My husband and I are having our first baby, this is also his mother’s first grandchild.
She is very excited about the baby, but doesn’t want to know if the baby is a girl or boy and wants to keep it a surprise for as long as possible.
We have known for weeks that we are having a baby girl.
My mother-in-law is kind of upset that we haven’t been giving her updates on the baby, but we are worried about slipping up and saying “she” and ruining the surprise. She is the only one in the family who wants to keep it a surprise so she doesn't hear any baby news.
Do you think this is silly? We want to respect her wishes, but it’s weird to us and I am starting to feel bad for avoiding baby stuff around her.
Any advice?
2007-03-23 11:47:17 · 16 answers · asked by PrettyWifey 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
She doesn't have email. :(
2007-03-23 11:53:32 · update #1
what are you going to do when you have a baby shower?? keep it from everyone again? no, let it slip, in a few months it wont matter. and you may want to put it this way to your MIL:
don't you really want to get to know the baby inside me as a real person instead of waiting to be suprized? she'll get over it. and maybe have your husband let it slip, it'll be easier to forgive from him than you. =)
2007-03-23 11:54:29 · answer #1 · answered by pwrgrlmanda 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My dad doesn't want to know the gender of our baby either (he's the only one). We'll be finding out on Tuesday if we've got a boy or girl coming, and then he (and a bunch of my family) will be in town that weekend.
Ummm, I'm pretty much expecting that someone in my family is going to slip and say "he" or "she" in front of my dad - oh well, he'll get over it - it's not like he's going to be mad at my family's excitement.
2007-03-23 12:16:50 · answer #2 · answered by daisyk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same thing happened with me except that it was my dad that didn't want to know. I was just very careful about what I said to him but I didn't have to be for long because my brother slipped up and told him...oops LOL. I am just glad that it wasn't me and now everyone knows. Whatever happens...happens. It is your baby and your life. If it slips and she finds out...oh well. There are worse things that could happen. Good luck!!
2007-03-23 12:24:53 · answer #3 · answered by rosie91380 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since its not you or your husband who don't want to know, you really can't hide it that well. it won't be easy cater to her request. if you sign up for a baby registry with gender specific items she will find out if she see's it. you should just warn her not to look at it. maybe she can help you with diabers, formula..the essential. if you really wanted to make sure she never knows you would have to go all neutral. room, clothing, bedding. everything.
i'm having a girl as well and if my mother-in-law had this request i just wouldn't be able to accept it. i would not go the extra mile to make sure she didn't find out. it just wouldn't be possible with the color scheme i already have planned out.
the best thing you can do is have her avoid the baby room, registery, and anything else that can let her know. and she would have to avoid the baby shower of course since the rest of the amily know.
2007-03-23 13:20:20 · answer #4 · answered by LaRae L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start calling the baby by one of those boy/girl names ie Pat, Robyn, etc.
Tell her, if she asks, its just your nickname for the baby b/c she doesn't want to know the answer.
So she'll never really find out unless someone says when "she's" born. but seriously that is an almost impossible secret. OR you could say, would rather we have a healthy baby or what sex?
I mean, its your kid & you should enjoy it too.
2007-03-23 11:56:04 · answer #5 · answered by belligerent assistant 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you comprehend if she's feeling harm on account which you're no longer giving her toddler information than ask her which she'd prefer. a million) No information so the toddler is a ask your self. Or 2) information with the prospect which you will slip and supply the intercourse away. That way she is only no longer waiting to whinge because of the fact she'll make the alternative.
2016-10-01 09:36:05 · answer #6 · answered by durrell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to be rude but it is your baby, and you shouldnt have to feel unconfortable talking about your own child because a relative dosent want to know the sex. I would still try to be a little careful when around her but I wouldnt let it stress me out.
2007-03-23 12:02:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is weird. You are much sweeter then I would ever be to my mil. Give her updates and if you slip you slip.......not sure what the big deal is. If it was my grand baby........I would want to be out getting pink or blue.
2007-03-23 11:54:30 · answer #8 · answered by JS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. i think that you just need to update her. tell her why you havnt been keeping her updated. if it slips, it slips. its not her baby. you found out because its your baby. if i were you, i would just tell her that you know the sex of the baby.
i hope this has helped.
good lucks and congrats!
2007-03-23 11:58:11 · answer #9 · answered by LISA C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Send her updates in email. That way you can proof read everything you say before you send it and you won't be as likely to slip up.
2007-03-23 11:51:53 · answer #10 · answered by I love sushi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋