Maybe one of the divorced guy's girlfriend and her friends around?
2007-03-23 12:16:28 · 25 answers · asked by so tired 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Guy time was at his friend's place. And her his girlfriend moved in. He can't seem to remember when, or how long she has been living there, and of course her friends was there. Everything was sooo out of his control. He can't remember when the guy's previous girlfriend moved out/or in or when her friends were there either etc.
But he makes sure we get to church on Sunday, (vomit, vomit.) And wants everything to work out in or marriage. (more vomit)
2007-03-27 07:33:19 · update #1
He has condoned other people treating me poorly before. He is a great friend to them. I really couldn't go anyway because we have a daughter with special needs and just can't have anyone babysit. I can't just make my mom babysit everytime he wants to see his buds. I found out because he had to give his bud had his liscense revoked for DUI. "Who gives him a ride when you can't?" The live-in girlfriend.
2007-03-27 15:07:42 · update #2
Yes, if it's "guy time"...there should be NO woman there! Period! End of discussion!!
2007-03-23 12:24:14 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Ofcourse I would be mad! It would be one thing if he had told you about the situation before he left, but he hid it from you instead. I'd certainly be interested in finding out why he hid it from you. My husband and I don't do guys/girls night. I'm only 23, but I really believe that it's the best way to go. You end up in situations that can be tempting or compromising otherwise. From the sounds of things, I'm guessing that you don't have a girl's night either. Seems rather unfair, don't you think? My nephew is autistic and epilleptic, and I'm the only person my sister-in-law can leave him with. Her husband would never dream of going out for guys night. If he's not at work, he's there helping her. I really think you need to have a serious talk with your husband about how you feel and about discontinuing guys nights completely. If he's too selfish to do this, then he just needs to grow up. Don't take any crap from him. He may wear the pants, but you wear the skirt, and don't ever let him forget that!
2007-03-30 17:37:52 · answer #2 · answered by Kimberly N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you trust your husband? Oh, better yet, is your husband the faithful type? If so, let him have his quality man time, what dies it hurt? Just make sure you have time alone with him on some nights. Other nights and make nights for yours and his friends to hang out with the both of you, that way you can meet these other girls and invite them over for girl time during guy nights out.
In reality it sounds like your husband still has some single or newly single friends, that try to over-compensate for not having a mate by bringing random girls around. It does not mean your husband should be punished for his friends ignorance, imagine how many times a day you would have to go punishing your husband if that was the case.
Let your husband be, give him love and suport and listen to his stories about how ridiculous these situations are, time apart gives you somethin to talk about.
If you are still that insecure about it, ask to go along spur of the moment one time and see how things are.
Remeber to trust, as long as he's trustable.
I have a fabulous relationship and a perfect for me husband. We still take time away (mostly cause of his friends needs for guy time or my girl friends needs for girl time) and when we get back together, we appreciate each other that much more and have a blast telling each other the stories.
2007-03-23 19:47:33 · answer #3 · answered by Chasity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband would be veeeerry sorry if he told me he was going on a GUY night and I found out there were other women there!!! That is completely unacceptable! If he didn't know that they were going to be there then he should have phoned you straight away and invited you over the second he found out! When will men learn that they cannot hide things from their wives and no matter how innocent it may be, it always SEEMS guilty as sin!!!
2007-03-31 09:10:47 · answer #4 · answered by Shaz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly don't really agree with the guy's or gal's night out if the parties are married. I certainly would object to my wife doing a girl's night out but wouldn't expect her to agree to mine either. I think you both need to decide where you want your relationship to go. Do you want to be single and go do the "guy" and "girl" nights out or do you want to be married and become one as a family. On occasion, there might be a special event that several guys may want to go, a sport event or something but every week is a bit much to me.
2007-03-31 13:40:28 · answer #5 · answered by Gardner? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be furious!!! Don't tell me it's "Guys" night and then you, your friend, his new girlfriend and a bunch of her friends are all hanging out. If he didn't know what the plans were ahead of time then I guess it was kind of out of his control. But if he knew all along what was going to go down then he should have been upfront. Did he tell you this or did you have to find it out on your own? I would be even more mad if he didn't bother to tell you.
2007-03-23 19:23:40 · answer #6 · answered by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah i think i would be pretty ****** if I were in your shoes. i would tell him no more guys night out. he can stay and help you with your daughter. Do you get a girls night out? ask him how well he'd like it if you went out every time the girls wanted you to go and he had to stay and take care of your daughter. i would really talk to him and tell him enough is enough or else you will start to go out with friends. and guess what i don't remember who was there where we went. lol play the game back at him. best of luck to you. :)
2007-03-31 00:27:35 · answer #7 · answered by kameo_44 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think this is a reason to be "angry" but it should prompt a discussion. Ask him if he thinks this is okay. If he says yes then ask him why. Tell him to put himself in the same situation (girls night with guys) and ask him how it would make him feel. I think if you married an intelligent reasonable man, this shouldn't be an issue.
2007-03-23 19:33:08 · answer #8 · answered by katiebug 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The nite is suppose to be a guy's nite? And the guy's have girls there also...Then why is it called guys nite out.. I would do some serious a__ chewing if I found out my husband was out with the guys and there were huzzy's around. He wouldn't want to go so quickly next time....
2007-03-23 19:39:52 · answer #9 · answered by tmjf461 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only if he was a sneaky liar, and the women he hangs with are not 'some of the guys.' is he flirting, sexing, or cheating? ask why he didn't just tell u, and that it feels like he's lying, if thats the case. look at the whole picture. then make a decision.
2007-03-31 19:16:30 · answer #10 · answered by alive on a ball named earth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep...I've been there. My husband has done that to me many times. He'll say he's going out with his friends and I'd find out that there had been women there. He's also excluded not only me but our son from things...like him and his coworkers and their families would get together and he wouldn't even take us. Which I now know it was probably because his mistress works with him.
2007-03-23 19:40:12 · answer #11 · answered by love my life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋