i feel so unwanted?

Question

everyone got invited to a friends party today exept me, my parents keep promising me things like we'll go to this place i really want to go to because we moved from there and i miss them like crazy, but its been almost 3 years and it hasnt happened yet, my father lost my trust when he cheated on my mom,and my friends dont make any attempt to go out of their way for me but i try my best for them Is there something with me? I just wanna die!!!

Answer 1

It's time to stop being so giving to other people, and start concentration on yourself. What your parents, and friends do is totally out of you control. What is in your control is what you do for yourself. So save up and treat yourself to something nice, or do something that you enjoy doing on your own!

Answer 2

Amanda,

I don't have all the answers you are looking for.

Growing up is tough. Moving is tough. Your parents relationship is tough on you. I know a little of what you are going through.

1) The pain you are feeling now will not go on forever.
2) You have no control over your parents actions. It's not your fault they are having problems. They are adults. Unfortunatly you have to live with their desicions. Desicion to cheat, desicion to move.
3) You cannot change the weather, you can only change how you feel about it.

I've been to 12 different schools. Moved on an average every 12 months. Had to make new freinds every year. It was tough, but now I am able to make friends anywhere. I turned that negative into a positive.

My mother & father split up when I was 3. I can't tell you if it is more difficult to deal with it at 3 or 13. I can only remember falling asleep crying... And that went on for many years.

One thing that helped me get through it... There are kids out there who had it worse than I did.

Kids whose mom slept with the next guy that came along. Kids whose dad was an alcoholic. Kids who had physical & mental handicaps.

As sorry as I felt for myself, I knew someone personally who had it worse.

Now, what are you going to do about you?

1) Do not place your value on what others think of you.
2) You will always be your best (or worse) friend. If you cannot find happiness spending time with yourself, how will you find it with someone else?
3) Don't hold it all in. I know it's hard to talk to a parent sometimes. I hope you have a trusted family member or adult or friend that you can talk to. If not, this forum is at least passable for expressing your feelings and possibly getting some valuable feedback.

I used to think I was in the most horrible place. I could not see life getting any better. Trust me, it will.

Good luck.

A~

Answer 3

Sometimes going out of your way for people and playing the nice guy gets you nowhere, for some reason ppl think they can walk all over u. Practice some self confidence and individuality and im sure youre friends will come around. Explain to your parents how you feel. Even tell them about ur situation w/ your friends... maybe they'll consider letter you throw a get-together to help you out a bit. GoodLuck*

Answer 4

Life is difficult, its normal for people to feel unwanted...its part of the whole feeling like s#!+ time....i'm sure there are many people out there who at least once in their life felt like they didn't belong anywhere and felt like dying...look all you have to do is be strong...i know this sounds cliche...but you gotta show ur friends that nothing that they do to you can bring you down and that you don't need them to be happy...you probably don't know it yet but there are people out there who really care about you, try finding them before you think about dying...Life has to get better at some point right? Someday you'll meet people who are true friends to you, plus it sounds like you're still in your teens....those kids from school are immature, they're all stuck in the whole highschool drama thing....remember, kids can be cruel but dont let them bring you down....dont depend on others

Answer 5

Oh sweetie... I feel for you. I felt like that when I was in HS. I felt like dying too. Its a phase, it does get better. People grow up and there is a whole great big world out there waiting for you. Consintrate on school and getting out and doing well for yourself. YOU will do great things if you put yourself in it. I'm 27 now, I have a great 3 year old daughter and a great job in nursing. You can do it! Good luck hunny!

Answer 6

First of all please dont feel like you want to die I care about you and so does Jesus. Everyone has a purpose in life and what we do with that purpose is our choice. I would be upset to if my dad cheated on my mom which he never did but if Jesus can forgive your dad then you need to learn how to deal with it. Start doing things for other people and realize that there are people hurting more then you are

Answer 7

To be plain honest, you don't seem to be a confident, high self-esteemed, and with strong personality type of girls. You don't show people that you are determined to get what you want, and you don't care (or maybe you do, but very little) about getting the things you want so you give up easily.

You would be the type of friends that have to be shaken till they wake up and change themselves to become better persons for themselves.

Answer 8

you are not unwanted.i don't think anyone could ever be truely unwanted.sometimes kids can be cruel.maybe that's why you wasn't invited to that party.and being a parent myself sometimes you have to break promises even if you don't want to.things come upand you just can't get away

Answer 9

i guess i feel the same way a lot of times.
i cant tell you one of these days you'll find a friend, because i actually have, a couple of times, and then they ended, rather abruptly, because of me.
so i guess i cant say ive experienced the resolution to this problem, but i do know what you mean.

Answer 10

Go find some new friends and maybe check out a group at Church. Good luck!