It has been almost four years that I am with my current boyfriend (name:W) and it has been almost four years that I have broken up with my ex (name:M). I use to love M more than anything, but we lost out and now M has been dating W's sister for almost the same amount of time I have been dating W. But I'm confused about the love area. I have lived with W for a year and we want to get married, but just last week M kissed me on St. Patty's day, but we where all drunk (all of us!) Me, M, W, and W's sister. M kissed me twice (just a peck!). But I thought i had got over him already, so why am I so intrigued with him again. I'm very honest and I told my boyfriend W and he said it wasn't my fault. But why do I miss M so much. I love M's girlfriend (infact she would be a sister in law soon!) So, what should I do with M? I feel like I should confront him or say something? HELP?
2007-03-23 11:20:05 · 9 answers · asked by deadgrl6 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you are very happy with W, then Stick with him. If you think M only kissed you because he was drunk, then it may not have meant anything to him. Maybe you should talk to M, to see if he even remembers anything, and if he did, then find out why he did it. If W didn't get mad and take things out on you that makes a Good Man. and that is the kind of man I like. To answer your question; just continue being M's friend, and nothing more. Since you and M dated before and things didn't workout, they may not work out if you two got back together. So don't throw away 4 years with W for a short time you may have with M.
2007-03-23 12:01:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
did you miss him before the kissing thing or you realized that after? why don't you find a polite way of confronting him , M, with what the kiss meant? Probably you are intrigued because he kissed you. it's not rocket science. you would be intrigued even if someone you hardly knew kissed you. I hope he doesn't date W's sister to be near you or to spite you. In my opinion, it's probably nothing major. He was drunk and you probably still excite him sexually. So you did not make it as a couple but there is some sexual tension still there. no big deal. anyway, if he LOVES you, let him express his feelings or else, take a deep breath and continue with W. You don't throw away four years of succesful relationship like that.
don't worry if he has something to say, he will or else he will look ashamed and avoid you.
2007-03-23 11:35:26 · answer #2 · answered by sarah kay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really thinking of making friends is a good idea when you are youth. All of your friends could be a lifetime fun
relationship. Let's put it this way. Intimacy is private. The
excitement is not realistic. Touching and cooing is free, and
is available when your older to make central feelings more
clear. Someday when you can hold hands and not want to
kiss, you will be able to walk off and get an ice cream. Make it a point to keep serious committment on a back burner, where you have every right to know what compatible
person is good for your whole life. Maybe work on a shared
hobby for now.
2007-03-23 11:31:32 · answer #3 · answered by mtvtoni 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should have anything further to do with M. If you care about your current boyfriend, just go forward and don't look back. Remember when people are drinking and partying, mistakes are made. He probably meant no harm and it is doubtful that he is interested in another relationship with you. Move on with your life.
2007-03-23 11:28:49 · answer #4 · answered by Jan C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront him and tell him that you do want him kissing you and ask him why he did it. Maybe you are making too much of this and he only did it cause everyone was having a great time. Confront him if you want.. but you may cause a big rift with W and his sis.
2007-03-23 11:28:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you keep this up, you may lose a good thing, your ex, may not think of you like that. You need to thank God for what you have. and not think the grass is greener on the other side. You have a lot to lose, and a lot of people will be hurt.
2007-03-23 11:27:10 · answer #6 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you contacted jerry springer,,,just kidding,,youre new boyfreind sounds very uderstanding so dont hurt him he must love you very much and think about the pain you would cause everyone if you and m got back together,you both would lose youre friends and cause jealousy,,,and you would eventually hash up the past by throwing each others relationships back and forth,,you and m are just very good friends,,
2007-03-23 11:43:07 · answer #7 · answered by lowerthanaslave 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you feel like you have to choose, your not ready to be in a relationship with either of them. No matter who you choose, you will still keep thinking of the other one. Once you stop the codependency then will the answer of who will be answered.
2016-03-29 01:24:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop being such a hoodrat....
2007-03-23 11:24:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋