eachother & were made for eachother. He gets satisfied when we do get to ... U Know. I had a bad expieriance as a kid conserning sex and a fat 300 pound man & sometimes I think it may stem from that. I am looking into therapy (Even Hypnotherapy if nessasary).
3- Is it driving you crazy, right on up a wall of frustration, despair and heartbreak? Yes it does drive me crazy that I cant perform every time he wants too but we work through it ... we dont give up on eachother. If you truly love your spouse you may want to find out WHY they are having problems performing... maybe they are at a normal amount & your a sex ahloic ever thought of that ? Maybe it is a mental problem that they need your help to work through.
4-Wanna talk to someone who understands what you are going through… I sure do...? I wouldnt mind talking any time you want .
2007-03-24 17:15:34 · answer #2 · answered by littlejewel34 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actions do speak volumes., and louder than words ever could. Unless your spouse has a legitimate medical problem., something is defiantly wrong here. The issues needs to be addressed as to find out what is happening. These are classic signs of other things, if no medical reason. Try discussing now,to head off future problems.
2007-03-31 11:30:25 · answer #3 · answered by mssgtmidnight1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are sexual animals, and sex is bonding. Marriage is respect, admiration passion and trust. Each person would put separate percentages on these four biggies. Obviously for you, the passion is at least 25 % leaving you with a 75% marriage at best. In your place, I'd leave, hon, or agree with him that you have a right to find a lover, as did Lady Chatterly. Lots of marriages exist in this fashion. You have to decide that if he agrees, would you wish to stay.
I'm sure you have already discussed his/her poor libido with him/her, and that he/she has seen a doc. Did you choose this man/woman as a husband/wife knowing he/she was impotent/frigid? Even if you did, you have every right to change your mind. And a passionless marriage is indeed grounds for divorce.... is now, and always has been.
2007-03-23 19:56:16 · answer #4 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Been there. It's how infidelity starts, and it's a hurter all around.
The real issue is your spouse's interest in satisfying your needs, and understanding the normal consequences of not doing so - you could stumble into something that would end up hurting both of you.
Do you see to her needs, even if they're a bit onerous? If not, shame on you. She needs to care for your needs, too.
I sort of think we should go back to the more traditional situation where a man and woman marry to fraise children, and they both have a little something on the side to satisfy some of the sexual and emotional needs not met at home. It really is unreasonalbel to expect a single person to be EVERYTHING for another, satisfy all needs, forever and ever, amen.
2007-03-23 19:57:24 · answer #5 · answered by Randy J 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm having a very similar problem I feel awfully each night because I just keep waiting and waiting until he fall sleep, and I seriously think that maybe he is cheating on me because he didn't say nothing about sexual problems or something like that he also says that he love me but I just don't feel that cause if he really really loves me he can do something about our sexual life,,, we are Jung and I'm getting tired of this situation
2007-03-30 22:50:18 · answer #6 · answered by LOLA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes if I did not have it I would surely miss the intimacy. Hang in there and hopefully that special someone is right around the corner for you. Do Not Give Up Hope.
2007-03-30 15:30:01 · answer #7 · answered by donna_honeycutt47 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand exactly. But I stopped caring after a while. My guy is such an unfailing d*ckhead I just stopped caring and planned my escape. I'm leaving in 2 months.
Edit: Royal's answer hit the nail on the head.
2007-03-23 19:48:01 · answer #8 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Personally, even if all that was true, it really sounds like someone is trying to get some action. Nice way of doing it, but ending may be nasty ! Good Luck to all you single ladies in need !!
2007-03-31 19:44:35 · answer #9 · answered by fuzzypetshop 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HOLY CRAP!! you just described the last 3yrs of my marriage to freakin T! I'm sooo exausted with the fighting, insults you name it.Physically drained from nites of staying awake thinking, no sleep,knots in the pit of your stomach! Yes sadly i know exactly where your coming from
2007-03-23 20:00:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋