Why is it so hard to forgive people?

Question

I am wondering why people find it so hard to forgive things when life is so short not to mention boring

Answer 1

Because sometimes things are hard
to forget. Especially if someone's feelings were hurt really bad.

Answer 2

I don't believe you are talking about anything serious. Like someone on booze kills your grandson on his bike. Or your girlfriend screws your best friend. I am with you if it is a minor thing. Forgiveness is actually for ourselves, so we don't carry the stress of the precipitating event. Be lucky you are bored. Many people with memories of murdered children have no time for boredom. Yes, life is short, but we were never given an amount of time to live only a promise of a good life. We have to find that and like Job in the Bible keep the faith no matter what. I had breast cancer. Today I felt pain under the other arm. So, here we go again. PS-try to think this way, people are funny things, what will offend one may not offend the other.And it is a rare thing for a person to apologize for a wrong unless they realize they have done so. The rest won't believe they hurt you and won't care.

Answer 3

The problem with forgiving people is that although you wnat to put negative experiences behind you, you nonetheless feel so hurt and traumatized by another person's hurtful comments that this feeling of anger is still with you. Every time you think about the wrongs that perosn has done to you, it reinforces that desire to get back at him or her. You try to repress it, but it keeps coming back every now and then. The only way to really forgive people without any regrets is for them to express both their sorrows and gratitudes. You should also think about the consequences of your cations. Remember: Life is very short. You cannot stay mad at another person forever. Also, if you did something wrong, wouldn't you want forgiveness as well?

Answer 4

Once the Person lost interest of the other person who hurt feelings, and doesn't want to get back, Pride, hatred, hurting too much, may be not trusting, lack of faith in God and fear of God, or some day will forgive once cool down. Ther'e kind of life negativities behaviour, abbuse, dis-honest,cheating, dis-respect, lost-trust and all sorts of bad happens between each other, could be hard to forgive and don't wont to let go to have a peace of mind. It dependsof the People how they practice, belief of each Religion, love god. I know couple of People that doesn't talk to their own Parents all most over 5'years, and still not talking over anger. I forgive People, but, canno't forget some major important effect my life. You do the right thing, like forgiving people,and don't hate the other person who doesn't wont to forgive you. Once you forgiven and offer all your life trials to God, He will undertake all your troubles and keep praying and don't give up.

Answer 5

True forgiveness, and not just the glib "I forgive you" colloquialism, is so truly hard to do because it is inhuman. I can't remember where I heard that old saying, "To err is human. To forgive is divine." I have lived years of my life wanting forgiveness from myself for myself, and for others, and no sooner had I said or thought that forgiveness was there, than I relived the hatred I felt for the other persons or myself. Now at my ripe old age of 55 I feel very much forgiven by God for the things I have done in my life. I truly wish I could say I was as good at forgiving as He is, but then, I'm clear that I'm not God, and so I struggle with it every now and then, sometimes more than others. I remember hearing this couple saying that God forgives all our sins, so they could keep on having their extra-marital affair since they were already forgiven. That "blew my mind" that anyone could be so glib, and in the face of God no less, but then, as sad as I am at having to admit it, I was too, once long ago. Maybe as I realize that God had to send His only begotten son down here to be brutalized to death in order for us to be forgiven for all our sins, I begin to realize that maybe I don't know the true depth of what real forgiveness is. And then somewhere along the line old angers return towards people that I feel have done me wrong, and I wonder, can I ever really forgive anyone. I came to the conclusion not but a few weeks ago that I alone could never forgive anyone. That's when I became truly aware of what the phrase "In Jesus' name" really meant. Thanks for asking your question. I don't think I've ever been able to sit down at any one point in my life and crystalize my understanding about forgiveness that I have worked at least 25 to develop. God Bless you.

Answer 6

Depends on what that person did. It is not always so easy to forgive and forget. Yes life is short (not boring) so why should we continue to be around that individual, life like they say is a big ocean and there are alot more people out there that can be your acquaintances or friends.

Answer 7

I think it's rather because people don't want to forgive even if life is short and boring. They'd rather be right and greedy rather than give some credit to someone else for a chance. It isn't hard, it feels good actually, but then the person makes you feel like you're the worst person to walk the Earth. It's weird when someone appolagizes, also. You feel like, " Hey! Someone just appolagized to me! Oh my gosh, that totally friggin rocks! Weeeeeeee!", I guess you could feel like that or you could be like, "You 'd better be appolagizing!".

Answer 8

Well my life is far from boring- I have under my avatar that same saying "Life Is Short" because I almost died and it made me realize my own mortality real quick, when people start to realize how precious life is then it means more to you and the people you love do too.I refuse to not forgive because it makes life harder on me if I don't. It's just not worth it and if some people want to stay mad then - they are wasting their own time in life away!

Answer 9

I think most people can find it in their hearts to forgive someone, but the problem comes in "forgettting" what they did that hurt us. This is something that I definitely struggle with and it is not a trait that I am very proud of. I think it is human nature for people to replay old wounds in our memories, and then the feelings of hurt, anger, and betrayal resurface and we have to remind ourselves to let it go.

Answer 10

Forgiving is easy. The tougher part is meaning it because we have all kinds of troubles forgetting the wrongs (real or imagined) that were done to us.