shes married w/6 children, i'm married w/ two children. she's unhappy in her situation (abusive) I'm ok but have no affection or intimacy in my situation.
2007-03-23 09:48:05 · 39 answers · asked by lost 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't do a mind job on yourself. Just tell it like it is. The truth hurts, but trying to let her down easy will only be worse. Going into this, you both should have had the understanding that getting out should be just as easy. An affair is what it is...no strings attached, right? Sounds cold, but this was the probable outcome. You should both enjoy the time you had. Learn from this, if you decide to wander again, next time you don't make it more than just casual fun. Enjoy!
2007-03-23 10:08:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have no intimacy, because you are too busy with the other lady. Your wife knows and it turns her off. Why should she go to bed with you after you leave your lover. She know !!!! But with 6 kids she is hanging on for dear life. Why would you want a cheat. If she wants to leave an abusive husband do it why did she say and have 6 kids in this day and age. Come on. STart loving your wife and leave the other woman alone. You are the only idot out there that would want to take on 6 more kids that were not his. Take care of the family you have and love your wife and kids and leave the other cheater alone. She is giving this sad story to anyone that will listen and you are dumb enough to fall for it.
2007-03-23 10:00:59 · answer #2 · answered by springer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No wonder you have no affection or intimacy in your marriage. You're too busy cheating on your wife. As for your wife, I'm sure she knows what you're up to and under those circumstances, can you really blame her for not wanting to snuggle up to you? Why don't you tell your co-adulterer that you have been very unfair to your wife...and children...and that you want to go home where you belong and try to pull yourself up out of the mud and become the husband and father your family deserves. Tell her you are a sorry a*S*Shole for having an affair and that you've learned your lesson. Tell her you just happened to remember the vows you made your wife and you are going to try to live up to them from now on. Maybe you'll get lucky and your wife will give you a chance to prove yourself. If not, you can at least start over on a more honorable route...AFTER she divorces you.
2007-03-23 10:09:00 · answer #3 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you end the affair - leave - your promised your wife for better or worse, forever not until you got bored. You wouldn't happen to live in Texas, would you? Maybe if you told your wife that she was pretty, or that you needed a date night, or helped with the kids and the house, you'd get more affection or intimacy at home. Women don't automatically know what men think - we need to hear it sometimes!!
2007-03-23 09:58:19 · answer #4 · answered by mommamac793 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is common to have some feeling of affection to a woman in distress. Sometimes it leads to a romatic relationship. But you are both married with kids. Better bring back the love to your wife and kids and let her attend more to her family. You will be casuing more trouble if you insist on an illicit affair. Get out of trouble as soon as you can.
2007-03-23 09:56:47 · answer #5 · answered by saint_peter888 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You first need to decide if this is lust or love. If she is giving you something that your not getting at home then you should talk to your wife about what your missing at home. It's a must to communicate with your wife and talk about what you and her need to make your marriage complete.
If this other relationship is based on sex, it will change and it will not last. If your feeling sorry for her because of her abusive relationship then sleeping with her is not helping her or yourself. Love is used in many different ways but love for your partner is a true love, friendship and to me is the true way to indentify what true love is.
Try praying with your wife and talking to someone about your problems so the both of you understand where your at in your relationship. If you never tell her she can't fix what you see as being wrong.
2007-03-23 10:01:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To start with we'll all agree you two were wrong, to get caught up in this. That being said, Since your already in it, so you might as well try to help her outta her situation. NOW Help her get the help and info she needs that's the least you can do.if she's being abused.You both need to set down and talk, a serious talk, is there enough love and commitment to put something together. After you talk to her then you NEED to set your wife down and tell her what your going to do. You better make damn sure she understands that it's not her fault.
2007-03-23 09:59:37 · answer #7 · answered by walker9842 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all ask yourself how you could do this to your wife. She is the one that you promised to love till dealth due you part remember that? If you love someone else other then your wife you owe it to your wife to divorce her and let her move on to find someone better. Same thing goes for the woman who you are having the affair with. That is no way to treat your spouse. If you love your mistress then you should be with her as a single man not as a married man.
Just remember.... the grass isnt always greener on the other side!!!!
But what ever you choose to do, you need to break it off with one of them.
Good luck with your kids after this one... Hope they never find out you cheated on their mom.
2007-03-23 09:57:14 · answer #8 · answered by j 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really love her, leave your wife and work out your children situation and ask her to do so. a relationship takes 2 people to form and she'll have to be willing to leave her hubby and maybe some children for your two's relationship. nothing is perferct, you have to sacrifice some to get some others. if your belief and love is strong, go for it...nothing should stop you. all you need, the strength and the love are all inside you though. you just need some other's mental and emotional support. good luck!
2007-03-23 10:02:38 · answer #9 · answered by xyz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she has 6 kids. when do you think you will ever have the time with her. This is a short lived fling trust me. Stay home with your wife...sounds less complicated. This chick will have you pay for all their college tuitions, weddings and vehicles. RUN and don't look back. She sounds like a total looser. Screwing a married man while she goes home and tucks 6 kids into bed and says good night to her husband....come on.
2007-03-23 12:55:31 · answer #10 · answered by sweet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋