I want to move on and find someone who is a successful, professional, goal oriented person but this "dating" relationship continues to pull me back. How can I end this, once again, without hurting him? I am wanting a little insight from someone who has been in this exact situation. (dating their ex husband after they divorced)
2007-03-23 10:12:38 · 11 answers · asked by Cheryll Norwood 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Huge mistake!! You need to move on, literally. a good 1500 miles between you will do the trick. No decent, professional goal oriented man would give you a second look, if you are still involved with your ex. That is an illness, and you need to shake it, or the rest of your life will be miserable.
2007-03-23 10:45:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister had this exact experience, and it did not work out. The thing is, why did you divorce in the first place? When you are in the fun, dating stage of a relationship, it is very easy to pretend that things are good and that you can work it out. But there is a reason why things did not work out in the first place, and unless both of you are very different now, you are probably in for a big letdown. I really think you should play the field--date other men for a while. Tell your ex that he needs to move on as well. There is a possibility that you can remain friends, though.
2007-03-23 17:19:56 · answer #2 · answered by danika1066 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love the first answer. I think dating an ex boyfriend OR hubby is a big big mistake because most times you break up for the exact reason you broke up in the first place. WHy waste your time damnit. Stop worrying about hurting his feelings and worry more about getting where you want to be in life and what type of guy you want to be with. Take a breather before you move on but for heavens sake MOVE ON!
2007-03-23 17:32:03 · answer #3 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing good reheated is stuffed cabbage, hon. You probably already have it figured out that the reasons for your divorce still exist. And, since you don't want to go on, you had better tell him so... as my daddy always told me, "Don't shop in a store in which you intend to buy nothing.." You know you are wasting time... and he needs to know too
"John.... this is all probably an error... you and I are good friends, but a marriage between us failed once before, and it probably would again... I care for you, but each of us needs to get on with our lives apart. We are each too different in what we want, and continuing to see each other is just hindering our progress....."
Then, hon, outa there. And learn the "broken record" if he wishes to see you again.... "John, that probably isn't a good idea......"
2007-03-23 17:27:55 · answer #4 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i started dating my ex-husband after our divorce, but i was a completely different person by then, i was myself. So, i told him that if he really wanted to win be back again, he'd have to understand that i was going to date other people, to which he agreed. Well, we ended up getting back together, but what i want you to know is that he might want to manipulate you (again if he did so before) through this dating thing, and it's up to you to draw the line. Be nice, be gentle but be firm.
It could be that h'es afraid of letting go, too, and it will be of benefit to him too if he dated other people.
In the end, it's you who have the last word. You don't have to do anything you don't want to.
2007-03-23 17:23:04 · answer #5 · answered by AMBER D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok I married my ex husband after 6 years of being apart. The truth, you cannot split without him getting hurt.. but better to break it off now before he gets really hurt or you end up married again....
2007-03-23 18:55:59 · answer #6 · answered by Steffi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I actually was married and divorced once. My husband said he was only in the realationship for sex, and had gotten, tired and I wanted kids. We got divorced 7 months ago and 5 months ago he came back. He told me he loved me and we dated for 2 months, and he was still just in it for the sex! Dump him and move on! Its the only wise thing to do!
2007-03-23 17:27:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, obviously you have honesty issues. For once in your life be honest. You knew when you remarried this man you were not excited about him. This issue is not about him ,it's about you and your dishonesty. This you will take where ever you go. Perhaps you can clean up this part of your life and then you won't get yourself in these kind of situations.
2007-03-23 17:26:34 · answer #8 · answered by Peggy G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best way to mend a broken heart is with a new love..Find one..
Stop communicating with EX....He is holding you back...
Why do you care if you hurt him...
You divorced him, what more can you do to him ?
2007-03-23 17:42:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start dating a black guy and tell your ex how much better he is in bed. He'll never want to talk to you again.
2007-03-23 17:15:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋