Please explain why they are, what their minds are like, and if it's relaly worth it to be like them.
2007-03-23 10:04:08 · 16 answers · asked by kayliegroger 1 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
People are attracted to those that are confident in themselves, this makes them popular. If you are confident in yourself you will become popular over time. Just be true to yourself and your confidence will come through.
2007-03-23 10:10:13 · answer #1 · answered by Rick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are popular for many reasons. There's good popular and bad popular. There's a good part of being popular and a bad part of being popular, etc. The reasons for boys are different from girls, but there are some common general factors that seem to be prevailant w/ both genders. For example, there can be a big clic of guys and girs who are pretty and not prett and good at sports and not good at sports, but they all seem to feel like they're in an elevated stage of development. Almost, on the same page, in puberty. I remember this big group of people getting most detached from the rest of us around 6th grade. I had no interest in hanging w/them because all I wanted to do was play basketball. For some reason, they wanted to all go out in the grass at lunch time and sit in a big circle and talk (like adults). I'm sure it had to do with some of the more mature boys realizing they liked girls in a new and puzzling way. The girls were developing faster, and they were acting like teenagers. Some of the guys there were dorky bookworm-types who were only there because they were the smart kid in the class and clung to the hero kid, who wanted to get his hands on the new mounds popping out of the cute girl's shirt. I remember they didn't look don on the rest of us, only were glad to be the divas and heros for the rest of us ( a role they knew they just were meant to fill).
By the time kids are in the middle of high school, popularity has stemmed from so many factors: wealth, social economical placement, grades, sports, beauty, bodies.
Bottom-line- a d#@k is a d#@k and a b#@^h is a b#@^h. People always see through that. Nice people, who are genuine, and don't talk bad about others, or try to put down others to make themslves feel better, are generally looked upon as better than popular, and you'll find that the nice 'real' people ARE popular in just enough ways to not have to deal w/ the stress of being popular.
THAT'S what goes on in their minds. Stress. Always knowing, thinking, and acting like they are being watched, judged, and being circled by the buzzards who await one little, fatal error in judgement, style or social grace for them to fall down and be kicked hard by those who always HATE the popular ones just because THEY are not. So, it's not such a great thing. Just be nice, real, and until it counts for getting a paycheck a popular person has nothing over anyone else. Sure, they'll get more attention...and pictures in the yearbook. Just wait for the five and ten year reunion...you'll not believe your eyes.
2007-03-24 00:07:37 · answer #2 · answered by jemrx2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could be popular for many reason some good and some not so good . Being popular should not be a must in your life. Just be yourself and the people who will give meaning to your life will be there for you. That is what should be important to us all. Open yourself to be approachable the good people will find you and they are all you need. Nothing is worth being like someone else for no one is better than you and you are not better than anyone else. Remember that and see how easy it becomes to make real friends.
2007-03-23 20:29:43 · answer #3 · answered by singscale 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the microcosm of public school, people become confident because they are attractive. Popluartiy can occasionally come to someone really witty or really engaging, but if a person does not develop early or posess great looks, or know how to dress, then they do not develop confidence and they do not become popular.
2007-03-23 17:12:38 · answer #4 · answered by Year of the Monkey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are "popular" because they are not a threat to those around them. Consider: Would a person who is mean and nasty have lots of genuine friends? I doubt it. People are popular because they can get along with other people. Being "popular" is not the be-all and end-all of being a human being. Just be who you are and you will be "popular" with those who really matter.
2007-03-23 17:15:22 · answer #5 · answered by christopher s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very simple actually. I learned that people are popular because of the things they have, if they are rich; they're popular. If they wear designer clothes; they're popular...or because they are attracive to some people and then theyu started a clique. Clique's are a BIG part of Elemantary school, Mid. school, and High school. If you were or were once exluded from a clique don't take it personaly because the people who did that are just excluding you because of who you are and what you are wearing/have.
2007-03-23 18:54:22 · answer #6 · answered by my_life_gymnastics 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are popular because they choose to be popular. It is true that some are more outgoing then others but people see you as you choose to be seen.
If you are asking in order to be popular: Be yourself! Truly enjoy being who you are, and be comfortable in your own skin (regardless, of owning fancy or up-to-date things).
If people see you as a confident and happy person they'll want to be part of your life.
Just enjoy, enjoy, enjoy each day (that's what most "popular" people do and this is why they are "popular")...Success!
2007-03-23 18:01:55 · answer #7 · answered by Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's just because some people are more outgoing and will speak and tend to be more talkative to get acquainted with others quicker, then they will make friends quicker and that sort of thing.
I am not sure about that, if it's all about feeling more positive about yourself though, not sure, but I am sure that is part of being outgoing, talkative and one who relates to others better than others do.
2007-03-23 17:12:39 · answer #8 · answered by dmh7593 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They know how to keep more people happy at the same time. I consider them to have a gift rather than a technique. It's just their personality. They are more pleasing to others, physically and socially. Easy to be with, pleasant etc. etc.
2007-03-24 10:37:31 · answer #9 · answered by Dovey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lol well you WANT to be like them I have everything that you WISH you had for ex: the HAIR the BODy the CLOTHES.. I really dont think it pays to be them because usually it is something wrong that goes on in there household lyke family issues raoe you know stuff lyke that.
2007-03-23 17:11:42 · answer #10 · answered by YUP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋