I've been working with this girl for about 6 weeks. She is 23 and I'm 20. She is beautiful! Everyday I drive to work I say to myself I'm going to ask her to be my girl today, but when I get around her I freeze up. I start talking about the weirdest stuff, like what time she gets off and what is she doing this weekend. She is kinda intimidating because she is 23 and I'm 20. She seems interested in me. I make her laugh and she told me over the phone that she likes me alot. I guess another reason I freeze up is because she is always around her co-workers. We never get one on one time. And one day she told my best friend that I was Scary! I'm not shy nor scary, she's just so beautiful, I never had anyone like her before! Please help me out? What would you say? What should I say? How should I come at her?
2007-03-23 08:22:16 · 10 answers · asked by sqadup661 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sorry to say that 23 year old women don't date 20 year old men unless they have SERIOUS 'game'. The most important thing in dating is to NOT treat women like they are movie stars. When i was your age, i was intimidated also...in some people, thats natural.
It seems to me that you are not sure who YOU are at this point and want this girl to make you 'complete'. You need to ignore her and live your life at this point. She thinks you are scary because you don't have game.
Remember this.....the man that a girl dates has to be impressive. Girls are SO about talking to their girlfriends about their boyfriends....you have to become the man that's impressive so when your girl talks to her friends about you, she's saying, "wow, he's the man".
She can't be saying, "i don't know whats up with him, i can't figure him out, he's intimidated and shy and lacks confidence..."
20 is really young, you have your whole life ahead of you. There will be plenty of girls who come along, don't sweat it or put pressure on yourself. Society heaps an incredible amount of pressure on young people in the dating world, so don't let that pressure get to you.
Girls are attracted to men who are confident. Even if you have no idea what you want to be when you grow up or what direction you want your life to go, girls can sense a confident man and a wishy washy man.
Be confident, thats HUGE in attracting women. Girls have to feel that you can protect them physically from harm. If you come across as a 98 lb weakling, thats not going to get too many girls to look your way.
Life your life, move confidently in the direction of your dreams and don't worry about getting a girl to like you or want you...that will come in time when you work on your confidence.
2007-03-23 09:30:15 · answer #1 · answered by Wall St Kid 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey man so sweet love, in my eyes. I wish & hope you get settled soon. Well, first of all ask yourself do you like her only because she is good hot looking, so she is of good kind nature & can handle you & the family. Never love a female or a male only because she/he has a se*xy look or money.
Forget about the age factor, as love never sees age.Love can take place anytime, anywhere & with anyone. If you feel you cannot talk to her face to face, then you drop her an eamil or a SMS or just send nice beautiful roses with a card, asking her for a dinner & telling her that you like her a lot & want to get settled with her, do this at the earliest or someone else will do it & you will have only sorrows. Last you can do is, call up her when you reach home & express your feelings.
That is all I've, best of luck.
2007-03-23 08:31:38 · answer #2 · answered by Jairam K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this girl is 23, but remember there are no age limits in love.
Just try not to stutter and run out of things to say when u talk to her. Try to pull her away from the co- workers and tell her then. Say, the first time i saw u and saw ur eyes twinkle, i knew u were ma angel sent from above. U r so beautiful and so perfect. I kno there is nuthin perfect in dis world but u r. Ur so sweet, smart, awesome,pretty. I really love u and i reali wanna b with u. Please give me a chance.
2007-03-23 08:38:19 · answer #3 · answered by ohitsyou(= 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ask her to be your girlfriend. That's sooooo high school. Instead invite her out to dinner. Take her to a movie. Show her a good time and share with her what kind of a person you are. After 3-4 dates you'll know if a commitment is what she wants. And THEN you can ask her to be exclusive. But you gotta let her test drive before she makes a deal!
2007-03-23 08:34:22 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't just jump up and ask her . . flirt first. Does she flirt back? How often do you talk on the phone? Advance slowly, and with open eyes and open ears. Scary . . yep, you may have come off as too strong. Play it casual, and flirt little by little until you and her are on the same level with feelings. THENNN you ask her out.
2007-03-23 08:34:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all... BREATHE! i know you like her a lot, but if you want to be with her you need to be yourself. don't think about what you are going to say to her, just do it! and if you dislike the fact that she is with her coworkers, maybe ask to talk to her alone or pull her away from them. simply ask her if she would like to go to dinner with you, then move on from there. girls have a way of telling when a guy is nervous, so i wouldn't worry too much because she will understand.
2007-03-23 08:30:08 · answer #6 · answered by Jaded 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oops! Ok pal, you've already blown it. Whatever you did to creep her out is over and done. To keep from getting charged with sexual harrasment, or just plain getting laughed at, keep your fantasies to yourself and start looking for someone your own age.
2007-03-23 08:28:43 · answer #7 · answered by revolvur2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start by asking her out - maybe lunch or a dinner. Then worry about her being your girl.
2007-03-23 08:26:19 · answer #8 · answered by Gatekeeper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ASK hEr tO lUCh oR diNNer oR on the weEk enD to g0 oUt tHEn at The PLaCe asK her oUt as a GF
2007-03-23 08:28:16 · answer #9 · answered by chilingurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do it ... Take her to lunch and do it...............................
2007-03-23 08:30:37 · answer #10 · answered by MJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋