im in a high school, and 2 years ago i used to hang out with friends and have lot of fun. But then we had a fight.Now i stay alone in my house in friday and saturday nights.
Im not at all dork or nerd, cause i can have fun in school wth friends, but in the other hand i dont feel like hangin out with them cause they re not THAT friends, sometimes they make fun of me.
Im afraid i become like this for the rest of my life,.. i mean, i hate knowing im staying home tonight hearing in the school the other people have lots of plan to do...i dont like to meet new people cause im afraid that people could turn into more people that picks on me.... i get pretty depressed on fridays and saturdays...i dont know what to do....Im afraid i become like this for the rest of my life... has someone passed through this...? help...
2007-03-23 10:33:08 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It's hard to believe, but high school is nothing compared to the rest of your life.
But, as hard as it may be for you, you need to put yourself out there and make friends. Everyone goes through what you are feeling, but they keep going anyway.
Watch other people on how they make friends and fit in, then do what they do yourself.
The bottom line in life is that no really cares if someone falls behind socially or not as they are too busy with their own lives so if you are going to move ahead, you have to do it yourself. No one will rescue you.
Now, get out there and good luck.
2007-03-23 10:39:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
More people go through this than you might think. You're perceptive enough to recognize that some people are not REAL friends! As to being "like this for the rest of your life," nothing lasts that long. You change all the time, and will soon be doing something different without even noticing the change.
2007-03-23 10:39:51 · answer #2 · answered by falconrf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're afraid to take chances with people, cuz maybe you're afraid that you'll have another fight and get rejected again.
Bag those morons that are making fun of you. You sound like you have fun in school with OTHER friends. Call them up, don't be shy. All of this is normal. At your age, I know, everything seems like it will be "for the rest of your life". It won't. Go hang out with other buds. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and go have a good time with other friends!! GOOD LUCK!!
2007-03-23 10:36:20 · answer #3 · answered by smartazz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been through that a few times actually.
All you can really do is learn to find new people. Learn how to care about yourself, and then get out there and look for someone who gives you the respect you deserve. Don't let people pick on you, you don't deserve that.
If someone picks on you, get rid of them. Thats the only way to find true friends. If it takes some time to trust yourself enough to go out and meet some new people, don't worry about it, you aren't going to be like that the rest of your life if you are spending the time working on yourself.
Good luck.
2007-03-23 10:39:23 · answer #4 · answered by philenacarter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, calm down hon it's not the end of the world. At your age WE all go through that. It's ok, if they don't wanna be your friends it's their loss. You will eventually find a different circle of friends. Find something to do in the meantime that's fun for you, but this won't ruin your life or turn you into this person you're thinking. Good luck!
2007-03-23 10:41:10 · answer #5 · answered by shygal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey, I think we all have had a similiar problem at one time or another when we were teens...I think you need to find someone you think you can be a friend to and with, then plan a night out with them and socialize...
We're all somewhat socially challenged in making new friends, we never have a "crystal ball" to tell us whether it will work out or not, but how do you know unless you try?
Goodluck dear...truly...my heart aches for you, BUT KNOWS, if you take a few steps forward in this regard, you will learn much about yourself and be better for it.
Grace
2007-03-23 10:37:57 · answer #6 · answered by bunnyONE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all people are like that. You just need to keep searching for your "true" friends. Or, don't hang out with the same people everytime so that they are not close enough to know your secrets. Expand your social circle and hang out with all types of people, and you'll get to know a bunch of stuff in the process...
2007-03-23 10:37:49 · answer #7 · answered by Eden 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have gone through this. I have friends that I dont hang out with my friends from school and I do get a little lonely because I have nothing to do. The solution is to go and hang out with your fam. I always go out with them and it is a blast! Dont worry about it.
2007-03-23 10:38:31 · answer #8 · answered by Mickey James 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are not your friends if they are making fun of you. real friends do not make fun of friends.I had a friend who picked on me some times. here,s how I Handel the situation. I stop ed talking to her.and I started socializing with other friends and other people.I also stared siting with other friends and met other people.I tried to not noticed her the best I could because she was asking stuck up when she was hanging out with this girl named Destiny she started treating bad and not wanting to hag out with me much. later on she started changing and stared treaing me right she stoped acting stckup after Destiny leaft.
2007-03-23 13:46:47 · answer #9 · answered by Carebear22 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to get over your fear of picking up another fight with new people. if you can't trust your current friends, then find a new set that you can trust and that will respect you for who you are and not make fun of you. there are billions and billions of people in the planet. and believe it or not, there are still several nice ones out there...
2007-03-23 10:37:43 · answer #10 · answered by schatz101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋