There are no problems in our marriage. He just will not touch me. I'm am not an ugly women and I am sure he's being faithful. WHY WON'T HE HAVE SEX WITH ME??????
2007-03-23 10:27:40 · 24 answers · asked by Carla S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ask him not us!
2007-03-23 10:32:41 · answer #1 · answered by ajtheactress 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
join the club girl!! mine is a lot like that too and as a matter of fact i am a fairly decent clean neat attractive woman yet mine he refuses sex and my friends have told me to stop initiating sex and act as if you do not want it and hopefully he will get the hint once u turn the tables on him. donnt beg him for sex either because i find when i did that he would get pis*ed at me and threated to make me wait another month. it is a miserable feeling girl i know i do understand you and my gosh u do deserve to be loved and made love to sex/making love/affection is a vital part in a marriage it is a bond that u share with him and no one else that makes it special but he seems to not be fufilling your needs and that is not right. if money is not tight try going to a sex therapist by yourself and he might get curious and might take a hint and just might want to go and help fix the situation. but also i found that having a hobby besides worrying about him makes them wonder...call up ur friends and have a girls night out go to a nice restaurant or go drink wine and chit chat with your friends and leave his butt at home and when u come home just ignore him totally he might just might get the hint that u dont "need" him...he might see u as needy and know that and see u as insecure and it is not sexually desireable to him. i am not saying u are but he might see it that way. i hope this helps cuz trust me girl i been there and it hurts like hell it really does and it is depressing. your feelings are valid.
2007-03-23 17:51:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask him that to figure out the problem. If he can't get it up...there is medicine for that. If he is gay...go find another man. If he is not attracted to you...you should know so you don't waste your life. Sex is an important part of your marriage. If you are not having sex, your marriage will never last.
2007-03-23 20:08:54 · answer #3 · answered by Sassy S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best answer for that is ask him why he doesn't want sex with you. maybe he'll be honest and tell you. There is certainly something wrong in your marriage or sex life that he doesn't like, find out what it is your not doing or are doing. You mean he never ever wants sex with you, you know he hasn't cheated on you with female or male. Do you really know this or ar you just telling yourself he isn't cheating. Find out ask him that is your best policy maybe he needs to see a Doctor or maybe there is something about you he doesn't like in your sex life or he may have a problem. Ask and you shall receive , maybe. He may be a jack off idiot or somethig like that, find out.
2007-03-23 18:10:41 · answer #4 · answered by Nicki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband may not want to have sex with you for a variety of reasons. You and he need to talk about this, and hopefully, you will open up to you about his reasons or thoughts. Open, honest communication, patience, and sincere reassurance are all necessary to get to the bottom of the situation. If this doesn't work, a counselor can help.
2007-03-26 22:35:36 · answer #5 · answered by Tweety 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mine either, and I know I'm not unattractive either. Maybe they're just bored with the same old thing? Maybe they're drives are just lower than ours. How old is he? That could be a factor, although mine is only 26 and we haven't done it for weeks. I'm positive he's not unfaithful, too. I've even tried to convince him to do new stuff, I've sent him sexy emails to get his mind on it, watched porn with him....nothing. I wish I knew what the problem was, so if you find out why yours isn't, let me know!
2007-03-23 17:59:52 · answer #6 · answered by 1978girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try sticking your finger up his butthole and see if he gets an errection. if he does the good news is that he's not impotent - the bad news is that he's a queer.
Another way you can find out and to have him touch another man's wiener and see if he gets exctied. This might be a little harder to do, but you can always tell him that since he doesn't want your holes, someone should have them before they grow shut.
In the early 16th century, men used to have to prove that they consumated their marriages. In order to do that, they would have their wife lift up her skirt and bend over so the other men could check. If the man was satisfied that she was deflowered he would pour honey down her crack, so the next person that wanted to check could just stick their finger down there and see if it tasted like honey. Hence the word HONEYMOON.
2007-03-23 18:08:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Maybe he is suffering decreased sex drive due to stress or medication,
You two need to talk, Im sure things can be worked out and I wish u both well together
Paul
2007-03-23 17:54:45 · answer #8 · answered by paulpoulboy. 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes there are problems...No sex is a BIG problem...If things aren't right in the bedroom...nothing will be right...So..get off the computer and go and have a serious talk with your man ..its time you got some answers to a BIG problem....Good luck....
2007-03-23 17:51:35 · answer #9 · answered by foxygirl29303 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lady your first statement is clear evidence that you have more problems than you can shake a stick at. You husband may be gay. If you don't want to consider this, then continue living a lie. It's your choice. Either you value yourself enough to move away from this stupidity or else stay trapped with someone that obviously does not care about you at all.
2007-03-23 17:40:57 · answer #10 · answered by Peggy G 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
maybe you arent attractive to him anymore, maybe he's going through some stuff personally, maybe his sex drive has dropped. who knows. the only way to find out is to ask him. maybe after all these years of marriage you need to talk to each other about what you really want out of your sex life. perhaps you havent done that yet. regardless if you do it now you will get a much better sense of what is going on with him than asking us.
2007-03-23 17:35:05 · answer #11 · answered by asg_is_chillin 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋