We have been together there is no one else except two children aged 4& 6
He works long hours 6 days per week and I work week end nights
Any ideas
Kids are a bit of a hand ful so dont like asking people to baby sit too often
2007-03-23 08:11:06 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you guys should work out a date night a week, which ever day works for you, i mean a date night when you can spent time together, but make it a commitment to have a date night a week!!!
2007-03-23 08:18:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The best thing to do is PLAN one night a month just for the two of you."Date Night". Ask a relative to watch the kids. Every couple goes through down times. You just have to recognise and correct the problem before you and your husband grow too far apart. Text messages throughout the day is a nice way to let your honey know you are thinking about them. Marriages evolve over the years. I know it's hard to go from MOMMY to sex kitten at the blink of an eye. Taking a little time out to remember what attracted you and your husband and taking time to enjoy each other really helps
2007-03-24 06:40:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let someone watch the kids you can trust. The spice is in the element of surprise. After the kids are at a babysitters house. Take a day for yourself. Doing whatever you want with out the strains of everyday life. Something you enjoy. Get your hair done, and your nails. Make your self look good. Most mothers tend to be tired and let themselves go. Order a good meal to go or cook one if you prefer. Wait on your hubby to get home. Don't tell him your taking the day off. And he will come home to you looking beautiful with a good meal. Then run him a bath and join him. Don't forget the candles and the bubble bath. A little gift would be nice to to show him how much you love him. He will appreciate all this attention and will reciprocate. Good luck.
2007-03-23 08:32:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pay for a babysitter and go out to a local motel. You can find things discretely online instead of visiting a "sex store". A good book I would recommend is the joy of sex. It has alot of good ideas! Also spend a few minutes each day just talking to each other. Sit on the couch and cuddle and listen to each other. Or even sit at the kitchen table and just focus on each other for 10-15 minutes out of your day. Eventually the kids will be grown and gone and you will be with him all the time. It is best to work on your relationship and have one now then to get 15-20 yrs down the road and think "WHO ARE YOU???" Your marriage is important to your kids as well as to you. So taking a little time to focus on that is not going to hurt them. Other times just relaxing and not saying anything just sitting and holding hands. One more thing... working 6 days a week can Not be healthy No bill is worth it. Those bills aren't going anywhere and will be there whe n you get the money... But this is all my opinion and what has worked for us....
2007-03-23 08:36:27 · answer #4 · answered by Simple Life? HAHA 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
everyone else has good answers. i'll give u the medial answer. love is a chemical response in the body. a bonafide, chemical response. like when u eat chocolate it makes u 'feel romantic' ? its actually true. chocolate has caffiene and "theobromide" (I SWEAR THIS IS TRUE, SOUNDS LIKE I MADE IT UP lol! ) but caffien is a xanthine diuretic, and theobromide was discovered by the greeks some thousand years ago and actually means "nectar of the gods" ( its true, really!!)
anyways, to 'feel in love' or to fall back in love, do things that are acts of love. your body will produce and secrete more of those chemicals and hormones (YES, NO MATTER WHAT YOUR AGE), and u will 'feel love'
being romantic, makes u feel romantic and more in love. really look at those (sorry if this is your age range!) but like old old couples like 80s 90s that are at the park together holding hands and holding each other (sooo cute, i hope to be like that when i get that age). they are 'doing romatic stuff' they are commiting acts of love, which absolutely make u feel love again.
if u just talkin about sex..... sorry i missed the concept lol.
bring some lingere into the bedroom or try something different. c'mon u can do it...be creative!
2007-03-23 08:27:19 · answer #5 · answered by firemedic311 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
find a babysitter. then do something you did when you first meet that made you fall in love. go old fashion, do dinner and a movie. then maybe take a walk if your neighborhood is safe. talk, tell him how much you miss him and wish you had more time to spend with him. then come home, kids are sleep. get some candle, wine, and talk a little, just enjoy each others company, lay under the covers naked.
2007-03-23 08:20:27 · answer #6 · answered by soto_a81 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well i would put the children to bed then i would go and make a nice hot bath and then invite him to join you in the tub and just relax and spend some time with each other maby play around a Little then tack to the bed room and see were things will go.
2007-03-23 08:48:12 · answer #7 · answered by helpless 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Start by spending some more time together and talking. Have some fun, talk about things you both like and laugh. The rest should come along. Oh and don't try too hard or it will get worse. Take it from someone who knows..
2007-03-23 08:16:41 · answer #8 · answered by SK 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take a weekday night after the kids go to sleep and have wild monkey sex. Make a date one week in advance and then look forward to it till that day comes.
2007-03-23 08:15:37 · answer #9 · answered by Devdude 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take a day or two off of work and send the kids to visit their grandparents!
Both of you will enjoy the piece, plus it will give you time to visit a sex store, which will have lots of fun things for the two of you to enjoy when you get home!
2007-03-23 08:15:22 · answer #10 · answered by Super Babe 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋