Just found out i'm 5 weeks pregnant!.... How long should i wait to tell people??

Question

Really excited, did the 1st test last wk, now 5 wks gone but struggling to keep it secret already!.... Had a miscarriage in October so don't really want to tell anyone but finding it hard to think of reasons why I don't want to go drinking with friends and hard not to show how tired i am at work, want to know how you coped?? Thanks. xxxxxxx

Answer 1

I'd wait until you are at least 8 weeks, and have your first sonogram where you are able to hear the hearbeat. Your chance of miscarriage goes down at that point and then even more at 13 weeks. Congratulations.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

First of all, if you did the test last week and 5 weeks gone, how many weeks is that? If you went 5 weeks knowing you are pregnant and did not tell anyone well you are in average 8 weeks pregnant. It starts on the very first day of your last period. You should call your doctor, he will see you even though you are only 5 weeks, they did for me. Start taking you prenatal vitamins and invite your close friends and familly over, after your doctors appointment, for a small cathering and find an original way of telling them. Play the game where each will write a situation on a piece of paper, put all in a bowl and one after the other will pick one put it on their forehead and will have to ask question about what it is. with all the others saying only yes or no. For yours, you will write your name ____________is pregnant. So when someone picks it, everybody will get the message. Or have a cake made with your expecting due date. I'm sure they will all be happy for you. I kinda know what it's like because when I found out I was pregnant, I didn't know how to tell because my sister in law had gone through a miscarriage about September and still trying to deal with it, so I felt really bad for her. Anyway good luck.

Answer 4

I told my mum as soon as I knew and my husband and my mum probably told the rest of my family! I have had two children and unlike you have never experienced the pain of miscarriage, so I can understand your reluctance to tell anyone. If there is anyone really close to you them maybe you could tell them to relieve the secret a bit.

Remember just because you had a miscarriage last time doesn't automatically mean the same will happen this time. Only you can decide what to do but the less stress you feel can only be a good thing for a growing baby.

I wish you 100% good luck for the months ahead.

Answer 5

Hi there!
Congratulations!
I had a miscarriage too, in my 1st pregnancy. When I fell pregnant the 2nd time I told everybody straight away. I felt like there was no reason not to. Pregnancy is hard enough without keeping it to yourself. Shout it from the rooftops, and if god forbid the worst does happen, you'll have a strong network of people to get you through it.
I'm sure though in 9 months time you'll be cuddling a gorgeous bundle, just like I was.
Really hope this helps x

Answer 6

I couldn`t wait more than a week! I have a friend who waited until she was 12 weeks, how I don`t know!

If you really don`t want to tell anybody just yet tell them you`ve got a bug and feel a bit run down and that`s why you`re tired and if they`re wondering why you`re not drinking say you`re on a detox/diet/saving money/wondering how long you can go without a drink!!!

Good luck sweetie, have fun x

Answer 7

Well i would say that you should wait a little bit longer before telling the whole world. At least until you've been to the doc and get a clean bill of health. But i don't see the harm of telling some of your good friends or close family. Its an exciting thing, so why keep it 100% quiet. If they are truely your friends they will be there to support you and be ok with the fact that you want no one else to know.

Answer 8

Well alot of women wait until the 2nd trimester but even that doesn't gurantee a term pregnancy.. If you want to tell then just tell... Of course if you haven't been to the Dr. yet I would do that first just to make sure all is well and then tell, tell, tell,!!! I couldn't keep it a secret at all so I told immediatley as soon as I found out... If you keep making up silly excuses your friends will suspect something anyway so just tell them you don't have to tell everyone but after you have told a couple of people you will feel a lot better

Answer 9

I started telling people right of the bat, but then realized when my friend had a miscarriage sometimes too soon isn't too great! They say the once you get past the 1st trimester the chances of a miscarriage are ALOT less so most people wait till then. But you might need to tell people if your work load needs to change or if you get morning sickness and plans need to change....whatever you feel is appropriate! Congrats!!

Answer 10

most people say wait until 12weeks when the risk of miscarriage drops significantly. But it's fine to tell those who are near and dear earlier because they will be your support system anyhow through good and bad. I kept mine a secret for 12weeks ... I wanted to announce for christmas as a surprise and it all worked out so well. I'm now 25weeks and everyone is eagerly awaiting the arrival of my little boy. Good luck and congratulations :)

Answer 11

I just miscarried in November. Now, I'm pregnant again. 8 weeks. I'm not telling anyone but, my mom, dad, and best friends. They will be the ones I talk to if something bad happens. The general rule is 3 months. But, when I miscarried last time I was 13 1/2 weeks. (baby stopped growing at 7 weeks).

But, to give you something to look forward to, I would ask you dr for an ultrasound. You'll get a chance to see the baby and see the heartbeat. Once you see the heartbeat your risk for miscarriage goes way down. That should help you feel more confident in this pregnancy. I asked for one, and it was amazing. I left crying. I hope you get that opportunity and I hope all is well for you this time around. Good luck!