It's painful just with entry, and it's painful inside where i don't even want any movement. How are we ever gonna do it if i can't take the dislikiable comfort in it.
2007-03-23 10:33:37 · 14 answers · asked by Go girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
how is sex suppose to be anyway. how can an girl find it enjoyable with it being like this.
2007-03-23 10:35:05 · update #1
I also don't find myself sexual turn on by him, I don't know how to get turn on, girls help me, how do you get turn on.
2007-03-23 10:42:10 · update #2
He says i tease him alot and he gets turn on.
but how can he tease me.
2007-03-23 10:45:37 · update #3
He ask me what turn me on, but i don't want to tell him, don't he know it's embrassing for a girl. Other than that sometimes i don't know how to explain it. I don't really know what exactly turns me on.
2007-03-23 10:48:14 · update #4
could this mean i'm not attracted to him and that we can't be together? What does this say about me and him?
2007-03-23 11:56:24 · update #5
Sounds like you have a medical problem, go see a doctor. It's shouldn't be that way during sex, in fact is should be the opposite.
2007-03-23 10:38:24 · answer #1 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ky helps a lot. I really don't know your medical condition to know what you mean by it hurting. Sex shouldn't hurt like the way you are suggesting it does for you. I would see a doctor. If this is your life partner then I would say it's only fair you see a doctor for him. That's a lot to ask of a man to not have sex for the rest of his life. Men need sex or they get irritable and restless. They may even find another partner after a while.
2007-03-23 19:47:47 · answer #2 · answered by sweet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are so many variables... Do the two of play around in bed so that you are nice and wet by the time intercourse is started? Does he please you in being with you? Have you ever enjoyed sex with anyone? If he is your only partner and he expects to climb on top of you and do his duty then it's no wonder you find it unpleasant. Have you told him so he can help with the problem? You two are both in bed together. This is his problem as much as it is yours.
Some possible solutions:
- Get a sex toy that you two can share. He can use it to play with you.
- Have him perform oral sex on you to get you wet.
- You get on top so you can control the amount of penetration.
- Try different positions, like doggy style.
- Try some lubricant like KY jelly.
You get turned on by being comfortable with your partner. Wine would help. Smoking weed will dry you up. Don't do it.
2007-03-23 17:44:37 · answer #3 · answered by Easter Bunny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See your doctor, what you're experiencing is not normal. Sex shouldn't be painful. I don't know how you can have your parter turn you on, it depends on the person - perhaps you just need to find a guy you are attracted to. You won't be attracted to each and every person you meet, but once you find someone who seems attractive to you, you won't have to ask what he can do to "tease" you.
But you do need to get treated for the medical problem you have. You can't go on like this.
2007-03-23 17:49:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not suppossed to hurt the whole time so if it is than either something is wrong with you medically or he doesnt know what he's doing.
but i will say this though, if you arent attracted to this person then dont sleep with them. its not likely that you will become more attracted to him just because you have sex, especially since it doesnt sound like it would be good.
the real question here though is why would you consider a person a life partner when you arent attracted to them and dont want to be intimate? whats the point of having a life partner without intimacy? a non intimate life partnet is just a friend.
2007-03-23 17:45:51 · answer #5 · answered by asg_is_chillin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The big problem I see is you stated he's your life partner yet you can't tell him what turns on, if he's your life partner you better start communicating other wise things will go from bad to worse. You also should try new things maybe a vibe or try some oral if it's not good for you it shouldn't be good for him and if he thinks it good....................
2007-03-23 18:28:53 · answer #6 · answered by miester44 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will never get anywhere without communication!!!! How can he be your life partner if you can't even talk about anything as important as this??!! Don't be embarrassed. Your happiness is at stake!!!!! Get off of Yahoo Answers and go talk!!!!! It will make a world of difference in your relationship!!
2007-03-23 18:38:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off, have you had any children? when a woman has a child and the child tears her when exiting the doctor has to stitch her up. sometimes she is stitched a little smaller than what she was before the child was born and this can cause painful intercourse.
2007-03-23 17:39:26 · answer #8 · answered by glue stick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need some type of lubricant K.Y. jelly? It's possible that you have something wrong too, like endometriosis? Talk to your gynecologist.
2007-03-23 17:38:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it is painful you are not relaxed enough or you are not comfortable with him so have a few glasses of wine or have a smoke and tell him what you like
2007-03-23 17:44:25 · answer #10 · answered by Lina K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋