mark and i have been going with each other for 4 yrs and engaged for 5 mons.he has money "problems" from his last marrage(divorce,child support ect) which left him in debt of 24k.well he came to me and asked me to help(pay off) his debt he knows i have the money(my mistake).when i asked him if i said no whould he leave me.he said he would have to reevaluate our relationship as he would do it for me and could not understand why i would not help him out.am i wrong in feeling he should not have asked me or hurt in his round about way of telling me he will leave leave me if i don't?
2007-03-23 12:14:47 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
do not pay his debt for him, he should not have asked you.if he leaves you for that then he would have left you for something else anyway.
2007-03-23 12:19:50 · answer #1 · answered by donna l 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all you said that he said that he'd reevaluate the relationship, not leave you necessarily.
Why is it that you have envisaged sharing your life with him,but don't want to share some of your wealth? I think you're kind of selfish because i'd help my significant other to the best of my ability.
A good relationship requires commitment which means dealing with the downsides as well. If I had to explain that to my fiancee, i'd reevaluate my relationship as well.
2007-03-23 12:23:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its not your responsibility to take care of his past. His mistakes his fault . Not that having a kid is a bad thing but thats on him . He shouldnt really leave you for such a stupid thing . I mean if he loves you he will be with you for you , not for your money . And plus hes a man he should be able to handle it . God doesnt give you nothing you can't handle !!
2007-03-23 12:23:24 · answer #3 · answered by Zainyazen 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he wants to leave, let him go. No man in the world should expect a woman to cover his debts. Your gut is right.
2007-03-23 12:18:24 · answer #4 · answered by Ade 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You know more about your relationship, but I would not like that ultimatum. I think he is asking way too much. It also doesn't say much about his character if he wants you to assume responsibility for his debt.
2007-03-23 12:21:35 · answer #5 · answered by DizziDazi 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if he does leave you after you say no then count your lucky stars. i bet he will dump you anyway after you give him the money and you will be the one holding the bag.
2007-03-23 12:19:09 · answer #6 · answered by george 2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u have to ask, then ur feel somethings not rite...he went into debt alone, he must get out alone... that s the way it works when ur not MARRIED...when ur married, everythings shared but until u say I DO... its on him babes
2007-03-23 12:19:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't marry him until he straightens out his money problems. You WILL be sorry.
2007-03-23 12:18:49 · answer #8 · answered by Sparky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nooooo, you DO NOT HAVE TO PAY FOR HIS PAST OR HIS FRIGGIN LOVE -
2007-03-23 12:19:06 · answer #9 · answered by princesstheruler 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋