2007-03-23 12:14:59 · 22 answers · asked by otipaugohcam 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It isn't possible. Just accept her as the person you loved enough to marry and remember the best response to any request she makes is "Yes,dear".
2007-03-23 12:24:05 · answer #1 · answered by Country girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow..shortest question ever and still not easy. Try c-o-m-m-u-n-i-c-a-t-i-o-n. Say it with me now! Seriously though, if you don't understand, ASK. Don't ask if she or you is angry, or hungry, or tired. It's okay to say "Sorry honey, I just don't understand you." Ask a lot of "Why" questions.
For example:
wife: "I hate it when you stay out all night with the guys."
husband:(thinking) Whats the big deal?
husband asking: "Why? Whats the big deal?"
wife: "Because I would like us to spend more time together."
Now it is not about what she dislikes in you, but what she wishes for the relationship.
And now when you stay home for the night, you know that just being in the same house together isn't enough but that you must also interact and show her some attention.
But lets keep it fair now..
When she is upset with something(or vice versa) she should be telling you how and why something is making her feel that way. Instead of bitching at you for doing perfectly normal things (a.k.a. going out with the guys), she should:
wife says:"I really enjoy it when we have nights together, just me and you."
This is more positive, less aggresive and clearly states what she wants and how it makes her feel.
"You get more with honey than vinegar."
I have enough female friends to know the games. And it always comes down to 2 things:
1: not being clear and honest
2: how you say it
Say what you mean, mean what you say, and don't say it mean!
Hope this helps!
p.s. women make rubix cubes look simple
2007-03-23 12:38:44 · answer #2 · answered by julesjuggalette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple: Men are from Mars Women From Venus.
The book is actually genius explaining your question exactly.
Available in virtually every book shop on earth!
2007-03-23 12:39:13 · answer #3 · answered by tigertigertiger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is the biggest downfall in all marriages. Take some time to talk to her and to "listen" to her. If you have kids - have a date night go somewhere that the two of you have always enjoyed.
2007-03-23 12:19:01 · answer #4 · answered by Feline05 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is to sit down and really Listen to her! Pay close attention and when she is done talking ask her questions. Be kind!!
2007-03-23 12:20:57 · answer #5 · answered by margret t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, it's less productive to expect to understand the other -- and more helpful to accept that person as they are.
2007-03-23 12:19:10 · answer #6 · answered by Shibi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say, "Yes dear!" No further understanding necessary.
2007-03-23 12:18:27 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO COMMENT... i just thought the first person who have answered this questions, "helps when you both speak same language" is pretty DAMN FUNNY!!!
hahahahaha
2007-03-23 12:21:23 · answer #8 · answered by L!LO 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's only one language women $peak.
2007-03-23 12:18:15 · answer #9 · answered by liquidobsidean 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It helps if you both speak the same language.
2007-03-23 12:17:12 · answer #10 · answered by outlaw_tattoo_biker 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋