She has been my best friend since fifth grade and we have never gotten into any bad fights before. But lately she has acted like the world revolves around her and she doesn't really seem to care about me anymore. She has a bad habit of pointing the negative out about other people to make her look better and i just ignored that until she started doing it to me. She will call me stupid and retarded and she gets extremely jealous and will try to prove better if there is something that i have that is better than what she has. She thinks I am a freak when I'm feeling depressed and will start drowning me in her own personal problems that are very stupid. I want to talk to her but she is sensitive and will get mad at me very easily. i feel like she is the only person I can talk to but now i feel like I can't tell her anything anymore. Please help me. She is the only real friend I have!!
2007-03-23 08:49:36 · 15 answers · asked by guess_who 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I'm in high school if anyone wants to know.
2007-03-23 09:02:40 · update #1
If I was you I would just talk to her about it. Ask her, call her out on it. If she really means to be mean in a mean way then she would just come out and say it. I think that it is just a phase that most girls go though. I know that me and my Friend have gone through that too. Just totally ask her about it.
2007-03-23 08:55:31 · answer #1 · answered by Ashnay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh im sorry =( i used to have a friend like that. i couldnt tak eher whining asnymore so I got another best friend. We got int o a huge fight because she was jealous and we never talk.
So basically you have 3 options:
1. ignore it - it may only be temporary, but at least you can avoid confrontation and keep your friend while you do it.
2. talk to her - she might get mad and not speak to you or she could understand and change her attitude. I don't know if you really want to take the rish, but I recommend it.
3. tell her goodbye - that's what I did, just tell her you can't handle her anymore or that you need some space.
well, I hope that helps. Good luck choosing the right solution to your problem. =D
2007-03-23 08:58:45 · answer #2 · answered by darlingdaisy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's sounds like this so called friend really isn't a friend. She probably is very insecure with herself, which is why she puts other people down to feel better about herself. You should not allow someone so mean and negative to be a part of your life - you're worth more than that. Honestly, I would tell her that if she really was a friend, she wouldn't treat you badly and that you're not going to put up with it anymore. It's best that you have no friends or just a few really good friends, then surround yourself with crappy friends. You will make new friendships, so don't worry. If you respect yourself and stay positive, you will attract positive things into your life. Tell your friend to jump in a lake - SHE's the loser.
2007-03-23 08:56:29 · answer #3 · answered by crabbyone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That isn't what a good friend does. You can go make new friends. Sounds like she just takes having you around for granted- KNOWing that you are just gonna put up with her crap.
Friendship is a 2 way street. You deserve better than she is giving. Doesn't matter how long you have been friends. People grow up, and sometimes grow in different directions. If she misses you, let her know what you will and won't stand for.
2007-03-23 09:01:11 · answer #4 · answered by juicy13500 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sweetie I don't nkow exactly how old u r but I am 27 & I am only friends with 3 females from High School & I had lots of friends. But as u get older u grow apart & u will meet friends that u have more in common with. I met my real friends in college cause after high school u all venture out & go ur separate ways. Just tell her in a nice way that u have feelings too.
2007-03-23 08:56:50 · answer #5 · answered by Lovely Cappy Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two have grown apart and there is no reason for you to remain friends with her any longer because it is not benefitting you. She is bringing you down. I had a friend like that and she was one of my few friends at the time until I got so sick of being put down by her. I knew I deserved better and the only way I eased her out of my life was censoring all my phone calls and not returning any of her messages. It is very unpleasant to associate with someone who must put others down. I urge you to reach out to other people and make new friends. It really is true people come and go throughout your life. Sometimes we must make the choice to move away from someone. Good luck and make some other really nice friends!!
2007-03-23 09:28:30 · answer #6 · answered by Goldenrain 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was best friends with this one girl for about 7 years then we started to fall apart. She got mad at me for stupid things and she basically started to ignore me but i didn't know why. I asked her about it and tried to fix things but she basically told me we needed to move on. i was so hurt and i cried so much about it.Now a year later i am still friends with her but definitely not as close, however i trust her and could still tell her anything. Now i have moved on, i am best friends with two other girls and i love it. I am so much more happy with these two other girls and i never regret moving away from my one friend. So, i guess what i am saying is try to fix things by talking to her, because your relationship doesn't sound good. She should NEVER call you retarted or anything else that you mentioned. Friends are for you to be happy with and to help you when your upset. Tell her how you feel and if she doesn't understand then move on maybe you'll look back and realize moving on was the right choice. Good LUCK!!
2007-03-23 11:13:38 · answer #7 · answered by *lil' leasha lu* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey I know that you said that she is the only real friend that you have, but do you really want a friend that makes you feel bad about yourself. Your friend sounds VERY jealous and she is taking out her jealousy on you. I think that maybe you two should take a break from each other and let her know that you want to remain her friend, but you do not deserve to be treated badly. When she is ready to apologize then you are willing to listen and become friends again.
I think you need to find more supportive friends. Good luck
2007-03-23 08:59:11 · answer #8 · answered by Important 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know she has been your friend since fifth grade but friends come and go.My, kinda, old best friend did the exact same thing.She was always mocking me and talking about me to other people.It really hurt me but i didn't say anything.When i had to talk about something she wouldn't listen to me she talked about herself.Eventually like in January of 2007 I started hanging out with other girls in my class who actually listen to me.She also started hanging out with others.I feel much better now.My friends that i have now are proper friends. Hope I Helped. Good Luck
2007-03-23 09:14:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 11:00:55 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋