My friend is like really competitive and stuff and she always has to be better then me. Also she likes to control me. For example, she nearly made me buy a dog I didn't like at all. She scares me so I do what she wants me 2 do. It makes me scared that she can push me around like this, but then we have a lot of fun together, sometimes. My mom won't help and I really just can't say 'I don't want to be friend anymore' because we have been best friends for a long time. *Xtra Info*: she hates me 2 b friends with people she doesn't particularily like. For instance, she doesn't want me 2 b friends with this kid I get along with a lot because she thinks she is 'too girly and snotty' even though she is xtra xtra both of those things. Other then say no to her, what else can I do to help my situation and just be strong. Plus she tells lies A LOT so I can never trust that she is telling the truth. She is so manipulative I really don't know what to do. I don't want to be a door mat for anyone!
2007-03-23 11:07:19 · 16 answers · asked by lordessgoosie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
hit her in the head with a shovel
2007-03-23 11:10:12 · answer #1 · answered by Samantha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I'm curious, how does she scare you, in what way?. I think it's terrible when friends want to be your ONLY friend and they take you for granite. Because you have been friends for a long time she assumes she can do or say anything and you'll let her get by with it, as if you can't get along without her. Just sit her down and tell her that you'd hate to end your friendship with her, but you can't and won't live like this anymore. Say it like you mean it. She's apparently aware of your weaknesses. If you have a hard time confronting her, then sit down and write her a straight forward, to the point letter. You do know that the best friends can become the worst enemies, so tell her that you don't want to see this happen between the two of you, but you refuse to be her puppet anymore. Good luck sweety:)
2007-03-23 11:24:57 · answer #2 · answered by gone2soon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does she have family problems? Sometmes people treat their friends like that because they have people treating them that way. Only you know the depth's of your friendship. Saying no and letting her know when you disagree sounds like a simple solution but carrying it out can be complicated. Try to be careful of her feelings but be upfront with her. She is going to be unhappy ( in fact she probably is) if she continues to treat people that way she will push them away and she is pushing you away. Don't engage in competition.. If she is trying to get you to do something you don't want to do, tell her firmly no and tell her why. If she can't accept your response that is really her problem not yours. Tell her how much fun you have together and how important she is to you but her behaviors are really hurting you. She is probably pretty insecure so be sure she understands you are telling her as a friend who cares. Friends don't have to agree all of the time,nobody does. They do have to learn how to agree to disagree. If she gets mad and doesn't want to talk to you, let her know the door is open when she does. If she can't treat you better maybe you need a different friend, sometimes no matter what you say or do people are just like that and they have to fix themselves. I hope you can work it out with her but don't be a doormat, for her sake as well as yours. Good luck
2007-03-23 11:27:01 · answer #3 · answered by zookeeper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK.
You are growing up - and it's time for you to stand up for you.
Hard as it may seem, you have to break off from this friend.
Don't let your fear of what could happen stop you.
This is one of life's big lessons: look fear in the eye and do what is right. When you are done, you will be proud of yourself.
Use school to keep you separate from her. Join after school groups that she isn't part of - you will make new friends there.
Schedule different lunch times and classes too.
Tell her that it's grow up time and you both need to make new friends. That lots of kids in your class are doing the same thing - it's just time to make new friends.
It'll be good for both of you actually.
Most of all - just do it. Be strong and just do it and get it over with.
Best wishes.
2007-03-23 11:18:14 · answer #4 · answered by Stan W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm..I know this is hard, but lose her. She is a bad friend. You don't deserve her. Is she popular? Because she's not going to be for long. People are going to realize they don't want to hang around someone like that. Just keep being nice like you are to everyone and you'll make millions of friends that really are true.
2007-03-23 11:13:20 · answer #5 · answered by j;eaojtoig;45jho;54ihu;45hujt54 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to get read of her,don't open the door when she comes over tell your mom to tell her your not home when she calls you.Remember she can't do anything to you unless you allow her to.Are you afraid she might beat you up,I think you would like to stay friends with her if only she would stop trying to rule your world.
2007-03-23 15:36:37 · answer #6 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i exploit to have a chum like each and each time she has soreness or while she's depressed I convenience and hear her issues, and pats me on the pinnacle no longer hassle-free like if i became her dogs.She constantly asking me who's my ultimate chum i say somebody who isn't her and she or he gets all mad.(she is a marvelous chum yet no longer each and each of the time.)and a guy ugh he gets on my nerves I only end putting out with him.what you will desire to do is locate yet another new chum that certainly listens to you and would not hit you its ok if its for exciting and not no longer hassle-free how a chum does it yet ugh....only ignore approximately her and notice how she'll react( if she finally ends up being mean to you ignore approximately it it incredibly is all she needs getting you mad and giving up.)the chum moved so its a alleviation yet I form of omit her.
2016-10-01 09:34:31 · answer #7 · answered by durrell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What i would do is say "hello this is my life and i want to make my own decissions so backoff!" I dont know why you stand her. I had a friend like that and broke that friendship. I got other friends way better than her. So Good LUCK!!2u
2007-03-23 11:13:45 · answer #8 · answered by Im cold? 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She's been your friend for a long time. You must like being a doormat. You don't have to talk to her or do anthing with her. You choose too. It sounds like you like being treated like this or you would have gotten out of this so called friendship.
2007-03-23 11:13:31 · answer #9 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow from what you are saying......................I think you need to walk away, and maybe find a new friend, You need to ask yourself.............is this the type of person I want for a best friend. Is this the type of person I can benefit from knowing. Good luck
2007-03-23 11:13:17 · answer #10 · answered by J Lee 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋