What kind of help do we need and how do I go about getting it?

Question

For a spouse who called his elementary age child "ding dong", denying his paternity, threatening divorce, lying, and blaming.
He may not want help. He has acted like this before towards me.

Answer 1

You need to seek a marriage councilor either with your husband or without him. You are not in a very healthy relationship from the sounds of it and something needs to done.
Personally I'd cut my loses and divorce the low-life. He doesn't sound like much of a winner and more of a pain in the **** than anything else.

Answer 2

This child does not deserve this type of name calling. Tell this man immediately you will not stand for this. This child will grow up remembering this and may have issues resulting from this. Think of the child first.
Why stay or want to be with a person who does such a thing? If he or she cannot take responsibility for his actions, a relationship will never stand. Always putting others down and making them feel as if they are the ones who are wronging him is not the answer and definitely will not work (it will only make himself feel better). He will not change if he is allowed to remain this way.

Answer 3

Run, don't walk to the nearest exit. He is ruining both of your self-esteems. Unfortunately for your child the longer (s)he is in that situation the more longer lasting the effects will be. If you have a daughter and she sees this she will marry a man just like him and think that that is the best she can do. Please show your kids independance. If you do he MIGHT come around and change his ways. If not, his loss.

Answer 4

You need a divorce. Call a lawyer.
Please get your child out of that situation. Even if you think you can handle it, your child can't, either mentally or emotionally..
And it will have long term adverse effects on you, too.

Answer 5

A marriage counselor and if that doesn't work, I would say get out. It is unfair to you and the child to live in an environment like that. Would you want your child to be stuck in a relationship like that?

Answer 6

Contact his elders and tell them about his situation. They might help you & just recite him the following verses from the God almighty:
God hears the words of the woman who complains to Muhammad about the cruelty of her husband; God hears her words when she complains directly to him. God listens to everything that is said; he hears all and observes all.

-Qur'an, Al-Mujadilah, Surah 58:1

A kind word of forgiveness is better than charity accompanied by insults. God is self-sufficient and merciful.

-Qur'an, Al-Baqara, Surah 2:263
Allah accepts the repentance of those who do evil in ignorance and repent soon afterwards; to them will Allah turn in mercy: For Allah is full of knowledge and wisdom.

-Qur'an, An-Nisa, Surah 4:17
I ask whether I should seek any god besides God--when he is the Lord of all things. All people will reap the harvest of their own deeds; no one will bear another’s burden. Ultimately, all of you will return to your Lord, and he will resolve your disputes.

-Qur'an, Al-An'am, Surah 6:163-164
Each person will be given a book. Those who are given their books in their right hands will be judged leniently; and they will return to their people joyfully. But those who are given their books in their left hands will call down destruction on themselves, and burn in the fire of hell. They are the people who have never cared for their neighbours; they thought they would never return to God. Their Lord watches all that people do.

-Qur'an, Al-Inshiqaq, Surah 84:7-15
Allah Himself bears witness that there is no God but Him. The angels and those endowed with wisdom also bear witness that there is no God save Him. Only He executes true justice; indeed He is the Omnipotent, Judicious.

-Qur'an, Al-Imran, Surah 3:18

If misfortune befalls you, it is the consequence of your own actions. Yet God forgives much. On this earth you can not escape God; and there is no one apart from God who can protect or help you.

-Qur'an, Ash-Shura, Surah 42:30-31

"For to us will be their return; then it will be for us to call them to account." (Holy Quran 88:25-26)

Ans. From Khi., Pakistan.