several months ago and would like to have him back. It is to my understanding that this was an "Open-Adoption" where both parties keep consistent communication between one another and the mother, i.e. my sister, is able to view pictures and receive update status of her son's health.
1. Is this possible?
2. If possible how difficult would this rode become?
3. How should this be initiated?
Recently she conveyed this to the other party and now there communication has not been as frequent. We understand that his is hard for them however my sister feel guilty for her mistake and that the child should be with a biological parent.
If you have any suggestions please help.
2007-03-23 08:53:56 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is the reason I would never adopt a kid in the U.S.
I would contact a lawyer and see what your options are.
2007-03-23 08:59:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
If your sister has terminated her parental rights and the revocation period has expired, she will not be able to get her child back. There is a common misperception in this country that birthparents can come back any time and fight for custody, but if all rights were terminated - it is nearly, if not completely, impossible for them to do so.
I'm confused by your statement that your sister "conveyed this to the other party." Conveyed what? That she wants to reclaim her child? If so, then the adoptive parents may feel uneasy about contact now.
Also, even in completely open adoptions, the contact between the adoptive parents and the birthfamily begins to decrease over time. That doesn't necessarily mean that the adoptive parents are keeping the child away or that they are purposely not updating the birthfamily.
It could simply mean that they are busy being the parents of an infant and they don't have time to write letters and send pictures every week.
Your sister should perhaps contact them and ask if they could update her ever month for the first year, then every three months for the second year and so on.
It's really difficult to give detailed advice since we don't know the specifics of this situation. But, I hope your sister is receiving counseling to help her heal.
2007-03-27 11:52:34 · answer #2 · answered by onerockinmamato2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all she needs to do what is best for the child. If she cannot care for the child then they should have a family that can take care of them. Biological or not makes no difference here. Usually their are laws how long she has until she changes her mind and wants her child back. I think it will be hard for the adopting parents that have dreamed of having a child and almost had it and have probably already loved this child. But if the kid is at an age where he/she knows what is going on what kind of effects will this have on the child psychologically being bounced back and forth from a mother to strangers and back to a mother. And what will she tell the child when they ask why she gave them up or why she took them back. Alot of issues here that really need to be thought out.
2007-03-23 16:02:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most states have laws protecting the adoptive parents in this case. When your sister signed the document to give up parental rights, it becomes irrevocable. She cannot get the child back unless she has an extenuating circumstance which will be extremely difficult to prove.
As an adoptive mother, I cannot blame the adoptive parent for limiting contact. They are now the child's parents and must act in the best interest of the child.
I am sorry that your sister feels guilty and sad for making this choice, however, adoption is forever. It is not a journey that stops when the biological parent decides to change their mind.
Please have your sister meet with a counselor to discuss her feelings. She is blessed to be in an Open Adoption situation and I would hate to see anything jeopardize that. Also, please reiterate the positive to your sister. She made a beautiful sacrifice for a family who could not have a child. I thank God every day for the gift that my son's biological mother gave to us.
2007-03-23 23:06:40 · answer #4 · answered by BPD Wife 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel sorry for your sister, but she should have though about what she was doing before she went ahead with the process.
This child now has a family that loves him and is providing the stability that she obviously can provide.
She may want the child now, but how can she be so sure that she is not going to want to adopt him out later on.
If she really loves the childs she should just leave the family alone.
2007-03-23 16:05:16 · answer #5 · answered by hayde_kat 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She can probably get him back, but believe that there is going to be a huge court battle about it. Those people opened up their hearts and home to a child that didn't have one and they are not going to just let him go. With all respect to your sister, she should really think about how this will affect the child.
2007-03-23 16:05:23 · answer #6 · answered by Mom23 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She can't keep disrupting this child like that. I don't blame the family for cutting off communication after she told them she wants him back. She really needs to re-think this whole thing. She's going to be paying a crapload of court fees and for nothing, because no judge is going to rip the poor child away from his family. Your sister is very selfish.
2007-03-23 15:58:42 · answer #7 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
it will be very difficult for her to get her son back...i don't know if it can be possible
2007-03-23 15:59:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
get a lawyer
if you can't afford one, there is legal aid in every county...call your courthouse for info
be cool...
2007-03-23 16:00:50 · answer #9 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋