And got recently divorced. the baby is someone elses. Is it advisable or should the person wait till after the baby's birth to start dating?
2007-03-23 11:25:50 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I think that right now, you two should remain friends because there is too much unknown. First off, the divorce is too fresh. You never know who is going to have a change of heart. the husband could begin to feel guilty and/or miss his child and the lady is usually vulnerable to wanting her family to be complete. She may fall back into wanting to be with her ex. She will certainly accept your desire for a relationship right now because having a man is WAAAYYY better than having a baby alone...but I think she will also be appreciative of your friendship. That may grow in time, but she shouldn't be resentful if you need time to make sure this is good for you.
2007-03-23 11:40:31 · answer #1 · answered by TEXY1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dating someone that is pregnant is not wrong. Just remember that the child didnt ask to be there and if you like the mother enough then why would there be a problem. Even if the childs biological father wants to be in its life thats cool. But you never know. If you want to be part of this womans life, you would have to take the child into your life as well. Not meaning you have to be responsible for it or anything, but not hurting it either.
I have several children and three of them have a different father and one belongs to my bf now. He treats all my kids good even though they arent his. So why should you not date a woman who is pregnant... its the best way to keep from having one of your own right now... ha ha... just joking.
If you date her, then keep in mind that she is going to have a baby. Be cautuious with the active sex life though, she can tell you what she can do or not do.
Besides, people would just think that the child is yours, so when you go out and they say something, just go along with it and you dont even have to tell them its not yours unless you want to but why bother....? Enjoy your friendship with the mother, who knows, it may become something special for the two of you and that baby...
2007-03-23 18:48:21 · answer #2 · answered by cowgirlduchess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait a few and see how her relationship with her ex plays out. Pregnancy and having a baby brings feelings of wanting to make your family work. This usually goes on for about the first year of the baby's life. It normally doesn't work out because the parents get back together for the child and not because they love each other.
2007-03-23 19:19:36 · answer #3 · answered by Nicole O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met my husband when my son was 7 months old. If I had met him when I was pregnant, I wouldnt have dated him even if he wanted to. So much is about to change and through this person for a loop. I say remain friends and after things settle down a bit after the baby comes, then consider getting into a relationship. Good Luck
2007-03-23 18:40:17 · answer #4 · answered by Kristin Pregnant with #4 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sound like a personal decision to me. Just ask yourself a few questions before you dive in too deep.
Can you handle the fact of her having a child by another man?
When she has the baby are you going to be able to help her out, and be okay with the fact your not going to be the center of attention anymore?
Just think about all the things that pregnant women need, can you handle it?
2007-03-23 18:43:14 · answer #5 · answered by rhiannon87 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend who just had a baby and the guy left her, but now she's with another guy, that loves her and her 5 mnth old baby. It can work out, but sometimes it doesn't, its up to u if u want to deal with it without feeling like ur "Dealing" with it, ur choice to become a part of their lives, big decision.
2007-03-23 18:34:12 · answer #6 · answered by Lorelei's Mommy ( & prego) 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you like ther person, keep on dateing them! Pregnant people need friends too ya'know.
2007-03-23 18:34:19 · answer #7 · answered by Oh Wow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a bad situation...my advise is run in the opposite direction!
2007-03-23 18:31:40 · answer #8 · answered by Terry 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋