I want to have rough sex with my husband. But he dosent like it verry well. Its not like im in to chocking, whips and chains. But I like the grabbing and pulling type stuff. How can I help him like it? He likes just regular boring sex! What am I supposed to do?
2007-03-23 12:20:53 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Take it slowly. A little at a time. ENCOURAGE him during sex. If he does the slightest rough thing you like, praise him up and down. My guy is like that, he says no at first, then he thinks about it, then he slowly works his way around to my thinking. Just be patient, you may be able to grow a garden from one little seed!
2007-03-23 12:35:40 · answer #1 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some porn with the rough stuff in it that you like. Tell him, in very explicit terms, what you like about it and how hot it gets you. He'll no doubt get a little...um...'distracted'...and you can suggest just dropping and going fotr it right there on the floor.
Another option: Push him up against a wall, talk dirty, use the eyes and hands, tell him what you want to do, use his male sex drive to get him horned up, then go down on him, telling him to grab your head and facef**k you good and proper.
Get him doggystylin' you, and tell him thje grab your t*ts, *** or hair and hold on while he's shagging in you. Yell out what ever you want, just make sure he is as hard as I am right now, and he gets off, HARD. If necessary, PRETEND you've gotten off, too, loud and sexy. He needsto know that non-traditional sex can be REALLY hot, too.
He's probably afraid that if he treats you rough, you'll be mad. Show him how you want it done, but make sure youi get him off really well. he come back for more...
2007-03-23 12:32:42 · answer #2 · answered by Randy J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husbands and I enjoy rough sex. It took him awhile to get into now he actually enjoys taking care of me. He loves how my body reacts to the punches. Yes I enjoy my husband to punch me, during sex only. Tell him what exactly you would like him to do and really pay attention to how your body responds, he might like it a bit more. He enjoys the so called power he has over me at the moment. It didn't happen overnight.
2007-03-23 13:16:35 · answer #3 · answered by Mickey M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, maybe he isn't comfortable with the idea. If you push him, he's liable to pull away from you. And if he thinks you consider sex with him boring because he won't do the things you want him to do, you can pretty much forget about sex all together.
2007-03-23 12:31:01 · answer #4 · answered by trikelkelley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change what a person likes... If rough sex is this important to you - get a different husband.
2007-03-23 12:26:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you both need to go to a sex therapist. He is hung up on "normal" and stupidity. Or, try some drugs...420 is a great additive to sex. harmless, yes, illegal, but so is everything that is fun. Grab him, tie him down, and use the hell out of him. If he doesn't like it, so what. What 's he going to do? go soft on you? Go to a toy shop to play it safe. Good luck
2007-03-23 12:28:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Slowly work him into your fantasies. Start with a blindfold-see 9 1/2 weeks--the movie. It will give you some ideas. Watch it together, he may change his mind.
2007-03-23 12:32:51 · answer #7 · answered by bahjij6 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
same prob with me, I like it rough but my husband is shy. I tried talking dirty too, didnt work...its hard to change a guy. We are married for 10 years and he just wont change...tough luck huh!
2007-03-23 12:57:34 · answer #8 · answered by virgo_07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him what you just said here...you know, he should try it at least once and maybe he will like it. I know how you feel because every once in a while I like it rough too.
2007-03-23 12:28:49 · answer #9 · answered by oneontaw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try taking control and being rough with him first and if there is something he does not want to do STOP and tell him we will go no futher
2007-03-23 15:03:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋