Last year I met a boy who became my best friend through out the course of the year. We were so tight his gf hated me, and everyone else swore we had a thing going on, but it was completely innocent. This yr at the start of the school yr, we started off very detached. We were not as close as last yr, and he began talking and becoming friends with other people, (even sum girls) Now, me and his brother have become pretty close, andi barely talk 2 him. But me and his brother like each other in a romantic way, so our relationship is a lil different. NOw, my old BF has been very resentful 2 me. I feel like a sleeze, or a she-devil, but i'm ready 2 give up a VERY promising relationship 4 my old best friend 2 come back. What should I do? Or is it 2 late? Have i burned a bridge? or Have I come between 2 brothers? Please help....i just want my friend back!
2007-03-23 09:28:10 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
A best friend would not ask you to give up anybody.
2007-03-23 09:31:08 · answer #1 · answered by J M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is really your best friend, he would be supportive of the relationship and he wouldn't ask you to give up a potentially good relationship. I've been down that road and can understand where you're coming from. The best advice I can give is, try to reconcile the friendship because good friends are hard to come by, but at the same time don't give up a good relationship, because it may turn out to be a good thing in the end.
2007-03-23 16:35:22 · answer #2 · answered by angelfire_95 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the two of you have grown appart then let it be... don't give up what you have now for a memory of the past. It doesn't pay to give up something good that you have now for something that has already happened and may never be the same again. Even if you did become friends with him again, it couldnt' be exactly the same as it once was so its not worth it... As you begin to become better friends with his brother maybe you will see him outside of school and get to know him again better. Don't give up on something that you have for something that you don't have anymore!
2007-03-23 16:34:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some things just won't ever be the same again. Stay with your boyfriend now and as for his brother that use to be your close friend, He will again , just not in the same way.
2007-03-23 16:36:55 · answer #4 · answered by auntkarendjjb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to decide who you want more? Do you want to go out with his brother or be friends with him? Or you could also decide to stop talking to both of them to avoid brother drama.
After you decide that, (personally I'd go with him, not his brother) make sure you try your hardest to get him back. It's going to be awkward and weird at first, and no matter what you're going to come between the two of them.
2007-03-23 16:38:05 · answer #5 · answered by CountingBlueCars 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ouch i have to admit that hard core sucks but there is still a way to save this.........drumroll plz.........talk to him. call him up and be like hay u wanna come to the movies for old times sake and catch up we havnt talked in a while...and just because ur friends with his brother does not mean that u cant be friends with both of them because giving up a friend is hard and i u have to try to save this the best u can i mean if he is still a good friend he will give u a second chance!!!!
good luck =)
2007-03-23 16:33:33 · answer #6 · answered by Live.To.Love. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You burned the bridge and you were on it. If you used-2-B bestfriend is not your friend anymore, and you are dating his brother, stay with you lover and forget about you used-2-B bestfriend. He would still B ur friend if it was ment to B.
2007-03-23 16:32:37 · answer #7 · answered by Q&A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try and get your old best friend back but dont give up his brother because what if he doesnt come back, then your left with nothing
i gave up someone for someone else snd i got screwed over and i kno other kids tht did too
it hurts but you dnt wanna take the risk, especially cuz if he really liked you tht much he would still be nice to you
2007-03-23 16:41:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant have everything, u always use something but u shud make a choice a realy hard one ho is the one u love and ho is ur friend wen u do make a choice u can take measures to give each of them the message, and if ur old friend stopped being ur friend because of the rumors then he is no friend he is a fake
2007-03-23 16:32:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get your boyfriend and his brother together and sort this mess out. it will not be easy but try to explain to the 1st brother that you would like to be his friend but as far as romance is you are his brothers girlfriend now.
2007-03-23 16:35:30 · answer #10 · answered by fushia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋