i used to be really good friends with this girl, going out together, going on holidays and stuff, really good friendz but recently weve grown apart. ever since we left uni we dont see each other everyday, dont have as much in common anymore!!! she was the only friend that i used to sdee all the time & spoke to like every day but know i don't know what to do. should i make an effort to get back in touch properly or move on ??? really confused!!!
2007-03-23 08:50:36 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
if you were that close I would try to contact her and work on the friendship
2007-03-23 08:53:35 · answer #1 · answered by Mike 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I was at college I made some magic friends. When college finished, we all moved on and although some of us kept in touch for a time, things drifted.
When I joined the Navy I had some really specially friends - people you would die for. But again, when I left the services, I kept in touch with pals for a short time, but this dropped off over about 5 years.
Same with the people in the couple of jobs I have had since.
I will answer a question with a question. Did you ever go back and look at those big trees you climbed as a kid - or look at that really wide river you remember from childhood? When you go back to visit, that tree is no big deal, and that river is not really that wide.
I hate the expression 'horses for courses', but freely translated it means we have a good time and make really good pals at the time, but then we move on.
Uni is no exception. You make great friends - even lovers, but then you all move on.
If you can keep in touch with your friend then this would be nice. But you both must
realise that there is a great big world out there and you are not tied to each other.
Perhaps she wants to move on and doesn't know how to tell you because you had so much to share at one time?
At the end of the day.....follow your heart.
Good luck whatever you decide.
2007-03-23 16:39:02 · answer #2 · answered by Bunts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you miss her and are a little upset at the way uv grown apart maybe? so i think you should try and get back in touch...you obviously were the best of friends before and maybe you think you dont have as much in common because you havent been doing it together!! I didnt see my 3 best friends the whole way through college and we got back in touch and now...we basically live in each others pockets and im the godmother to my friends little..boy/girl...we dont know what it is yet!!! yey!!! so yea go for it honestly you should...and you can never have too many friends!! hope it goes well!!!
2007-03-23 17:15:38 · answer #3 · answered by princess*tammy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's like you are describing what happened to me, exactly the same.
After college, especially if you start working immediately, you kind of get drifted away from friends and start thinking about future, goals, career....etc and sometimes it's not that you are so busy you can't call them, but it's just a feeling inside you that you don't want to. After a while, you will miss her and will call her and she will answer you back wondering where you've been the whole time!
Your friendship will stay the same, but it's only distance that's keeping you two from being the same like you used to be, but will still maintain good relationship.
my friend and I do message and call each other once in a while now.
get back in touch and tell us how it goes.
2007-03-23 15:57:08 · answer #4 · answered by peachy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ive not seen one of my friends for years, I live in Greece and she is in the UK, we may not speak for a year, and for sure we have totally separate lives, but whenever I go to the UK, we get together and pick up where we left off, that's been going on for 20 years, you can be good friends with someone, without, seeing them every day or speaking every day on the phone.
2007-03-23 15:54:55 · answer #5 · answered by looby 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely make an effort to try to get in touch with her. She might be really busy with things so it might not happen right away. If you try and she's too busy or doesn't want to become friends again then I would just let it lie. If she wants you she'll come back to you.
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2007-03-23 16:57:49 · answer #6 · answered by CountingBlueCars 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really like her then give her a call straight away.
She may be feeling the same as you
Find out & then you will know
I hope you get together & are happy it will be sad if such a good relationship as it appears just ends.
Best wishes & good luck for you both
2007-03-23 16:32:21 · answer #7 · answered by ANDREW H 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should definitely try to get in touch with her, but if you find it does not work out be prepared to accept that sometimes even the best of friendships never last, you just have to try to move on and make different friends.
anyway the best of luck
2007-03-23 16:09:28 · answer #8 · answered by Lobster 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would get back in touch with her sounds like ya'll was best friends and that was something that I wouldnt throw away.
2007-03-23 15:56:01 · answer #9 · answered by NickyNawlins 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She may not be the person she used to be. You might be missing someone who doesn't exist anymore. However their is only one way to find out.
2007-03-23 15:55:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just call her and tell her you liked hanging out with her and wouldn't want to end that just because university is over. I don't think it should be so confusing.
2007-03-23 15:55:34 · answer #11 · answered by harakiri 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋