I have been with my husband for 9 years
i love him dearly
He left me today and i am torn ...
whats the best way to get over a person and let them go
we have 3 girls
7,5 and 2
Its a vicious cycle of druga nd alcohol abuse
i love him but i love me and my kids too
but im sick!
i feel lost
2007-03-23 08:54:23 · 13 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
why did he leave? who is abusing drugs and alcohol? who has the kids?
2007-03-23 09:12:29 · answer #1 · answered by georgewallace78 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in your shoes and I will tell you the best way i know how..Just think of what he has put you and your kids through and if it's like in my case..what you and your kids had to do without because of his problem..think of it all and get good and mad..that helps..and look at it this way..when he left he done you and your kids a favor..he will be back because of his problem..he depends on you way more than you think..but hang tough and don't take him back and let him see what he stands to loose and he just might straighten up..My prayers are with you...
2007-03-23 09:03:03 · answer #2 · answered by sweet h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you are hurting and you will continue too. Give yourself time to be sad, but don't fall into deep depression. You have to be strong for your girls. You don't want them to get the wrong idea about men or their father ( if he was a good dad) Find yourself a good friend that you can trust and share some of your hurt.
2007-03-23 09:01:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be strong, get on with life and every time you feel weak, think of your kids and realize that you are all they have and must be strong. Surround yourself with people who are positive and loving influences and just try to provide a normal routine for your kids. Good luck!
2007-03-23 08:58:22 · answer #4 · answered by Mom23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be brave and take the steps necessary for you and your kids to move ahead in your lives. Use your support system family, friends to help you deal. I feel awful for you and the girls. You can make it thought this.
2007-03-23 09:06:03 · answer #5 · answered by cream city chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
quick before they any older get a new guy
or call him and say this is your last chance
or not do you want me back
or just go with the flow ask your mom to
come stay with you to help out during what
your going threw
or just have relaxing times like sit in the tub
with your favorite ice cream or pizza every
day switch and of course you can eat anything
just to get you back on track and on your feet
2007-03-24 05:29:57 · answer #6 · answered by Cutiegul 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
His addiction is hurting the family. You can not be with him unless he cleans up. Its not fair to you nor is it fair to the children. Just let them go and focus on the children
2007-03-23 08:58:16 · answer #7 · answered by Mike 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to church and pray.
Also. I have heard you say some of the nastiest and personal things on this site. Perhaps your current situation is due to bad karma?
2007-03-27 06:23:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
jus ask someone for help. seperation is a big change in people's lives. after a while u won't even think about him anymore and u can finally move on.
2007-03-23 09:03:42 · answer #9 · answered by damigurl05 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Collect yourself together and stand up on your feet and live your life like you never did before.
He doesn't deserve you.
2007-03-23 08:59:00 · answer #10 · answered by peachy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋