have been/are being severely controlled by your parents?long story short.I'm an A+ student/Indian, and my parents won't let me do things like a 7th grader (I am a 7th grader.)!as a preteen it's frustratings!a simple example; they won't let me wear jeans!!!!!!!!!!!!! what's their problem????????????????????
2007-03-23 09:30:45 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I am 34, married, and a parent of 2 toddlers, now. When I was your age, all of my friends and school mates were doing things my parents did not allow me to do. My friends were dating, going to the movies, going to parties, going to basketball games , pep rallys, dances, etc. They were wearing hot, cool stuff and makeup that I wasn't allowed to wear.
I was just as frustrated as you are, now. However, my parents had a very good reason for doing what they did, which I understand, now, that I am older.
My parents were raising me to be a proper lady with self respect.
All of those friends that I wanted to be like ended up making big mistakes that they will spend the rest of their lifes sorry
for. Some got pregnant before they were out of high school.
Some dropped out of school. A few got in to trouble with the law for alcohol or drugs.
At our high school reunion, out of all 124 of us, only 1 finished college. That was me. More than half were single parents living on welfare.
I called my parents and said a big thank you for being wonderful parents and raising me right.
Jeans create far too sexy an image for a teenage girl, especially if they are tight. I don't intend to allow my daughter to wear them, either.
BTW, I'm American, not Indian.
Believe me, you will thank your parents later.
2007-03-23 09:52:16 · answer #1 · answered by txharleygirl1 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I feel very bad for you.When I was younger my parents did that to me too.They are making a big mistake because you will rebel against them.I think when you get all your answers you should show them these yahoo answers maybe it will help.I was in grade 7 and my parents wouldn't let me wear blue jeans either that was 30 years ago.My gos in this day and age they should be able to see by now that is all people are wearing not just kids but everybody.They should be careful because they can turn a perfectly good student into a rebellious teenager which is great cause for trouble.I say let you wear blue jeans cause I bet you get made fun of big time at school this is not fair to you at all.Don't they know what it is like to picked on in school.Grow up mom and dad this is the 20th century!!!
2007-03-23 16:53:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am just guessing that your religion may be your family's customs or religion may be playing a part in why they won't let you where jeans. (i assumed this because you said Indian).
well as a parent i think that your parents are trying to raise you to be a good girl, and your customs/beliefs maybe that a girl who wears jeans is not a clean/virgin-like as a girl in sassy, tight jeans that is showing off her goodies.
just like i will allow my daughter to wear jeans, but mini skirts is out of the question at this time (she is in 5th grade). i won't to make sure that my daughter understands that a certian type of clothes doesn't define who you are, but it can make an impression.
and i want her to understand that the impression that i want her to make when she wears a mini skirt is that the skirt is a nice piece of clothing that complements an entire outfit.
i don't want her to wear a mini skirt and act like a bad girl that is showing off her goodies to everyone.
so if this is the case, then i would sit and talk to my parents. listen to their reason why you can't wear jeans. don't rolls your eyes, and act like a baby. be very mature when you listen to their reasons. and don't talk, listen.....then when they are finished....tell them that you are a A+ student, and that through your grades that you have shown them that you can be responsible, make good decisions, and that they have taught you the correct manner on how to behave. let them know that they have done a great job raising you..and they should trust you...tell them that clothing does not define a person...and to let you try one pair, and see if they see a change in behavior, etc.
tell them that this is a problem with you, and that you don't want to break their rules, and that you want to be able to always come to them if you have a problem...and tell them that is what you are doing now... coming to them with your problem....
if this doesn't work, then you have no choice but to follow thier rules, they are your parents and are only doing what they feel is right to make you a responsible adult later in life...and you may not understand it right now, but you will later....good luck
2007-03-23 16:49:14 · answer #3 · answered by bhampton225 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweety, you aren't going to like my answer. I mean no disrespect. I am proud of you for being an A+ student! That is AWESOME! Way to go!
As long as you are living in your parents home and they buy your clothes and make sure you have food, water, electricity, means for bathing, etc. etc. etc...you are just going to have to deal with the rules they set before you. They obviously love you. I am sure it is frustrating, but at least you HAVE clothing! Just a few more years until you are 18. Hang in there.
2007-03-23 16:51:11 · answer #4 · answered by MamiZorro2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They love you and want the best for you. Just do what they say! My parents were strict and I am thankful for it! A strict parent is a good parent. You will thank them later for it! Just remember the kids that can do pretty much what they want to do are the kids who's parents don't care much about them! So, go and give your Mama a hug & Kiss!!!!!!!!
2007-03-23 17:12:54 · answer #5 · answered by LITTLE 1 :o) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's culture in your country. India sucks. Move away as fast as you can. I had Hindu friends and one of them is coming to the USA to avoid his parents forcing him into an arranged marriage. Anyway yeah my parents wouldn't let me do anything either. Even if they had I didn't have any friends at all either.
2007-03-23 19:41:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that'sa you guys customs and beliefs I'm guessing. Just listen to your parents and let them see you in some jeans, but only in the house and see what their reaction will be.
2007-03-23 19:22:52 · answer #7 · answered by Nish 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as your under their roof, what they say goes. I'm in 7th grade and know that.
2007-03-23 19:34:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your parents just love you that's all
2007-03-23 19:03:53 · answer #9 · answered by speedy >>> 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋