My family hates my boyfriend. They have done a lot of things to him. They have embarassed him in public and even posted nasty things about him on the internet. Now he is treating me different saying that he needs his space to decide what he wants to do. I didn't do anything to him and I think that he should not take out his frustrations on me. Am I being unreasonable?
2007-03-23 08:50:59 · 12 answers · asked by honeyluv_2010 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We are both 27!
2007-03-23 08:58:20 · update #1
You may not have done anything directly to him, but you didn't do anything to stop your family either. I can totally understand his need for space,and unless you want to lose him forever, you should give it to him. You need to decide what is more important to you - your boyfriend or your family, because if you want to keep your boyfriend in the picture you're going to have to give up your family.
2007-03-23 09:12:47 · answer #1 · answered by thersa33 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the page for married people, not dating. But, I will answer your question. Now, while it may not be that you have done anything, consider what you have done to defend him or take up for him at those moments? Have you spoken to your family about what they do or say? Has your boyfriend earned what he is getting from the family?
He may simply be thinking that while he loves or wants you, the price involved is something that merits his serious thought in regards to your being worth this to him.
2007-03-23 16:12:38 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. JW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your family needs to butt out of your relationships. I've been in alot good and bad and my family has never done that. Now they did get their names mixed up but they never would do that .I would disown my family if they ever did that. That is so childish of your family. Just disconnect the two make sure he's not around your family anymore. If it doesn't work out then time to move on. Blame that on your family..maybe they rather see you lonely and sad. Who knows but that isn't their place!
2007-03-23 16:02:40 · answer #3 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you cut all the ties to your family to be with him - your family WILL be part of your life for as long as you live, and by extension it will be a part of HIS life for as long as he is with you. It is not unreasonable for him to reconsider this relationship if he has to endure humiliation and abuse in order to stay with you. I'm sure he's tired of the drama, and it's his right to want a drama-free relationship.
2007-03-23 16:00:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not being unreasonable, your family is..it would scare anyone away.
sorry...tell your family to butt out (if you are of age to do that without trouble)
Otherwise talk to them and tell them how you feel about what they are doing and have done.
be cool...
2007-03-23 15:58:13 · answer #5 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The man needs his space. Give it to him.
There is so much a man can take, and your parents went way TOO far.
Sorry
2007-03-23 15:54:56 · answer #6 · answered by Blunt 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think if your family is that disrespectful to him he has a right to walk away, as should you. They should respect your decisions because it is your life only you are responsible for the choices you make
2007-03-23 15:55:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just let him have his space, because your family will probably never respect him which will make things worst. i know that you must like him alot, try to talk to your family and make them imagine how it is in your shoes...well good luck!
2007-03-23 15:58:20 · answer #8 · answered by Babydoll 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No but if your family is making his life miserible i dont blame him
2007-03-23 16:01:08 · answer #9 · answered by Orleanslady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you didn't take up for him enough he has his limits to what he can put up with
2007-03-23 16:42:15 · answer #10 · answered by Rox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋