Yes, I managed to marry a guy for love when he apparently doesn't know how to love yet. I have been told that he is manipulative, potentially abusive, and certainly not good for me in the immediate future.
I put a lot of effort into the past 5 months of marriage just to discover after two years...that he has a different plan than he said. He doesn't mind hurting me to get to what he wants. He is not a criminal. He is not using me intentionally. But he is getting meaner by the week.
How to get rid of him. I owe the house. I had money till I spent it on us. He will skip out and make me take care of the details I can see it all now. And of course he is nice in between all the meanness.
How do I do it?
2007-03-23 10:13:02 · 15 answers · asked by kishoti 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
begin divorce proceedings, and get out of this as cleanly as u can. he may not be a criminal but his character is really bad. they all go into marriage promising the moon, acting like the knight in shining Armour, than when we have trusted them, and invested love and money, they will walk out leaving us with the mess. if he is mean to u, get a protective order against him, than file for divorce.
2007-03-23 10:34:48 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to go get some legl advice and ask questions about the things that are concerning you, that'd be your first step.
Don't let him make you feel guilty or scare you. Believe me it will probably only get worse if you decide to stay. But everyone is different, maybe he'd change. Try going to counseling if you think it would help and if you want to.
You've just got to be strong and get over your fears. He'll say a lot of things to try n get you to stay. Make sure its really what you want, you don't want to have regrets later on. And if hes being emotionally abusive, deffinately be careful it could develop into physical abuse. No one deserves to be treated like crap, they're are better men out there who would do anything to be with you and treat you like a queen. Everything will work itself out, just trust in God. Hope this helps.
2007-03-23 17:26:19 · answer #2 · answered by flierchic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he is liable for half of the bills and debt incurred. So you are only half as bad off as you original thought.
What you do is leave if you are unhappy. Deal with whatever is thrown at you and move on. It will be a whole lot easier to deal with a mean man if he is not sleeping in the same bed.
Make some big friends also, preferably police men. Sounds crazy but it works.
2007-03-23 18:54:45 · answer #3 · answered by Steffi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Court TV has some pretty good examples of how to do this. Just make sure not to make the same mistake the other wives made. Be sure to take out a nice insurance policy on him too.
2007-03-23 17:18:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you should do is contact a good lawyer. He/she should be able to give you advice on exactly how to go about leaving and make sure you don't get cheated in the process.
I'm so sorry you've had to go through this. Best of luck!
2007-03-23 17:18:02 · answer #5 · answered by Marie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to quit claim the deed to a family member and start moving your assets out of reach. He sounds like a loser if you already know he will skip and leave you holding the bag.
2007-03-23 17:28:30 · answer #6 · answered by Millionaire in training 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you pray and pack at the same time. Sometimes we make bad choices and this sounds like one. Material things go and come but your emotional self is more important.
2007-03-23 17:19:09 · answer #7 · answered by Peggy G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL..I THINK DAT DIS PERSON DOESNT SEEM TO DESERVE TO B UR HUSBAND..SO...HE IS DEFINETLY NOT UR TYPE OF PERSON..SO BETTER LET STOP THIS RELATIONSHIP TO GO FURTHER....ND D ULTIMATUM SHUD B A DIVORCE...IF AT ALL U DONT WANNA HURT URSELF IN FUTURE.....SO..ALL D BEST,KEEP GOIN....DONT GET DISHEARTENED..I KNOW DER IS SOMBODY SPECIAL FOR U AWAITING BETTER DAN HIM...ALL D BEST FOR UR FUTURE..
2007-03-23 17:25:04 · answer #8 · answered by blueknight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go file for divorce, get a restraining order on him to keep him away from you.
2007-03-23 17:17:40 · answer #9 · answered by Jacuzzi Lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RUN!!!! And I mean RUN AWAY FAST! This will only get worse! Abusers have a pattern of being mean, then nice and each time, the abuse will get worse!
2007-03-23 17:20:53 · answer #10 · answered by Cheryll Norwood 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋