hello,i have a 16yr old daughter that has a inseperatable girlfriend(15 yr old partner in crime).my daughter wants me to treat her as a adult and wants me to trust her cries about it but i keep finding out bad stuff secrets, pregnancy scare,cigerettes,weed,stealing money,and recently she toped all off by her and her friend sneeking 2 boys in my house in the middle of thenight while i was sleeping older boys her freind bearly knew and my daughter didnt at all.i cant stop this girl from being around they always seem get back around each other,even though i really dislike the girl and hate her around.Shes been grounded for 3 weeks and hasnt seen girl but shes already beggin again,my son who also lives here and is20 says if she comes back here gona be a fight he doesnt like her niether and if she does come i feel i have sleep on couch to prevent any further ideas of sneaking boys in or worse them sneeking out i dont want her flee or runaway and go friends house niether so what should i do
2007-03-23 11:04:44 · 5 answers · asked by wh1te_diamond06 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Tough age. Hang in there. I think the only advice to you is move. Relocate yourself and her as far away as possible (if possible) to the country and away from urban areas. Of course you'll have to do it fast and without her knowledge in advance. Get some relatives and friends to help you move after you do. Explain to her why you are doing it. Because you care for her well being.
Is her real father in the picture? Or not around. She definitely needs some discipline from the sound of it.
Good luck with whatever you decide. My girl is still young but I am dreading those teen years when they come.
2007-03-23 11:12:42 · answer #1 · answered by hexler98 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't pick your daughter's friends. So make sure your daughter understands that she will be treated in a manner that is consistent with how she acts - i.e. if she wants to be treated like an adult she should act like one. Real, and reasonable, adults wouldn't sneak around. As for sneaking boys in the house, I have a suggestion for punishment. I know somebody who used this method and it worked. Remove her bedroom door. This way you will always know whose in her room, you'll be able to hear what is going on in there much better, and she will be stripped of her privacy. The person I know who used this method had a 15 year old daughter. They didn't give her door back for nearly 3 months.
Good luck. I hope you find an effective way of dealing with your problem.
2007-03-23 12:15:21 · answer #2 · answered by w8nc 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would call the other girls mother explaine that the friendship is not a good one so they should not be around eachother. Also i would get an alarm system for when you go to bed, that kind of action from your daughter will become a worse problem if you dont stop it, Stick to your guns. if she does run away call the police as a runaway. You r the parent dont let her walk all over you.....Good luck!!it realy is a tough job..
2007-03-23 11:17:21 · answer #3 · answered by c_schreel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is not alot you can do, your daughter is going to do what she wants to do. You can set down rules and give her consequesnces for her actions. I know putting my girls in sports, beauty pagents and other activities kept them too busy to have a social life out side of the activities. You could also try counseling or making her get a job. Its hard being a parent of teen girls, I knoe I have 5.
2007-03-23 11:12:16 · answer #4 · answered by Sweetie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get real. Your daughter is screaming for your attention. And all you can do is to ground her? Get involved in your daughter's life and get her involved in yours. Spend TIME with your daughter. That is the only way she is going to learn from you!
2007-03-23 11:58:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anpadh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋