im about to be a father... any advice?

Question

im 17 years old and my girlfriend is 15. we are both in love and she is pregnant. we already told my parents and her parents. what are some things that i should be prepared with or how should i deal with it... im 17 and shes 15, so can i go to jail? i dunt think so but i want to be sure. please help....oh, and im soo happy!!!!

Answer 1

well First of all it is good that you are happy. That is great! Get ready for hard work and lots of sacrifice. Being a Dad is the toughest job you will ever love. Whatever you do, always put your baby first, from here on out. Your child's needs come before anything. Just remember that your girlfriend is going through a lot right now, so try not to let her mood swings get to you. If you don't have a job, get one. And save ALL the money you can. babies are very very expensive!! If you girlfriend is not working and she is still in the early stages or pregnancy she should also get a job. Work as much as you can, and try to take things as they come. Life will be very different for you once the baby comes. Congratulations and the best of luck to you! I doubt you will get arrested.

Answer 2

ok well congratulations, u need to get a job and be a responsible loving boyfriend and daddy. There is so much ahead of you and eventhough it is going to be over whelming, do not let ur girlfriend stand by herself, u need to always be by her side and help her in the middle of the night when the baby wakes up. Be equal and help her a lot. Love them both a lot too. And stay in school, u can do it, go to college and she needs to finish school as well. I hope this lasts and that ur baby has a wonderful life. Also DO NOT always go out and leave ur baby at home. YEs u are still young but u will also be a parent and ur child always always has to come first. He or she is ur responsibility and even though ur gonna wanna go out all the time like any other teen. well guess what ur a daddy and u need to stay home with ur baby. YEs go out but not all the time, specially the first months, they needs their parents the most. Support ur girlfriend in any way u can. Please Do not let this baby be ur parents or her parents. Dont always let grandma do everything for the baby. U and ur girlfriend need to take responsibility from the smallest detail to the most important ones. from taking her or him a bath to feeding, cooking for the baby, changing diapers, watching him or her. Im tired of seeing the grandparents do everything for the kid of a teen. Be responsible always.

Answer 3

Huni this is the worst place 2 ask for help if ur a teen parent, so get ready for some nasty *** comments. . .

I wish u all the best of luck, as u ahve told both parents the worst is out the way, jus focus on gettin a job an gettin the basics for ur girlfriend an baby, everythin will come later. . .

congrats sweetie all the best, if u need any help email me, Im also 17 an expecting my first baby xxxxx

Answer 4

Congrats, better bewhere of her daddy. He will be extremely pissed at you. Hopefully you will be alive long enough to enjoy the pregnancy. Ok first thing, don't get married just for the sake of the child. You marriage will not last. You two are too young to get married. Hopefully she doesn't have a set of vendictive parents, depends on the age of consent. In most states it's 16(watch Nancy Grace). Your life with your friends is now over. No more drinking or partying. As for prom, if you and your gf do go. You have to help her find a pregno dress. If you don't have a job, get one now. Take an inventory at whatever store that sells baby merchandise. Be prepared to get kicked out of your home. Hopefully you have nice and loving parents, who will understand. Purchase everything ahead of time, you will need car seat to take the baby home. Also, another good piece of advice, be prepared for mood swings from hell. A 15 year girl is hormonal anyway, but ontop of teen pregnancy, it'll be worse. Be prepared to pay all doctor bills 2000+. If the baby is a boy expect it to cost even more. Your parents will be pissed, and most likely refuse to pick up the tab. Go to the store take a notebook, and write down all prices of cribs, carseat, formula, bottles, nipples, diapers, clothes, blankets, hangers, themometer, nail clippers, shampoo hypo allergenic, because newborns can't have the nice smelling shampoos or lotions. Cribs, pacifiers, toys for developmental skills, socks, undershirts, bedding sets, need at least two. Babies pee and poop alot!! Diaper wipes, swings, because you gotta keep that baby entertained. Start saving money!!! Have fun, if you are alive and well. You need to talk to both parents. Like now!!! If her daddy don't harm ya, look out for your parents. They are going to be extremely pissed off and disappointed in you. You better talk fast, and explain what your intentions are. You better stick to your guns. Then back away and give them time, (both sets of parents). Don't expect both sets of parents to be jumping for joy. They will be destroyed, distraught, angry, fear, and you and your gf shouldn't expect anything less from them. You better not tell your child ever that he or she was a mistake. You better keep every promise you make to that child. They will hold it over your head forever. When she needs a break take over. Babies grow into kids, have tempers, get sick, and one day you will be put in the exact same situation. History does repeat. Be prepared very prepared!!

Answer 5

Ok, let's deal with the first issue--jail. "Can you go to jail"--Depends. Yea, it depends on the laws of your state. In some states, depending on how the Age of Consent Laws, it is possible for BOTH minors to be charged with statutory rape. You might want to do some digging if you are worried.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Statutory_rape

Now, as for the other thing, it is good you have told both parents and are getting ready for things. But you also are going to have to prepare yourself for some of the most difficult times you've had up to date. You two will fight. You will argue. You will disagree, and you may even want to leave her (don't). You are going to be dealing with sleep deprivation the likes of which you've never experienced (and the side-effects of which will really push you to the edge). You are also going to be dealing with some serious financial and emotional issues, along with some educational ones (please god finish school).

One of the keys to getting through all of this is communication with your girlfriend. I mean really deep, thoughful and forward thinking communication. How are you going to manage this (dr. appt in the middle of the day while at school). How are you going to manage that (paying rent and buying formula and diapers and this and that). How will you deal with a sick baby when both of you are work? You are really going to have to sit down and plan out a lot of things that most 17-year-olds really aren't thinking about. You're going to say goodbye to some things like video games, crusing with your friends, going to parties, seeing movies for at least the near future.

Talking through alot of these things now is one of the best things you can do before the baby arrives, because after that--it is a rollercoaster you cannot get off. A fun ride, but with ups and downs...

Answer 6

Congratulations, Dad! And just in time for Father's Day! I wonder who will remember to send you a card?

With only two years between you and both of your families on board, I don't think anyone would think society would be served by putting you in jail.

Finish school, both of you! Absolutely. Take parenting classes, both of you. Usually the Y offers them or Adult Ed. Remember that the baby comes first always, and that babies don't need things as much as they need continuous love and attention, besides food, clothing and medical care, of course.

Best wishes, I hope it all works out for a long and happy, healthy life for all of you.

Answer 7

Being a dad is the greatest joy there is and a big task to take on but if your half the young man you sound like you will do fine. I encourage you to raise this child in a christian enviroment and to teach the child properly so this child don't repeat some mistakes we made when we were their age. By that teach your child to respect others and to treat others as they themselves want to be treated. Encourage your child to do his or her best at all they take on and love your child unconditionally. Spend time with your child and let them know daily that you love them. Take him or her to church and raise them in that atmosphere as well. God will help you if you allow him. I wish you the best and God Bless you and your babies mother and I hope all turns out well.

Answer 8

I believe that you would only go to jail if one of you were 18yrs old or older but you may have to register as a sexual predator if her parents press charges. That being said, Congratualations! Start purchasing diapers now because babies go through those things like crazy!

Answer 9

Ok its time for you to be a father. That means time to cool it on all the drinking and spending soo much time with your friends. Go out there and get youself a decent job. And be the best person you can be for your lady and your new kid

Answer 10

good lord! all u retarded teenagers out there are forgetting the holy law! remember this baby is a gift from God. support it and love it im sure you'll do that! best of luck