Married and Hubby loves internet Porno?

Question

Hi I need some help. We married and got a baby on the way and my hubby loves internet porno. He hides it away from me. But when I found Bank statement I see that he spent over $500 to $1 000 a month on Just porno. I would yell and say you additced and you need to do something about it.

First of all he hides from me and I will find bank statements and made him call so we can confirm where was the money used. And we also go to the Therapy and he's not yet ready to talk about it. So i'm not trying to force him. So help me I caught him so many times he willapologize and go back to the same internet porno and pays for it. I will try my best to give him best sex. Looks like whateva i'm doing is not helping.

I need some real help myself but I truly love him and I dont wanna give up on him.

Answer 1

This is normal. The amount of porn use a guy does spikes when he gets married and has a baby on the way. Guys like having sex all the time, and they think marriage will be like that....you get to live with a woman and have sex all the time. Sadly, it does not happen that way. And the baby will only make it worse for him. You are likely already into the 'no sex mommy' mode. Where you refuse to have sex with him and only think about the baby.

And this is not something any guy will talk about in therapy.(Therapy is after all a woman thing). It's pointless to talk about....a)you won't have more sex and b)you won't accept him looking at any porn. So where is the compromise? He gains nothing by talking about it. You could try a limit for him....however, you need to increase whatever you think it should be(like once a week) by a factor of ten to make it work for him.