she broke up with me....and she has a new boyfriend now.
She tells me that she still loves me the way she use to....and wants to come see me...i still love her too.
She said It's not to get back together.
She knows that i would work things out with her with whatever caused the breakup...
What's her purpose in seeing each other? more drama?
2007-03-23 08:55:42 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
reminds me of some movies ~_~"
2007-03-23 08:55:59 · update #1
Just my opinion from years of dating - Whatever it is it can't be good for you. Either she wants to use you to make the new guy jealous or to boost her own self image.
Nothing good can come from allowing her back into your life. Show her you've moved on and tell her to do the same. Even if that's not really what you want to do. All she'll do is hurt you again.
2007-03-23 09:27:13 · answer #1 · answered by steve e 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
JJ, it sounds as if your ex might be second guessing the breakup between the two of you. She could also be having some problems with her new boyfriend, and you are a safe haven. I do not know how long ago you broke up, or the reason, however, sometimes it is hard to let go of the familiar.If you and your ex had a very close, strong relationship, your ex might be missing that comfort zone. If you are the understanding, compassionate type, she might look to you for some solace. If you can meet her, without it being too difficult, or uncomfortable for you, and you will not be opening old wounds that you have struggled to heal, then meet with her.Only do this if you are sure "you" will be okay. If you are still interested, you never know what will happen. If you don't meet with her, make sure you will not regret, not going. You don't want to ask yourself down the road, What if?
2007-03-23 09:03:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It could be anything dude. It could even be she just isn't totally over you yet and wants to make sure that you don't find someone else as long as she can.
But you and I and the rest of yahoo readers could make up about one million excuses of what she is doing. maybe someone has a gun to her head, maybe this maybe that. I'm sorry dude, but the bottom line is she isn't with you, and even worse she is with someone else. Its hard I know, I wish I could tell you a way to make her drop this guy and get back with you but I can't, no one can. So you have to understand that you don't have control of her, of her new guy, or anyone else. You only have control of yourself. So stop wondering what she is doing, if it doesn't bother you too much maybe talk to her or whatever. But you have to be a man, because that is really what she wants. You to stand up with confidence and control and not be a sap.
The best thing you can do right now man in my own experience is to get some space, and learn to be happy without her. If all she hears or sees is you being happy without her maybe she will come back even, maybe she won't. But the main point is that you are happy. And you have the ability and owe it to yourself to do that.
You deserve someone much better than someone who will pull you along like this when she is seeing someone else.
The second you can honestly say you are happy to yourself(without her) is the second you see someone else who won't do this to you. Good luck man, I hope everything turns out well
2007-03-23 09:04:55 · answer #3 · answered by dieselmave40 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'll tell yuh what brother. I'm actually going through a situation right now that's similar to yours. My advice. Let her go! An ex is an ex for a reason, right?! It amazes me how easy it is for people to throw the word "Love" around. She probably realizes she made a mistake but is that really your problem?! It's obvious this girl doesn't have any respect. Saying she loves you but yet is with another guy. Come on!! If another guy wasn't in the picture than that's a different story. But that's not the way it is. Just be careful man. Good Luck!
2007-03-23 09:34:57 · answer #4 · answered by theHOCK 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well I have to say I strung a guy along for quite some time and I did love him but I did not want him back, my motivation? I think I was afraid to let go ,he was kinda my holla back guy, like in the wings if I became lonely and alone. I'd let her go and move on until you feel more distant emotionally or you WILL get hurt.
2007-03-23 09:00:45 · answer #5 · answered by jackie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds to me there are three options:
A) She is confused
B) She isn't getting the kind of lovin' from her current man as she was with you.
C) Or both, which would qualify her a a crazy sl*t
In any of those cases, move on. There would be no good that would come out of seeing her.
2007-03-23 09:13:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like she wants to have her cake and eat it, too. Like maybe she'd still be with her boyfriend, but have you on the side. I think it's not fair to you and that maybe you should cut off communication with her so you can move on with your life. You're in for a world of heartache if you don't.
2007-03-23 08:59:17 · answer #7 · answered by Duckie314 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Move on with your life and add more positive people to it. Unless she is willing to go full force in with you - its not fair to you or the other guy that she's going back and forth with this. Keep your head on straight and just keep living your life.
2007-03-23 09:03:09 · answer #8 · answered by Sean/Guy Wiley 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
lol agenda dates! i am utterly critical. like installed dates with every man that asks you out and make a decision later should you favored any of them. it is going to maintain matters underneath manage, and now not whole chaos
2016-09-05 13:25:03 · answer #9 · answered by mazzei 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone is right on, she just wants to have you as plan b in case something happens with her new man. but just know, you will always be plan b for her. my suggestion, hang out with her, put up a hidden cam, hit it, send vid to new guy, then she ends up with no one. plus you always have a video to remember her by. DO IT
2007-03-23 09:14:07 · answer #10 · answered by The all-knowing 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋