I'm 5 weeks pregnant?

Question

I just found out today that i was pregnant but i'm not really ready for that. what can i do? I'm so depress right now i don't know what to do.

Answer 1

some people, including me, aren't/weren't ready to be pregnant. but the truth is - you are. now what you need to do, first off, is try to look at this pregnancy objectively and when you aren't so blue. you have choices. keep the baby, abort it or give it up for adoption. think it through rationally cuz either way, whatever choice you make will stay with you.

when i found out i was pregnant, i was shocked. i'm 28 years old and honestly, i didn't feel i was mentally ready for a child. i wanted to be free of that responsibility - staying up late, driking, partying, and doing what i wanted to do when i wanted and how i wanted. but - when i took that test at the doctor to confirm it, it all clicked. i was ready. there are times in my mind even now that i feel that i can't go on with this and wish i wasn't pregnant. but, feeling those flutters in my stomach, seeing those ultrasounds of my growing child and even hearing it's heartbeat - i know that i made the right decision. i know that it's right because it feels right. even if i start doubting it again. i know that this is right.

but what's right for me may not be right for you. i understand that you're scared and depressed about it. you may even feel trapped by this pregnancy. i know i did at first. but, you need to align yourself to where you can rationally think and make a decision. don't let your sadness choose your path in this. you must think with your head and feel with your heart. do you want this baby? if you do, do you want to keep it or do you want to give it away? if you don't want it, do you want to have an abortion? now when you think of all those, think of the consequences. sure, an abortion would be less stressful compared to having a child, but - in some cases, the idea that you actually killed that little person who is a part of you will stay with you forever. think on that.

relax. breath. and think clearly. you have a choice. there are no easy ways out though. each has a consequence, some more than others. think with your head and feel with your heart.

wow, now that i'm done with this enlightening talk, i will now leave you to your decision. and just to add, i'm not pro-life, i am pro-choice, but pro-life for myself. though in my sadness about the pregnancy, i did consider abortion. but i'm glad i kept it. but that's me. but i want to congratulate you on your pregnancy anyways. think of your baby. think of you.

Answer 2

First, you need to calm down. Don't be depressed. Being pregnant can be a very happy thing. Let me tell ya...when I found out I was pregnant, I was the happiest girl in the world, but then my family wasn't. I got yelled at, cused at, and told that I was "too young". But as my pregnancy progressed they lightened up to the idea. You know the options...abortion, adoption, or have it. And even if you do have it and you realize that you aren't ready and maybe you dont' have the money for adoption...you can safely drop your baby off at any hospital or fire department without worry of persecution. Abortion is an option...some people look down upon it, but the choice is totally up to you. If you feel like this is it, then you need to do it soon, before you get too far along. If you don't have anyone to talk to about this, I would suggest calling a planned parenthood. They can help with making your decision and seeing it through. Good luck

Answer 3

You can chill out and let it set in for a few days and then get to work (mentally). Make sure you have a good job and a place to live. You don't HAVE to get married. If the man you're pregnant by is still around, have him help you out and be support. At this point you don't want to get married just becuase you're pregnant. Having a support system will help you through this, so get in touch w/ your mom, aunts, sisters, really close best friends and your boyfriend or husband or casual friend that you got pregnant by. A lot of people aren't ready for it. Nobody ever really is to tell you the truth. People may have PLANNED it but they're not exactly ready.

Answer 4

If you are not ready to have a baby, then you probably shouldn’t go through with it.
When you are ready you will know it, and it will be a wonderful and welcome change to your life. But if you don’t want this, having it could ruin your life and possibly many others’ lives as well, including the baby’s (for example, if you are not mentally, emotionally, or financially secure enough for it - they cost a lot of money and take up a lot of time and resources from you and your family). Terminating the pregnancy is sometimes the best option.
It is understandable to be a little depressed about it – because it is an unwelcome surprise, and because of what other people might think, and because people in this society are so judgmental about your decisions and actions. Don’t worry about what others think. Later in life when you decide to have children, then you can start doing what’s best for them. For now, do what is right and best for YOU.

Answer 5

you have 3 options to keep the baby, have an abortion and put the baby up for adoption. i know its scary and its a big decision but first off you need to stop stressing and then talk to someone you trust family, a friend, or if possible the father of the baby he made that baby to so he should be by your side right now. go to planned parenthood they will help you figure everything else they wont push anything on you its your body your decision. they have counlslors there to talk to you. i know this is scary been in your shoes i was 15 and pregnant mistakes happen i choose abortion and i dont regret it at all i was to young and immature at that time. im 24 and now i have my son hes 3 and baby on the way im 7 weeks pregnant and a very loving fiance now. if i choose to keep that baby i dont think i would have my family i have now. but nomatter what we tell you on here you should do whats right for you.

Answer 6

I know how you feel......... i remember when i was first found out i was pregnant i was so depressed i said how could this happen to me because i was not ready for a baby. But, i knew i was doing ground up things and this was one of things that can pop up pregnancy and i had to face the fact that this happen. I cryed for weeks. Now for me there was no other options abortion no, adoption no, so i decided to keep my baby. And I remember the first time I heard my baby heart beat thats was one joyish times ever. I was happiest person in the world listening to my baby heartbeat at 12 weeks pregnant I smiled all day that day. And til this day i look forward to hearing his heart beat at every appt.

I just think you need a lttle time for it to set in most women are depress when that find out that they are pregnant. so be happy for you little.

CONGRATS!!!!!!!!

Answer 7

Well I hate to ask why you are putting yourself in the situation to GET pregnant if you are not ready to BE pregnant, but one must wonder..........

At 5 weeks there are many options available I suggest making an appointment with a local Planned Parenthood AND a Crisis Pregnancy Center. Planned Parenthood will push termination down your throat as if it is your ONLY choice (they claim not to, but someone who has been there done that will tell you differently) a Crisis Pregnancy Center will most likely discuss other alternatives to termination such as adoption, etc.

Whatever your decision take measures not to put yourself in this situation again if you are not READY to be a mother!

Answer 8

just take a week or so to think about things clearly, just think there is plenty of people who would love a baby, but it is not possible, being a mum is hard, but it is the most rewarding thing you will ever do....you will not regret it for a second. But in saying that, if you truly do not want it, maybe giving the baby up for adoption would be the nicer option, that way you can make an unlucky couple happy.
You may feel like you are not ready, but motherhood honestly.....you can never be 100% ready for it, you just have to go with it.....and trust me when i say as soon as you see your gorgeous babie's face all your fears will melt away.
Congratulations and good luck.....(remember there are always people you can talk to about support)

Answer 9

I think you should sit down and really think about what you want to with this pregnancy before you take any drastic measures. Is the father around? If so have a good talk with him and see how he feels about the subject. See how much more different your life will be with this baby, and then decide, just remember whatever decision you come to will be a permanent one.
Good luck, with the decision you make....= )

Answer 10

If I were you I would go down to a pregnancy crisis center or a planned parenthood. There are people there who are more than happy to help you figue out what is the best thing for you to do.