My bf is a very sucessfull professional and earns a very good living. He comes from a wealthy family and has never lacked anything. Me, in the other hand, I'm a divorced mother of one that makes just enough money to get by. I have a good car, have nice things, pay my bills and live in a modest but nice house. Without living fancy or rich, I have a somewhat confortable but carefully budgeted lifestyle.
Anyway, my bf just inhereted a BIG amount of money and told me about it. I'm happy for him and congratulate him, but I left it at that. He then proceeded on telling me how much he was saving for retirement and for a house. He told me about opening Cd's for this money and that other MONEY, MONEY, MONEY! .... WTF!!!! It upsets me that he seems to be counting money infront of me... I don't have or make all the money that he has, live pay check to paycheck and I have a child to feed, and he knows it. Why is he doing this? He said that he was thhing about "our future".
Any thoughts?
2007-03-23 09:03:04 · 4 answers · asked by Blunt 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We have been dating exclusivly and seriously for a year and a half. We are both professional adults. Sometimes it worries me that he just tells me this things without thinking about what he is saying. I would be pretentious of me to assume that he is saving for "us" since we are not even engaged yet. Is he just making "conversation"? Is he "advertising" himself? or is he just rubbing in my face how much money he makes, saves and invests.... he is not a rude person or a braggard... I'm confused.
Thank you for your thoughful answers.
2007-03-23 09:32:53 · update #1
Im sure part of it is that he is excited. But im kinda like you...I like nice things but I value my family much more than the almighty dollar. If I were you it probably would not bother me as much if he included me in the choices...if he really is concerned about our future. Some people are soooo driven by money and have a tendency to loose sight of how it effects those around them
2007-03-23 09:15:47 · answer #1 · answered by Mike N 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He may be just thinking about y'all's future. Retirement isn't cheap. We may not even have Social Security when it comes time to collect. I really don't think he means to rub it in your face. I think you might just be over reacting. Try not to let it bother you. Be realistic about it. I have a 401k and a large inheritance coming when my parents pass. If he is just your boyfriend right now and he is thinking about a future for all three of you, then it is all good.
2007-03-23 16:17:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Soon, if all works out, you'll marry him and secure your own juicy slice of the $$$$ pie--not to mention further securing it
when divorce time is right.
Why many women boo-hoo at their impending divorces staggers me clueless---when todays US Divorce Courts favor them....ESPICIALLY if KIDS are involved!!!!
Really lady, chill out!!!
2007-03-23 16:23:11 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. Wizard 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marry him and get your hands on some of the money.
2007-03-23 16:15:10 · answer #4 · answered by bluemist 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋